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Top 6 Skills Worth Investing In Your Life & Career

Top 6 Skills Worth Investing In Your Life & Career

Do you know enough skills? There are thousands of skills that you can develop in your lifetime, and the more you develop, the better quality of life you can lead. With that said, some skills are more valuable than others, and in this article we’re going to narrow down the top 7 skills worth investing in your life and career.

1. Personal finance

If you can’t take care of your personal finance, everything else you want to achieve can fall apart, because you don’t have the basic needs met. Developing the skill to manage your own budget, expenses, and savings is what will allow you to take care of your family, pay your bills, and invest in the resources that will keep you expanding.

Money isn’t the only thing that will make you happy in life but it’s the base layer that will act as a supporting pillar to the things you want to achieve in your life.

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To get started, check out Mint.com to mange your budget and savings, Investopedia University to learn about basis finance terminology and concepts, and personal finance books like I Will Teach You To Be Rich or Wealthy Barber.

 
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    2. Health

    Taking care of your physical health is becoming more mainstream today, but taking care of your mental health is another. For many people, health is a second or third priority in their lives, when it should be the number one. Making sure your mind and body are at the top of their game is not only going to help you enjoy the success you achieve, but it’s what will accelerate your success.

    Health is what gives you energy and the focus to think clearly and push through the inevitable tough times that will come your way. You can get started by booking a membership at your local gym to work on your physical body, and check out apps like Headspace, which will help guide you to establish a meditation habit to take care of your mind.

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      3. Mentorship

      A mentor can change the direction and trajectory of your life and career in a heartbeat. Finding the people that have already been where you want to go is invaluable, and I have personally travelled across the country to have face to face time with the right mentors.

      Whether your goal is to build a business, land your dream job, or simply finding out in what direction you should go, investing in finding a mentor is essential. To be clear, this doesn’t have to be a personal relationship you develop with someone, as some mentors are simply too busy to work with anyone one-on-one. A mentor can be a biography of your hero, podcast show, online program, or a book that allows you to learn how they think, and the decisions they have made along their career.

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        4. Books

        This is where books are incredibly useful. If you don’t have direct access to a mentor, you can always invest in books and find yourself having several mentors that you can access on-demand. Books are much more valuable than articles you’ll find online, because most people spend years researching, writing, and editing their books, and there’s just much more thought that goes into the material. It’s one of the biggest return on investments you can have on $10-15.

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        There are great platforms like Scribd, which is Netlix for books, where you can access an unlimited number of books for as little as $8.99 per month. Last time I checked, they have hundreds of thousands of books in their content library, and even if you’re reading one book a month, it’s worth the membership cost.

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          5. Language learning

          With the rising globalization, we’re entering a multicultural and multilingual world. Everything from the media, business, economy, and entertainment is being distributed all around the world, and knowing how to speak just one or two languages is not enough.

          Whenever we do anything, whether it’s starting a business, looking for jobs, or even where to live, we should always be taking a global approach instead of limiting ourselves to our local city. The easiest way to expand your growth and thinking is to learn a new language, because there are additional benefits that come with language learning, including cultural knowledge, cognitive improvements, and communication skills.

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          The biggest reason why most people never learn a language is lack of time. Check out language learning websites like Rype, which is specifically built for busy professionals. It offers unlimited private language lessons online (Spanish right now), that allows you to learn at any time of the day, and any day of the week for as little as 30 minutes per session.

          Or if you want to dip your feet into the pool, Duolingo is a good option to start off with. Whichever option you choose, make sure to use solutions that accommodate your busy schedule, rather than interrupting it.

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            6. Life or Business Coach

            A coach is different from a mentor in several ways. Most mentors won’t have the time to dedicate to helping you achieve your goals, because they have their own business, career, and life to take care of. Whereas a coach is normally paid to give 100% of their attention to helping you achieve your goals.

            Another benefit to having a coach is that they’re able to give you an outside perspective, without bias, and discover blindspots that are often very difficult to see when you’re working in the trenches. Hiring a coach for your life or career is no different than a corporation spending a million dollars to hire an outside consultant that will help make them 5 million dollars. The amount you invest in a great coach will give you a return that will pay you back in multiple folds.

            Coaching is not limited to life or career, but it can also be for growing your business, improving your health & fitness, or even learning a new language.

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              Published on May 4, 2021

              How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

              How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

              They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

              In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

              How to Spot Fake People?

              When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

              Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

              1. Full of Themselves

              Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

              Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

              2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

              Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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              It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

              3. Zero Self-Reflection

              To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

              Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

              4. Unrealistic Perceptions

              Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

              A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

              5. Love Attention

              As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

              6. People Pleaser

              Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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              Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

              7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

              Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

              8. Crappy friend

              Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

              It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

              The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

              How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

              It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

              There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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              1. Boundaries

              Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

              2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

              Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

              3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

              If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

              4. Ask for Advice

              If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

              Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

              5. Dig Deeper

              Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

              Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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              6. Practice Self-Care!

              Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

              Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

              Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

              Final Thoughts

              Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

              We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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