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If You Have A Strong Mom, Never Hurt Her

If You Have A Strong Mom, Never Hurt Her

It’s hard to know what makes a mother strong. It may due to her innate nature, the way she was brought up, or the fact that she has had to overcome certain obstacles in her life.  Whatever the cause, a strong mother should be cherished and never hurt.

People’s perceptions of strong mothers

A strong mother cannot be easily blown around by the trials that children and husbands may present. This ability to stay firm despite what is happening around can be misinterpreted as a lack of empathy. It is sometimes assumed that because a mother has strength she does not have the ability to compassionately understand her kids or her husband. It may look like a firm mother has a stoic approach to life, but this is not necessarily the case.

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A mother’s power may come from her ability to feel intensely about her children. He knack for being in tune with their fears, sorrows and mishaps gives her the ‘fuel’ she needs to be tough for her kids. Often she understands that what her kids need whether they are upset or happy is a firm guiding presence. So rather than lacking insight into her kids’ feelings a strong mother sees and feels what her kids are experiencing and reacts with a strength that helps them through both happy and difficult situations.

Strong mothers and their relationship with their daughters

It is sometimes assumed that strong mothers will clash with their daughters. This, however, is not necessarily the case. A mother with true power knows how to guide her daughter and steer her in a direction that is positive and good without being confrontational or pushy. A mother with inner strength respects the boundaries between her and her daughter and knows how to give her daughter the space she needs to grow into a self-contained and independent person.

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A strong mother can have a big influence over the mindset, beliefs and inner character of their daughter. Daughters often revere and look up to their mother when she has a solid presence. They feel that she is someone who will always be stable for them. A daughter’s respect for her firm mother means that she often wants to copy or imitate her mother’s behavior. She may also want to please a mother as she longs for her approval and kind words. This means that the mother is in a position where what she does and says can have a direct effect on her daughter’s behavior.

If a mother with strength believes in certain values such as honesty, trust and respect then it is likely that her daughter will internalize theses values and they will become a part of who she is. If the mother believes, for example, that you should always ‘do to others as you would have them do to you’, and she projects this message with power and conviction then her daughter is likely to approach life with this moral in mind.

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A strong mother’s love for her daughters

When a mother is constantly strong she is normally driven by a deep love for her daughters. It is the profound depth of this love that keeps her steady and firm. She is powerful because she knows that her daughter needs her to be a solid rock that she can count on day in and day out. However, if a mother with presence feels that her daughter misunderstands her good intentions she can become fragile and withdrawn.

How strong mothers relate to their daughters’ daily struggles

Often daughters have trouble with their girlfriends at school. Girls can tend to be ‘bitchy’ to one another and this can leave often leave someone in tears. When it is the daughter of a firm mother who is at the receiving end of a mean friend then she acts swiftly and effectively. She is able to sit with her daughter and give her the tools she needs in order to confront her friend. She can help her daughter to be strong like her and stand up for herself in the playground.

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At some point daughters often go through a period of not liking their body’s and the way they look in general. A mother with presence will not stand for a daughter who is critical of the way she looks. A strong mother will teach her daughter how to build up her strength on the inside and to focus less on her external ‘package’. She will teach her daughter that if she has a good inner sense of self her external self will glow.

A strong mother is something to value and appreciate. It is a privilege for a child to grow up in a house where there is a formidable female figure. Daughters in particular should not take a mother with strength for granted and should always try to gratify her and not hurt her.

Featured photo credit: The Life Square via thelifesquare.com

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Rebecca Beris

Rebecca is a wellness and lifestyle writer at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on September 10, 2019

7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

Most of your reality is not a given. It is shaped by your expectations, beliefs and thoughts you have formed about it. A big chunk of these beliefs and expectations are encoded into habits you integrate in your daily life.

Yes, some of these habits are formed unconsciously and can be counter-productive or limiting but conversely, you can consciously form positive habits that will transform and empower your life significantly.

This is a powerful point of departure that more and more people are becoming aware of. The most common trait of highly successful people is the recognition of the power they have in co-creating their reality through changing the way they think, believe or expect their reality to be.

One of the most effective ways of changing our belief patterns is through practising and maintaining daily rituals. Ancient traditions had clearly understood the power of rituals in reinforcing habits and changing the way we see and create our reality a long, long time ago.

Once again, if you look into the life history of any highly successful individual, you will find some form of ritual in their daily routine. Some of these rituals may seem banal or eccentric but don’t be deceived by appearances. Rituals are one of the most effective self-empowering tools freely available at the practitioner’s disposal – that is, you!

Below are some the easiest yet life-changing morning rituals you can do every day. Of course, you can have your own afternoon or bed-time rituals but morning rituals are extremely effective in empowering your day since they help you charge yourself before it all starts.

1. Gratitude

Feeling gratitude and appreciation for those little signs and moments of joy happening in your life is probably one of the most overlooked or underestimated rituals. It is a perfect morning ritual to start your day on a very positive key.

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The real power of gratitude is that it makes you pick out and focus on what is working in your life – what is in tune with your being as a whole. It is selectively positive. It reinforces happiness and positivity by shedding light on those awesome things, small or big, that grace your everyday living.

