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7 Things You Can Learn Today to Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

7 Things You Can Learn Today to Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

Confidence is in short supply in our society today.

Most of us underestimate our abilities and spend too much time caring about what other people think.

Ironically, our self-esteem tends to be at its lowest when we’ve achieved very little in a category, and also when we’ve had high achievements.

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    This tells us two things:

    1. Most of us deserve to have a higher self-esteem than what we already feel right now
    2. Self-esteem and confidence are subjective, and can be shifted by changing how we think

    Since our mindset is the key factor driving our confidence and self-esteem, let’s talk about 7 things you can learn today to build confidence.

    1. Meditation

    Meditation has been a long standing tradition in many asian countries like Japan and China, but it has recently been gaining popularity in Western countries too.

    Many high-level CEOs, business leaders, and athletes have reaped the benefits of meditation, and so should you.

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    Meditation helps us reduce our anxiety levels, increases our productivity, and even improves our memories. This clarity in our mind helps us make better decisions, feel less stress during the day, and yes — boost our confidence!

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      2. Public Speaking

      Many people have said that the fear of public speaking is bigger than the fear of death.

      The reason, according to one psychologist, comes from our ancestors.
      For millions of years, humans roamed in groups in order to fend off life-threatening risks, such as large predators and starvation. The great part about this is that it’s the underlying reason why humans are still social today.

      But it also means that anything threatening our status of being included in a group seems very risky to us. This is why we’re fascinated by great public speakers that can win over an audience, because it’s something we can’t fathom doing ourselves.

      Once you understand this human desire, you can use it to your advantage by working on your public speaking skills. A great place to start is to record videos of yourself, talking about a topic that interests you, and uploading it publicly when you’re ready. Another place we recommend is checking out your local Toastmasters meet up, where you’ll be surrounded by a supportive group of people.

      3. Growth Mindset

      Do you have a glass ceiling that’s limiting you?

      This is why Carol Dweck, bestselling author of Mindset, calls a fixed mindset. Someone with a fixed mindset seeks success as affirmation for intelligence, versus a growth mindset, which thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of unintelligence but as a catalyst for growth and stretching beyond our existing abilities.

      While an obstacle may lead to lower self-esteem or confidence for someone with a fixed mindset, it only fuels a person with a growth mindset.

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        4. Foreign Language

        Learning a new language is no trip in the park, which is why it’s so rewarding when you make progress.

        I remember when I first learned Spanish. There was a thrill of excitement and confidence that ran through my body, because I could now speak to someone that I could have never been able to before.

        Most of us are limited to only one language, which puts a ceiling on the amount of cultural experiences we can have, career opportunities, and most importantly, people we can build a relationship with.

        But the simple act of committing to learn a new language, can be a game-changer to build confidence, because we’re setting out to take on a form of communication that few around us have the ability to understand.

        That’s powerful.

        Luckily for us, we don’t need to travel to the other side of the world to immerse ourselves in a language. Websites like Rype, provide unlimited private language lessons (for Spanish) online at the comforts of your own home.

        There’s no excuse not to know another language in the multicultural world we live in.

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          5. Starting a Business

          Creating a business from scratch is like having a baby. And as the baby gets bigger, you have to now overlook other people who are taking care of the baby with you.

          These people depend on you for putting food on their family’s tables and paying their bills every single month.

          Talk about pressure, right?

          Yes, starting a business is tough. But after starting several online businesses, I can personally share that it’s one of the most fulfilling things you can do.
          When you wake up everyday with the mission to serve someone or something that’s beyond yourself, what other people think of you starts to matter less and less.

          Even if you’re starting a business as a solo entrepreneur, you have to think beyond yourself, because you have clients, customers, and users to accommodate.

          6. Selling

          We’ve all heard of this used car salesman term. Some people jump across to the other side of the room when they hear the word “selling.”

          It comes off sleazy or dirty, and when asked to do it themselves, they’re uncomfortable at the thought of it.

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          Let’s face it, all of us could use some form of sales skills. Whether it’s to win over a client, receive a promotion, or even persuade our friends to watch one movie over another.

          Most importantly, selling skills train you to look at the world from someone else’s perspective. When you’re focusing less on yourself, but rather the person sitting on the other side of the table, your self-consciousness diminishes almost immediately.

          7. Weight Lifting

          Lifting weights to build confidence is nothing new.

          You’ve probably seen inspiring videos of people losing 50lbs, and how it has transformed their lives.

          Beyond the obvious benefits, weight lifting contributes heavily to our mental health. It improves our blood circulation, which in turn increases our energy levels and overall happiness. Moreover, studies have shown that it also improves our cognitive functions, such as our attention, memory, and decision making.

