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7 Things You Can Learn Today to Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

7 Things You Can Learn Today to Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem

Confidence is in short supply in our society today.

Most of us underestimate our abilities and spend too much time caring about what other people think.

Ironically, our self-esteem tends to be at its lowest when we’ve achieved very little in a category, and also when we’ve had high achievements.

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    This tells us two things:

    1. Most of us deserve to have a higher self-esteem than what we already feel right now
    2. Self-esteem and confidence are subjective, and can be shifted by changing how we think

    Since our mindset is the key factor driving our confidence and self-esteem, let’s talk about 7 things you can learn today to build confidence.

    1. Meditation

    Meditation has been a long standing tradition in many asian countries like Japan and China, but it has recently been gaining popularity in Western countries too.

    Many high-level CEOs, business leaders, and athletes have reaped the benefits of meditation, and so should you.

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    Meditation helps us reduce our anxiety levels, increases our productivity, and even improves our memories. This clarity in our mind helps us make better decisions, feel less stress during the day, and yes — boost our confidence!

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      2. Public Speaking

      Many people have said that the fear of public speaking is bigger than the fear of death.

      The reason, according to one psychologist, comes from our ancestors.
      For millions of years, humans roamed in groups in order to fend off life-threatening risks, such as large predators and starvation. The great part about this is that it’s the underlying reason why humans are still social today.

      But it also means that anything threatening our status of being included in a group seems very risky to us. This is why we’re fascinated by great public speakers that can win over an audience, because it’s something we can’t fathom doing ourselves.

      Once you understand this human desire, you can use it to your advantage by working on your public speaking skills. A great place to start is to record videos of yourself, talking about a topic that interests you, and uploading it publicly when you’re ready. Another place we recommend is checking out your local Toastmasters meet up, where you’ll be surrounded by a supportive group of people.

      3. Growth Mindset

      Do you have a glass ceiling that’s limiting you?

      This is why Carol Dweck, bestselling author of Mindset, calls a fixed mindset. Someone with a fixed mindset seeks success as affirmation for intelligence, versus a growth mindset, which thrives on challenge and sees failure not as evidence of unintelligence but as a catalyst for growth and stretching beyond our existing abilities.

      While an obstacle may lead to lower self-esteem or confidence for someone with a fixed mindset, it only fuels a person with a growth mindset.

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        4. Foreign Language

        Learning a new language is no trip in the park, which is why it’s so rewarding when you make progress.

        I remember when I first learned Spanish. There was a thrill of excitement and confidence that ran through my body, because I could now speak to someone that I could have never been able to before.

        Most of us are limited to only one language, which puts a ceiling on the amount of cultural experiences we can have, career opportunities, and most importantly, people we can build a relationship with.

        But the simple act of committing to learn a new language, can be a game-changer to build confidence, because we’re setting out to take on a form of communication that few around us have the ability to understand.

        That’s powerful.

        Luckily for us, we don’t need to travel to the other side of the world to immerse ourselves in a language. Websites like Rype, provide unlimited private language lessons (for Spanish) online at the comforts of your own home.

        There’s no excuse not to know another language in the multicultural world we live in.

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          5. Starting a Business

          Creating a business from scratch is like having a baby. And as the baby gets bigger, you have to now overlook other people who are taking care of the baby with you.

          These people depend on you for putting food on their family’s tables and paying their bills every single month.

          Talk about pressure, right?

          Yes, starting a business is tough. But after starting several online businesses, I can personally share that it’s one of the most fulfilling things you can do.
          When you wake up everyday with the mission to serve someone or something that’s beyond yourself, what other people think of you starts to matter less and less.

          Even if you’re starting a business as a solo entrepreneur, you have to think beyond yourself, because you have clients, customers, and users to accommodate.

          6. Selling

          We’ve all heard of this used car salesman term. Some people jump across to the other side of the room when they hear the word “selling.”

          It comes off sleazy or dirty, and when asked to do it themselves, they’re uncomfortable at the thought of it.