Quite often, we just pick out the pain points, the problems, the bottle necks, whatever it is that is not working in our life and causing friction, anxiety and unhappiness. This is like constantly rewriting the script of your life with a negative or tragic overtone. Your subconscious mind follows faithfully that script you write whether it is a negative or positive one.

So feeling gratitude is undoubtedly an immensely empowering ritual. Start your day by being thankful for those positive things that happened the previous day or throughout the week. It could be something really petty and small. It doesn’t matter. You might be grateful for an unexpected visit from an old friend, a beautiful encounter with a kind stranger, a new opportunity or whatever it is that shines your way. Do it every morning and see what happens during the day.

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    2. Writing Down Your Most Important Tasks

    This is a very practical ritual. Start your day by identifying and writing down from one to three of the most important tasks you need to complete during that day. These tasks are ones which support important long term goals that are aligned to your purpose, passion or general direction in life.

    For example, if writing a book or building an online community are important long term goals which are aligned to your personal growth, then an important task for the day might be finishing off a particular page or two of the book or coming up with fresh content ideas for the online community.

    What is important with this ritual is that you identify these tasks and complete them as early in the day as possible. Of course, you will have other tasks apart from the ones you will write down but, these are tasks which can be tackled later or batched up and carried out in one go.

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    Writing down your most important tasks in the morning helps you focus your day and life according to what is essential. It helps you prioritize and manage your time better. As a result, you simplify your life by applying your focus and energy on what really counts for your overall life progress.

    3. Affirm Your Goals in Writing or Drawing

    This is similar to the previous idea but different in its application and purpose. Writing down your most important tasks of the day is a way to have a concrete structure of action to follow. Affirming your goals, on the other hand, is a very powerful way of crystallizing your vision and goals in life into your everyday mental space.

    Writing down or doodling your goals on a piece of paper helps you externalize those goals by giving them form. In return, they are reflected back in your subconscious mind and thus, reinforcing them and integrating them more wholly.

    An example of this would be writing down “I am achieving greater success in my career” or “I am becoming healthier and stronger through my exercise.” Notice the present tense being used as a way to tell yourself you are in the process already. Remember the life script we subconsciously follow? You are basically modifying the script to be applied now in the present.

    Drawing or doodling can be equally, or even more, effective  (if you are more of a visual person) as it summarizes a graphical representation of your goals. For example, if your goal is to build a new house or live in another country, you can draw the house or draw things that symbolise the country you want to live in.

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      4. Practice Qi Gong Exercises

      According to Chinese philosophy, Qi (pronounced ‘Chee’) means the life force or energy inherent in all things;[1] and Qi Gong is the practice to cultivate and circulate that energy in your body. This may sound esoteric or complicated but actually, Qi Gong is really a set of simple exercises aimed at increasing your health and vitality.

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      There are numerous forms and practices available for free through the online media. As a morning ritual, I recommend following these simple exercises by Qi Gong master Lee Holden:

      5. Drink Hot Water with Lemon

      Simply add a slice of lemon in a glass of hot water and drink one every morning. This is a very simple ritual I follow faithfully every morning.

      Apart from being a good source of vitamin C and a great way of flushing out toxins in the morning, it balances and maintains the PH levels in the body, reduces pain and inflammation in joints and knees and helps nourishing brain and nerve cells. Here are some more benefits of drinking hot water with lemon.

      6. Rise Earlier

      The practical advantages of waking up early are obvious.

      For example, you gain more time for doing exercise such as walking, cycling or Qi Gong as suggested above. You gain more time to be with yourself to reflect, meditate or, more importantly, carry out the other morning rituals.

      So rising early can be seen as a foundation for all the other morning rituals. Many, like myself, find that they are more productive in the early hours of the day.

      Also, various studies have shown that there are many other benefits from waking up an hour or two earlier in the morning. Sleeping early and waking up early helps the body attune with the earth’s circadian rhythms thus, promoting more restorative sleep. Other curious results from such studies show, for instance, that early risers tend to be more optimistic and can anticipate and solve problems more efficiently than the norm.[2]

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      7. Listen to Uplifting Music

      Uplifting music can have a direct impact on our mood, especially in the morning. It charges us emotionally and tunes us into a more positive outlook of the day ahead.

      Most people wake up to music or listen to music as they commute to work. Very often, however, they tune in to a radio or randomly pick a playlist from their device. Being more selective and conscious of the music you listen to in the morning can have a great impact on your day and life in general.

      It’s funny how we try to choose music according to our mood. For example if you are feeling down or disappointed by something, you are more prone to listen to music that reflects that mood – for instance blues, sad songs or downtempo music. This has the effect of reinforcing that mood. What you need to do is the exact opposite and retune your mood by listening to music that beats to a different tune than that mood.

      Try to listen to more uplifting music in the morning even if, or especially if, your mood does not dictate so.

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      Featured photo credit: Carli Jeen via unsplash.com

      Reference

      [1] Live Science: What Is Qi Gong
      [2] Harvard Business Review: Defend Your Research: The Early Bird Really Does Get the Worm

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