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A Letter To My Friend Who Always Speaks The Truth

A Letter To My Friend Who Always Speaks The Truth

Hey my friend who always speaks the truth,

I’m writing this because we would never talk like this. Fancy words don’t exist between us. We’re always frank to each other, and sometimes, just quite mean to each other actually. It’s a bit awkward if I sincerely say thank you to you face-to-face. No…just too strange for us…

No one is like you, who always dares to speak the truths, not worrying those would hurt me or not. Yes there were times that I felt hurt and angry, but overall, I’m still grateful to have you in my life. Because you’ve uncovered so many blind spots that are blocking my way, which other people won’t be aware of or just dare not to tell me the truths.

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I still remember when you told me he really didn’t suit me, I was crying helplessly. I still remember the time you said that I was not following my heart but just feeling too insecure. The time you told me not to act anymore, when I was indeed not feeling happy at all…The time you reminded me I was not treating myself well enough and loving myself enough…

And you’re fearless to criticize my outfit. You said my hair cut was a really bad one. The dress was way too expensive than it should be, etc. It’s uneasy to accept criticism all the time, but constructive ones do help and make us advance.

With you, I’d know who I am, that I don’t need to act. I can be the real me. Nevertheless, your wise comments would never stop popping out. These push me to step out my comfort zone and always go for something better.

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When I was extremely passionate about my new plans, you pointed out the brutal truths. When I lose hope for the world, you reminded me how large and beautiful the world can be. You’re like the balance in my life, pulling me from getting to the extremes.

Hearing so many such frank comments, I’ve become a person who speaks her mind more bravely. Not only to you, but also to myself, as well as to others (of course I’d set boundaries for different kinds of people and loved ones).

There were times that I thought you were wrong. I thought you were too subjective and not seeing the whole picture as I did. Really you are wrong sometimes, because you’re human too. While more often, I’d find what you said was full of wisdom.

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We don’t get together all the time. We have our own lives. True friends are like this. They don’t see each other often, but you’re always in their hearts. From time to time they’d call you or send you a message about something you’d be interested in. You don’t need to be very polite to each other too, because you know the other person wouldn’t mind.

Once again, let me thank you, for all the truths you told me, though they’re usually not expressed in beautiful words. Those are not polished, like you, but beautiful in itself.

Love,

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Your friend

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Last Updated on October 17, 2019

How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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1. Recognize the Signs

If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

Some telltale signs include:

  • You’re always on your phones.
  • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
  • You aren’t together during important events.
  • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
  • You don’t make plans or date nights.
  • You’re not happy.

If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

2. Try New Things Together

Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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5. Cook Meals Together

Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

6. Have a Regular Date Night

Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

  • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
  • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
  • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
  • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
  • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
  • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
  • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

Final Thoughts

The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

  • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
  • Lowers divorce rates
  • Improves communication
  • Reduces marital boredom
  • Bonds couples closer
  • Improves friendship
  • Boosts health
  • Reduces stress

These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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