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Traditional British Wedding Etiquette And Reception Guidelines You Need To Know

Traditional British Wedding Etiquette And Reception Guidelines You Need To Know

It is widely known that cultural customs vary by country, but something that might not be considered are the etiquette and customs that differ with weddings. These customs and etiquette can span all the way from the engagement to the wedding reception. Keep these things in mind when planning to attend or be part of a traditional British wedding.

Who Gets Invited

Generally, the bride and her parents will put together the list of who to invite, including close family and friends. If choosing to not invite children, only the names of the adult guests will be on the invitation, and on a separate card it is explained that there is a seating plan that cannot accommodate children. If funds allow, a separate area of the facility may be arranged for the children.

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Who Pays for What

Traditionally, the bride’s family would pay for the wedding because it was seen that the family would be gaining a son from the marriage. In more recent times, the cost of having a wedding has skyrocketed, so it is near impossible for just one family to pay for the entire thing. Though the affluence of each family will play a part in who pays for what, this is how the wedding parts are generally divided out following typical British wedding traditions.

The groom (and/or his family) will pay for the engagement and wedding ring, marriage license, venue/church fees, formal wear for the attendants, flowers, gifts for attendants, transportation to and from the venue, the honeymoon, and the photographer.

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The bride and her family will pay for the wedding reception, including decorations, the bride’s dress and accessories, the bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories, stationary, announcements, the bride’s transportation to the venue, and the wedding cake.

Ceremony

As guests arrive, the ushers should hand out the correct books and flowers, while making sure that the guests are sitting on the correct side. They will escort the grandparents of the bride and groom in as well. The groomsmen will escort the bridesmaids in and the maid of honor may enter by herself or with the best man. The ring bearer and flower girl will enter, followed by the bride and her father. In some ceremonies, the bridal party will remain standing and will not take a seat during the ceremony.

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Ceremony Seating

The bride’s side is generally on the left, while the groom’s side is on the right. The first few rows of each side are reserved for the parents and close family of the bride and groom, the second row for the wedding party, and then everyone else is free to sit where they please.

Reception

Though it is fun for wedding guests to sit with their friends or family, the wedding allows for the opportunity to meet new people. One table should be for the bride and groom and their wedding party, along with any significant others.

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Speeches/Toasts

Normally, there are three people that are expected to make speeches at the wedding. In speaking order, they are the bride’s father to welcome guests and toast to health and happiness, the groom to thank his parents and guests and to acknowledge any absent family members, and the best man to make a humorous and lighthearted speech. There is nobody else that is required to make a speech, but it is not uncommon for the groom’s father, bride, or maid of honor to make one as well.

Thank You’s

This is very important. The groom will generally announce the thank you’s and will give out presents to the parents and bridesmaids. In general, a short “thank you for coming” is included in all speeches done by those listed previously.

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The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

    Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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