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6 Tips to Successfully Make the Most of Your Day

6 Tips to Successfully Make the Most of Your Day

24 hours in a day, that is all we have, or 1440 minutes if you really want to get technical. That really isn’t a lot of time if you break down all that actually goes into making your day, however, there are plenty of ways to actually make the most out of your day, and here is the first step to take:

Step 1: Make Your Bed

I totally just added another chore to your list, but, hey, trust me on this one, making your bed actually can do a lot more good than you think. Making your bed in the morning is actually the perfect step to take when beginning your day. Fluffing those pillows, and straightening up your sheets has been proven to make people happier, and to be honest, being happy is exactly what we all need at 6:00 in the morning!

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Step 2: Your Appearance

You are beautiful the way you are, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on yourself. Try doing your hair more often than normal, painting your nails a different color than usual, or giving yourself a whole new wardrobe makeover. All of these things can really help boost your confidence and kick-start your day, the right way. Making a few small changes to your look can really go a long way for your overall confidence. Changing things up is always good as long as you are comfortable with it.

Step 3: Your Work

You are already great at what you do for a living, but what if you put a little extra work in at your day-to-day job? Going the extra mile really shows, and people will start to notice. Try and be creative with normal tasks during the day that may carry you farther. You may start to discover a new skill or talent that you didn’t even know existed. Make the little things count!

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Step 4: Your Attitude

OK, so this might be a tough one for some. Having a positive attitude. Not everyone can do this day in and day out, and I am not suggesting you fake one either. Waking up with a happy outlook on life is crucial to how you act during the day, and how others will treat you in return. If you are normally one to have a sour attitude or are generally nervous about the day, try putting on a smile and showing the world that you can take on anything!

Step 5: Planning Out Your Week

Scheduling out your week is something most people only wish they had the time for, but never really set aside a minute to do so. I recently purchased an Erin Condren day planner from her online store. I really can’t say that I have ever found a planner quite like this one. It comes with so many interesting features like sticky notes, custom appointment stickers, and much more. I really enjoy laying out my week and visualizing how the week will play out. This also gives you a good scope of what your days will feel like, and allows you to mentally prepare for anything that might come your way during that time.

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Step 6: Taking Time For Yourself

Most of us don’t always have the option of “me time”, but believe me, with 24 hours in a day, I know you can make it happen. Even if it’s for 10 or 20 minutes, make time available to collect your thoughts, read or do anything that you truly enjoy. If you can get a longer time out of the day, grab it and make the most of it! You will feel more grounded, and positive once you do this.

Finally, I leave you with this: Not every day is going to go the way you “planned” it. As much as you try to stay positive or count on the steps you’ve taken to actually have a good day, life changes and sometimes we won’t like it. But, that is not to say you can’t control how you feel during the day. Even if something doesn’t go your way, or you do something that wasn’t completely the way you wanted it, there is always tomorrow to start over again and pick yourself back up.

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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