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Top 6 Skills Worth Investing In Your Life & Career

Top 6 Skills Worth Investing In Your Life & Career

Do you know enough skills? There are thousands of skills that you can develop in your lifetime, and the more you develop, the better quality of life you can lead. With that said, some skills are more valuable than others, and in this article we’re going to narrow down the top 7 skills worth investing in your life and career.

1. Personal finance

If you can’t take care of your personal finance, everything else you want to achieve can fall apart, because you don’t have the basic needs met. Developing the skill to manage your own budget, expenses, and savings is what will allow you to take care of your family, pay your bills, and invest in the resources that will keep you expanding.

Money isn’t the only thing that will make you happy in life but it’s the base layer that will act as a supporting pillar to the things you want to achieve in your life.

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To get started, check out Mint.com to mange your budget and savings, Investopedia University to learn about basis finance terminology and concepts, and personal finance books like I Will Teach You To Be Rich or Wealthy Barber.

 
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    2. Health

    Taking care of your physical health is becoming more mainstream today, but taking care of your mental health is another. For many people, health is a second or third priority in their lives, when it should be the number one. Making sure your mind and body are at the top of their game is not only going to help you enjoy the success you achieve, but it’s what will accelerate your success.

    Health is what gives you energy and the focus to think clearly and push through the inevitable tough times that will come your way. You can get started by booking a membership at your local gym to work on your physical body, and check out apps like Headspace, which will help guide you to establish a meditation habit to take care of your mind.

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      3. Mentorship

      A mentor can change the direction and trajectory of your life and career in a heartbeat. Finding the people that have already been where you want to go is invaluable, and I have personally travelled across the country to have face to face time with the right mentors.

      Whether your goal is to build a business, land your dream job, or simply finding out in what direction you should go, investing in finding a mentor is essential. To be clear, this doesn’t have to be a personal relationship you develop with someone, as some mentors are simply too busy to work with anyone one-on-one. A mentor can be a biography of your hero, podcast show, online program, or a book that allows you to learn how they think, and the decisions they have made along their career.

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        4. Books

        This is where books are incredibly useful. If you don’t have direct access to a mentor, you can always invest in books and find yourself having several mentors that you can access on-demand. Books are much more valuable than articles you’ll find online, because most people spend years researching, writing, and editing their books, and there’s just much more thought that goes into the material. It’s one of the biggest return on investments you can have on $10-15.

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        There are great platforms like Scribd, which is Netlix for books, where you can access an unlimited number of books for as little as $8.99 per month. Last time I checked, they have hundreds of thousands of books in their content library, and even if you’re reading one book a month, it’s worth the membership cost.

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          5. Language learning

          With the rising globalization, we’re entering a multicultural and multilingual world. Everything from the media, business, economy, and entertainment is being distributed all around the world, and knowing how to speak just one or two languages is not enough.

          Whenever we do anything, whether it’s starting a business, looking for jobs, or even where to live, we should always be taking a global approach instead of limiting ourselves to our local city. The easiest way to expand your growth and thinking is to learn a new language, because there are additional benefits that come with language learning, including cultural knowledge, cognitive improvements, and communication skills.

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          The biggest reason why most people never learn a language is lack of time. Check out language learning websites like Rype, which is specifically built for busy professionals. It offers unlimited private language lessons online (Spanish right now), that allows you to learn at any time of the day, and any day of the week for as little as 30 minutes per session.

          Or if you want to dip your feet into the pool, Duolingo is a good option to start off with. Whichever option you choose, make sure to use solutions that accommodate your busy schedule, rather than interrupting it.

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            6. Life or Business Coach

            A coach is different from a mentor in several ways. Most mentors won’t have the time to dedicate to helping you achieve your goals, because they have their own business, career, and life to take care of. Whereas a coach is normally paid to give 100% of their attention to helping you achieve your goals.

            Another benefit to having a coach is that they’re able to give you an outside perspective, without bias, and discover blindspots that are often very difficult to see when you’re working in the trenches. Hiring a coach for your life or career is no different than a corporation spending a million dollars to hire an outside consultant that will help make them 5 million dollars. The amount you invest in a great coach will give you a return that will pay you back in multiple folds.

            Coaching is not limited to life or career, but it can also be for growing your business, improving your health & fitness, or even learning a new language.

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              10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

              10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

              Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

              Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

              Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

              So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

              1. Be Authentic

              To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

              Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

              Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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              2. Listen

              Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

              To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

              Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

              Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

              3. Become an Expert

              Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

              You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

              4. Lead with Story

              From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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              If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

              5. Lead by Example

              It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

              ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

              We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

              6. Catch People Doing Good

              A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

              Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

              7. Be Effusive with Praise

              It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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              Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

              8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

              I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

              The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

              If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

              9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

              The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

              The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

              If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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              10. Understand Your Lane

              If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

              Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

              You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

              Final Thoughts

              Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

              It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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