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This Is Why It’s Really Great To Make Friends With Boyish Girls

This Is Why It’s Really Great To Make Friends With Boyish Girls

Not all girls enjoy shopping at the mall, getting their nails done and gossiping about their friends; there are, in fact, girls who act kind of boyish.

When most people think of boyish girls they might imagine someone who wears a baseball cap with a ponytail sticking out, a plaid shirt and baggy cut-off shorts. Or a girl who hates makeup, love sports and is maybe even a little insensitive. I’m sure you aren’t surprised that there are a lot of stereotypes around boyish girls, (also known as tomboys).

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As a full-fledged boyish girl, I know what it’s like to be misunderstood. Since middle school I’ve been asked repeatedly if I’m a lesbian because I act like a dude: I have a crude sense of humour, poor posture, prefer short hair (because it’s easier to maintain, duh), hate wearing skirts and dresses, and I love getting my hands dirty (I’m not afraid of spiders, or picking up ooey-gooey things). But just because I’m into video games and prefer denim over lace doesn’t mean I’m any less of a woman than a girly-girl.

In fact, boyish girls have a lot of positive traits that everyone can appreciate.

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They’re Playful

Boyish girls are really playful people. They love getting in the game, whether it’s a friendly touch football match or an all out competition on Xbox. Not only are they willing to jump into sports and video games, but they love to joke around, egging you on to race them, encouraging play fights and even joining in on poker night. These ladies love being invited out to hit a few balls or catch a game at the local sports bar.

They’re Low Maintenance

Some girls can take hours getting ready to go out, but boyish girls are quick to leave the house. Although many boyish girls still enjoy dressing up and doing their makeup, they typically keep it much more simple and minimal compared to their girly friends (while still looking hot). Despite what a lot of people think, boyish girls do enjoy getting dolled up now and then; it’s just that we realize a little bit of mascara and lip gloss can go a long way, and tights jeans paired with a sexy top is just as attractive (and a lot more practical) than a slinky dress.

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They’re Easygoing

While a stereotypical girly girl is not only high-maintenance in her appearance, but also her personality, boyish girls are often a lot more easygoing. They’re comfortable being themselves and therefore more relaxed in their behavior and moods. A lot of girls (and guys) appreciate this quality because it makes boyish girls really easy to talk to. Instead of getting you all worked up over some “dramatic: situation, they’re more likely to help you calm down and see things more clearly.

They’re Adventurous

Boyish girls love adventure! They enjoy the outdoors, travel and trying new things, because, really, what’s the worst that could happen? (Remember they’re also easygoing.) Their adventurous spirit can be a good thing, not only because it’s fun for other adventurous people, but because they help bring their more timid friends out their comfort zones.

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They Have a Great Sense of Humor

And, of course, boyish girls love to laugh! They can find the humour in almost anything from slapstick comedy to crude stand-up, and when they laugh, they genuinely laugh, without trying to hold it in or stifle their giggles. While some boyish girls can take their humor too far (I’ve been known to), their sense of humor is usually well appreciated by their friends and family.

Just because boyish girls are a little, well, boyish, doesn’t mean they don’t make great gal pals or that they’re necessarily secretly a lesbian; they simply enjoy different things and should be appreciated for it.

Featured photo credit: Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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