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An Eating Disorder Isn’t A Choice, Here’s How People Fight Through Them

An Eating Disorder Isn’t A Choice, Here’s How People Fight Through Them

Eating disorders are one of the most common medical conditions in the world today. As of 2011, recent studies estimate that around 30 million Americans have some kind of eating disorder, including anorexia nervosa, bulimia, and binge eating disorder.

Because there’s no better way to learn about something than to listen to the people who have faced that situation themselves, here’s what people recovering from eating disorders have to say.

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Other people’s comments can be hurtful, even if they are trying to be nice.

Eating Disorder Comment 8
    From comments on the Mighty’s article, “40 Things People With Eating Disorders Wish Others Understood”

    Eating disorders are controlling.

    Eating disorder comment 11
      From Quora’s “How can I help someone with an eating disorder?”

      Eating disorders are exhausting.

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      Eating disorder comment 6
        From comments on the Mighty’s article, “40 Things People With Eating Disorders Wish Others Understood”

        Eating disorders make you feel guilty.

        Suffering from an eating disorder is like being a prisoner and recovery made me discover the world afresh
          From Quora’s “What is it like to recover from an eating disorder?”

           Eating disorders are deeply isolating.

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          Eating Disorder comment 5
            From Quora’s “How do eating disorders affect relationships?”

             Eating disorders are not all the same.

            Eating Disorder Comment 4
              From comments on the Mighty’s article, “40 Things People With Eating Disorders Wish Others Understood”

               Eating disorders can have both psychological and physical causes.

              Eating disorder comment 10

                From comments on the Mighty’s article, “40 Things People With Eating Disorders Wish Others Understood”

                 Dietary advice does not help.

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                Eating disorder comment 9
                  From comments on the Mighty’s article, “40 Things People With Eating Disorders Wish Others Understood”

                  Recovery is physically and mentally painful.

                  Eating disorder comment 2
                    From Quora’s “What is it like to recover from an eating disorder?”

                     Recovery depends not just on therapy, but on a strong support network.

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                      From Quora’s “How did you begin to overcome your eating disorder?”

                      Recovery is a long, ongoing process.

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                        From Quora’s “What is it like to recover from an eating disorder?”

                         But recovery is worth it.

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                          From Quora’s “What is it like to recover from an eating disorder?”

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                          Last Updated on February 15, 2019

                          Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

                          Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

                          In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

                          And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

                          Why is goal setting important?

                          1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

                          Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

                          For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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                          Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

                          After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

                          So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

                          2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

                          The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

                          The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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                          We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

                          What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

                          3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

                          We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

                          Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

                          But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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                          What you truly want and need

                          Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

                          Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

                          Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

                          When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

                          Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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                          Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

                          Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

                          Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

                          The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

                          It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

                          Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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