          How do you build confidence?

          Have you tried all of these strategies to build confidence yet?
          If not, which will you commit to trying out in the next 30 days?

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          Last Updated on February 15, 2019

          7 Tools to Help Keep Track of Goals and Habits Effectively

          7 Tools to Help Keep Track of Goals and Habits Effectively

          Now that 2011 is well underway and most people have fallen off the bandwagon when it comes to their New Year’s resolutions (myself included), it’s a good time to step back and take an honest look at our habits and the goals that we want to achieve.

          Something that I have learned over the past few years is that if you track something, be it your eating habits, exercise, writing time, work time, etc. you become aware of the reality of the situation. This is why most diet gurus tell you to track what you eat for a week so you have an awareness of the of how you really eat before you start your diet and exercise regimen.

          Tracking daily habits and progress towards goals is another way to see reality and create a way for you clearly review what you have accomplished over a set period of time. Tracking helps motivate you too; if I can make a change in my life and do it once a day for a period of time it makes me more apt to keep doing it.

          So, if you have some goals and habits in mind that need tracked, all you need is a tracking tool. Today we’ll look at 7 different tools to help you keep track of your habits and goals.

          Joe’s Goals

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            Joe’s Goals is a web-based tool that allows users to track their habits and goals in an easy to use interface. Users can add as many goals/habits as they want and also check multiple times per day for those “extra productive days”. Something that is unique about Joe’s Goals is the way that you can keep track of negative habits such as eating out, smoking, etc. This can help you visualize the good things that you are doing as well as the negative things that you are doing in your life.

            Joe’s Goals is free with a subscription version giving you no ads and the “latest version” for $12 a year.

            Daytum

              Daytum

              is an in depth way of counting things that you do during the day and then presenting them to you in many different reports and groups. With Daytum you can add several different items to different custom categories such as work, school, home, etc. to keep track of your habits in each focus area of your life.

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              Daytum is extremely in depth and there are a ton of settings for users to tweak. There is a free version that is pretty standard, but if you want more features and unlimited items and categories you’ll need Daytum Plus which is $4 a month.

              Excel or Numbers

                If you are the spreadsheet number cruncher type and the thought of using someone else’s idea of how you should track your habits turns you off, then creating your own Excel/Numbers/Google spreadsheet is the way to go. Not only do you have pretty much limitless ways to view, enter, and manipulate your goal and habit data, but you have complete control over your stuff and can make it private.

                What’s nice about spreadsheets is you can create reports and can customize your views in any way you see fit. Also, by using Dropbox, you can keep your tracker sheets anywhere you have a connection.

                Evernote

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                  I must admit, I am an Evernote junky, mostly because this tool is so ubiquitous. There are several ways you can implement habit/goal tracking with Evernote. You won’t be able to get nifty reports and graphs and such, but you will be able to access your goal tracking anywhere your are, be it iPhone, Android, Mac, PC, or web. With Evernote you pretty much have no excuse for not entering your daily habit and goal information as it is available anywhere.

                  Evernote is free with a premium version available.

                  Access or Bento

                    If you like the idea of creating your own tracker via Excel or Numbers, you may be compelled to get even more creative with database tools like Access for Windows or Bento for Mac. These tools allow you to set up relational databases and even give you the option of setting up custom interfaces to interact with your data. Access is pretty powerful for personal database applications, and using it with other MS products, you can come up with some pretty awesome, in depth analysis and tracking of your habits and goals.

                    Bento is extremely powerful and user friendly. Also with Bento you can get the iPhone and iPad app to keep your data anywhere you go.

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                    You can check out Access and the Office Suite here and Bento here.

                    Analog Bonus: Pen and Paper

                    All these digital tools are pretty nifty and have all sorts of bells and whistles, but there are some people out there that still swear by a notebook and pen. Just like using spreadsheets or personal databases, pen and paper gives you ultimate freedom and control when it comes to your set up. It also doesn’t lock you into anyone else’s idea of just how you should track your habits.

                    Conclusion

                    I can’t necessarily recommend which tool is the best for tracking your personal habits and goals, as all of them have their quirks. What I can do however (yes, it’s a bit of a cop-out) is tell you that the tool to use is whatever works best for you. I personally keep track of my daily habits and personal goals with a combo Evernote for input and then a Google spreadsheet for long-term tracking.

                    What this all comes down to is not how or what tool you use, but finding what you are comfortable with and then getting busy with creating lasting habits and accomplishing short- and long-term goals.

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