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          Let’s face it, all of us could use some form of sales skills. Whether it’s to win over a client, receive a promotion, or even persuade our friends to watch one movie over another.

          Most importantly, selling skills train you to look at the world from someone else’s perspective. When you’re focusing less on yourself, but rather the person sitting on the other side of the table, your self-consciousness diminishes almost immediately.

          7. Weight Lifting

          Lifting weights to build confidence is nothing new.

          You’ve probably seen inspiring videos of people losing 50lbs, and how it has transformed their lives.

          Beyond the obvious benefits, weight lifting contributes heavily to our mental health. It improves our blood circulation, which in turn increases our energy levels and overall happiness. Moreover, studies have shown that it also improves our cognitive functions, such as our attention, memory, and decision making.

          How do you build confidence?

          Have you tried all of these strategies to build confidence yet?
          If not, which will you commit to trying out in the next 30 days?

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          Sean is the founder and CEO of Rype, a language learning app. He's an entrepreneur and blogger.

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          Last Updated on October 16, 2019

          11 Meeting Scheduler Apps to Boost Your Productivity

          11 Meeting Scheduler Apps to Boost Your Productivity

          Automations are key to improving efficiency. Set the system up right from the beginning and you’ll reduce the amount of no-shows and cancellations.

          Whatever your business is, with automations, meeting scheduler apps do more than just streamline appointment setting. They prime your workflow for maximum results.

          Meeting scheduler apps are awesome if you use them right. Use them wrong and you can look like an arrogant elitist.

          In this article, I will share with you 11 great meeting scheduler apps you can start using today to boost your productivity.

          1. ScheduleOnce

            ScheduleOnce is an industry leader and robust solution. Whether you work alone or have a large team, ScheduleOnce can support you.

            ScheduleOnce allows you to create multiple users and multiple calendars. I use one calendar for booking podcast guests with automations set up to prep my guests for our interview. I use another calendar for strategy sessions and coaching calls.

            ScheduleOnce also has embeddable widgets so you can keep the scheduler inside your own website.

            Starting at $7 a month and a 14 day free trial, ScheduleOnce can fit a variety of needs in business.

            Available on Web

            2. Calendly

              Calendly stands out for its clean, easy to use interface. If you like clean design, Calendly might be your choice. It too has robust automations and integrations for individuals and teams alike.

              You can try Calendly free for 14 days. Their basic plan is free while their most robust plan is only $12 a month.

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              Available on Web | Google Chrome Extension

              3. Assistant.to

                For those who use gmail, Assistant.to is a super simple solution.

                From inside an email, you click on the Assistant.to icon and pick times your free. Assistant.to embeds the times directly into the email so the recipient can quickly pick a time that works for them.

                While it doesn’t have all the bells and whistles of apps like Calendly or ScheduleOnce, Assistant.to is completely free.

                Available on Web

                4. Acuityscheduling

                  Acuity is a robust meeting scheduler very similar to ScheduleOnce. It integrates with CRMs, Email Marketing platforms, Analytics tools and accounting software.

                  It comes with a 14 day free trial. They have a free solo account but if you want the benefit of the integrations, you’ll start as low as $15 a month and can cost up to $50 a month.

                  Available on Web | iOS | Android

                  5. Pick

                    Built for simplicity, Pick is direct and easy to use. You can create your own url extension like pick.co/yournamehere and it integrates with Google calendar and Office 365.

                    At $3 a month, this is a great tool for quick scheduling.

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                    Available on Web

                    6. X.ai

                      For those who are early adopters of AI, this may be the solution for you. X.ai created two AI assistants they call Amy and Andrew Ingram. After setting up your account you simply CC them on your emails with the person you’re wanting to schedule and the AI assistants will email your guests from there until your appointment is set.

                      This type of scheduler feels more personal because of the dialogue. There are stories on their site of people thinking Amy and Andrew are real people. X.ai integrates with Google, Office 365 and Outlook.

