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5 Practical Tips For Planning Your Destination Wedding In Mexico

5 Practical Tips For Planning Your Destination Wedding In Mexico

I am not at all surprised that you have chosen to get married in Mexico. After all, it’s one of the top wedding destinations on the planet. There are plenty friendly people who speak English plus fabulous coastlines on the Caribbean Sea and the Pacific Ocean, with stunning beaches stretching 6,000 miles. The weather in Mexico is usually more than pleasant – Cancun has an average temperature of 82°F (28° C). You are spoilt for choice when you consider places like Los Cabos, Puerto Vallarta, and Acapulco. They are all prime destinations for getting married in Mexico.

The place is right but how on earth do you start planning it all? You want this occasion to be the most memorable one of your life. Your guests should leave with happy memories of a wonderful celebration in a gorgeous location. Here are 5 practical tips for planning this special event.

1. Wedding planner pros and cons

Many of the hotels at destination weddings venues already have a wedding planner or coordinator as part of the package. There are many advantages to this. You can leave lots of the nitty gritty details to them and they know the vendors and often can get great discounts. They have all the details about catering, photographers, florists, and also the hirers of any equipment that may be needed for the entertainment. They also know about things that you may just have forgotten to plan. You will be saved from all the hassle of invoices, contracts, and bank payments while enjoying the real anticipation and excitement of the event.

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There are a few cons to also consider. There is the extra cost, of course, and you may have a limited budget. Wedding planners can cost anywhere from $3,000 to $10,000. You may feel a little detached from the whole thing as this is the happiest day in your life. You will also feel less in control.

As you are going to get married in Mexico, a wedding planning service offered by the hotel or another agency is the best option. It means that you will not have to deal with troublesome details, especially as you don’t live in Mexico!

2. Travel arrangements

The best thing to do is to plan a week or weekend away as a romantic break at your destination wedding venue several months before the event.

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Whether you have a wedding planner or not, this is a great way to taste the food and wines or ask for different table settings. You will get a real feel for the hotel, the atmosphere, and the staff. If you are doing everything yourself, you will have to write a to-do list with appointments to see all the vendors and hirers.

Once the date is set, you need to give your guests plenty of time to book flights and take advantage of any discounts at the hotel of your choice. I know some wedding planners who recommend that you give people a minimum notice of four months. Google now have launched a great app called Destinations on Google to help you find flights — all with a tap and slide on your smartphone.

3. Legal questions to consider

Just in case you didn’t know, religious wedding ceremonies in Mexico are not considered valid for legal purposes. You have to go the civil route. Another possibility is to organize a simple registry office or religious wedding in your own country so that there are no legal hassles. Then you can all go off to Mexico for the big bash and have a symbolic ceremony there.

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There is no legal requirement to be resident in Mexico before you marry there, but arriving a few days before the event to make sure all the documents are in order is wise. You do not need a special visa either to get married – a simple tourist visa is sufficient.

The other great advantage Mexico has is that there is no legal requirement to be resident in the country before the event. There is also good news in that according to the British Embassy website in Mexico, your marriage will be recognized in the UK and does not need to be registered when you are back home. In regard to US citizens, a civil wedding in Mexico is fully valid for legal purposes.

4. Getting the documents you will need

If you still want the actual ceremony in Mexico to be legal and you are a UK citizen, then you need to know that certain documents are needed to make your marriage perfectly legal. Make sure to ask the wedding planner if they have all these covered. These will include your birth certificates and a death certificate of an ex-spouse or divorce decree, if applicable. Divorcees should note that you have to wait at least a year before re-marrying in Mexico.

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It will probably be your job to get all of these documents before you leave. If you are in doubt, you can check out the UK Foreign Office legalization website.

Don’t forget that you will need to have 4 witnesses at your official ceremony, so make sure that all their passports are valid.

5. Health requirements

The only requirement on the health front is that the authorities need blood tests results (for HIV, syphilis, and blood type) in Spanish before the ceremony takes place. There is no point in bringing your own blood test analysis from the UK or USA as these will not be accepted. You can arrange for these to be done in your hotel, so it’s not a big deal. It may cost up to $250. Some Mexican states also require chest x-rays.

Now that you have read what exactly is involved in getting married in Mexico, you can decide what is the best way to plan it all. Rest assured that it will be an unforgettable experience!

Featured photo credit: Carlos Mendoza Lima/Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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