                      Starting at $29 a month for an Individual account and $39 a month per user for a Team account, Amy and Andrew are ready to schedule meetings for you. Want to try it out first? They do have a free trial.

                      Available on Web

                      7. YouCanBook.me

                        is another competitive solution for scheduling meetings online. You can manage the calendars of your entire team, configure booking forms, and integrate with your calendar.

                        They have a free account branded with their company name or you can have some control over your branding and appearance at $10 a month for all their features. Either way, this company is worth a look.

                        Available on Web

                        8. Doodle

                          Doodle is unique in the space of meeting schedulers because it helps groups of people find a time to meet that works for everyone.

                          It integrates with your calendar and allows you to send a poll to all invited. Once people vote on the poll you can see which time works best for everyone.

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                          You can also run polls for food preferences if you’re scheduling a lunch meeting or a section of town if people are coming from all over.

                          While there is a free account, you’ll unlock it’s potential starting at $39 per year.

                          Available on Web | iOS | Android

                          9. WhenAvailable

                            WhenAvailable is another scheduler that works for groups of people. You can use it to schedule a pickup game of basketball, decide on your next book club or book your family reunion.

                            Their free account allows up to 20 guests, unlimited events and one contact group. For $15 a year you unlock all the goodies including reminders and chat messages.

                            Available on Web

                            10. Rally

                              Like Doodle and WhenAvailable, Rallly is helpful for scheduling meetings and events with multiple people involved. You create a poll and everyone votes. It’s quick and easy.

                              Unlike Doodle, it doesn’t have as many features, but it’s entirely free.

                              Available on Web

                              11. NeedtoMeet

                                Finishing strong, NeedtoMeet is our last app that allows you to schedule meetings or events for multiple people. It has mobile apps, custom urls, easy polling, notifications and commenting.

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                                NeedtoMeet also allows 1:1 Meetings for things like performance reviews for your whole team. You send out the your calendar slots to your team and they can only pick 1 slot, minimizing the amount of emails and scheduling you have to coordinate.

                                While they have a free account, you can unlock all features for only $19 a year.

                                Available on Web

                                Bonus: Don’t Make These Common Mistakes When Using Meeting Schedulers

                                In the excitement of streamlining your scheduling process, it can be easy to forget the feelings of those you’re inviting to meet. I know. I’ve done this.

                                To say “Hey, schedule time on my calendar” feels colder than “Hey, here’s my calendar. To avoid all the back and forth, pick a time that works best for you.”

                                Always make sure to frame your invite with your scheduler app with the benefit to them and why we’re doing it this way rather than the old fashioned, personal way.

                                A little finesse goes a long way. Without it, you risk seeming transactional and cold.

                                Some meeting scheduler widgets you can embed in your site can take a couple seconds to load. If you go this route, make sure there’s text just above the widget that lets your guest know the calendar will appear below and to wait for it to load.

                                If you use an online meeting tool like Zoom, it’s also important to explicitly let them know the meeting will take place on Zoom and include the Zoom link in the email reminder. Many make the mistake of not clarifying where the meeting will actually take place which can create last minute chaos at the time of the meeting.

                                Should you require special settings, like ethernet, external mics or lighting, let your guests know that on your thank you page and reminder emails so they are prepared for the meeting and you end up with the best meeting possible.

                                With clear communication in your automation, your meeting scheduler tools can almost perform like a virtual assistant for a fraction of the cost, or free, depending on the app you choose.

                                The Bottom Line

                                Meeting scheduler apps are diverse in features and unique in design. Before committing to one and realizing it’s not a fit, I recommend exploring which 3 might best fit you and then doing a trial with each of them at the same time so that you can see how they feel as you use them side by side.

                                Scheduling meetings the old fashioned way can be tedious. Conversely, finding a scheduling app that works seamlessly in the background is heavenly.

                                Like cell phones, meeting scheduler apps are moving from a nice-to-have luxury to must-have necessity in the lives of productive people. As you explore your options, stay true to your brand and the tools that have worked well for you to this point and simply find a meeting scheduler app that plays well with what you have created.

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