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21 Moments Only Close Roommates Experience

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21 Moments Only Close Roommates Experience

You moved in with your best friend and things couldn’t be any better! Not only is there a BFF right there for a 2 AM update on that one guy who texts every two days, but they are there for pranks, dinner, or just hanging out. If you’re part of a gal-pal gang with a shared headquarters, here is a massive list of 21 things you can definitely relate to.

1. Your Sisters Would Never Understand

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    As much as you refer to your roommate as a sister, your real sisters only wish they could be that close to you. You and your roommate are so close, it’s as though you shared a womb—despite having different mothers.

    2. Dealing With The Dishes!

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      As much as you love your roommate, you still don’t want to catch some icky bug—Ascaris is not pleasant! Whether it’s the dishes or the tub, there is always some area that you need to be clean that they just can’t understand. The dishes are definitely a hotly contested subject for many roommate situations.

      3. There’s Hair In Every Corner

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        While your long hair seems to creep into the carpet, your car, and every part of your boyfriend’s apartment, having two or more of you in the house seems to double the trouble. Small brown hair bunnies seem to drift around your hardwood floors like a cowboy on the range, and your tub has never drained right since you moved in. While it’s kind of gross, at least there is a tiny piece of her with you everywhere you go.

        4. The One Who Cooks Is Queen

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          Oh, what? You need the apartment for a night, but I can have this cheesecake? Oh yeah, sure thing, how long should I be gone for?

          Seriously, whoever cooks is queen. While you will always love your other roommates, the one whose drunken hobby is making cakes is your absolute favorite! The best roommate is the one who cooks, and cooking parties are the best way to pass the time, or to turn into one of those…

          5. Random Dance Parties!

          The fliest dance parties in the hemisphere will always be held in your kitchen. You lay down sick dance moves anytime, day or night. It’s pretty much the best thing you can do to relieve the stress of a long day, it’s exercise, it’s super fun, and it only gets better with a group of kick-a** roommates.

          6. TV Nights Can Have You OBSESSED

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            TV nights will have you and your roommate obsessed. Forget the bae, you’re talking about “A” from Pretty Little Liars—it’s not a romantic thing, although you would expect all the scorn of a cheated lover from your roommate if you did happen to watch ahead.

            7. That Moment When Everyone Gets Sucked Into A Single Interest

            It’s not just the boob-tube that sucks you in, you and your roommate rebound off each other for everything. Whether it’s the color mint or growing a backyard garden, getting into hobbies has never been more exciting or enjoyable as when you are doing it together. Figuring out plant pairings is just as exhilarating as stealing a cop car when you do it with your live-in BFF!

            8. When Someone Goes Missing For A Moment (whether for finals or a mini-vacation)

            You never really realize how close you and your roommate are until the first time they leave on a long vacation. Whether it’s for finals or to find Europe’s best beer, you find yourself wandering around the apartment all by your lonesome, touching the walls, peeing with the door open, and living like a wildebeest until their return.

            9. There’s Always Someone To Lean On

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            Theo enjoying a moment on New Year's Day with his best friend Marco

              Whether it’s 3 AM or a Tuesday morning, it’s always great to have that roommate there to lean on. There are so many deep questions that need answering or texts that need urgent evaluation.

              10. That One Thing You Both Promised To Never Talk About Again (but there are so many questions!)

              You don’t even want to know what you just walked in on, but you totally do. There are so many questions!

              While you can never talk about it again, you desperately need to know. If you walked into a weird moment, let us know. We need answers.

              11. Judging Blind Dates From The Window

              As the live-in best friend, you have the end-all say to what goes on. Whether it’s sending the emergency SOS text to help them escape a bad date, or helping judge an attractive potential mate from the window, close roommates know how to make a great choice.

              12. Encouraging Better Habits

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                Close roommates know that having someone right there can encourage great habits, like exercising or better study habits. Having someone there to boost your confidence can even make negotiating a salary when you go on job interviews a little easier. Your roomie is a superb source of confidence!

                13. The Pranks!

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                  There is nothing better than a housemate you can prank. A comrade with a sense of humour will help inspire some of the grandest mischief in the world! Maybe duct taping things to the ceiling is your cup of tea, or hiding small pictures of the Bonus-Jonas everywhere until you finally complete the prank by taking them to a mystery concert with a surprise guest: the Bonus-Jonas!

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                  Pranks. One of the best things about a high-quality bunkmate.

                  14. New Levels Of Passive Aggression

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                    Whole new levels of passive aggression are born in any roommate situation. Signs or memes can be created with the sole purpose of getting someone to do something without freaking out and yelling “just do it!”

                    15. You Have A Second Wardrobe — And A Real Opinion On Your Own…

                    You just got a second wardrobe. Need a great pair of skinny jeans for a date or just need an outfit opinion? Ask them. Not only do you get a real opinion, but maybe they have a better idea. It’s pure magic.

                    16. Mastering The Sneak Around

                    If you made it past the passive aggressive stage of your relationship, you have probably also mastered the sneak around technique. While you and your closest companion have strange schedules, making as little noise as possible has evolved into something of an art form. From saving the microwave beeps at the last second and taking your shoes off at the door, you guys are noise ninjas.

                    17. They Are Always There When You Need Them

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                      It’s not just about having someone to lean on, it’s about everything from advice to a ride when your tire goes flat. Having another member in your pack is amazing for everyone in the house.

                      18. 2 AM Conversations About Everything

                      It’s those strange late-night conversations that explore aspects of the world that take you from regular roomies to the next level. Only ride-or-die roomies know about the endless fathoms that you can explore with moonlit talks. It’s unworldly, beautiful, and will help you solve every problem and leave you refreshed.

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                      19. When You Hear A Certain Playlist From Their Room, It’s Time To Go AWOL

                      You just heard your roommate come in, and you get up to go chat about whatever. Then it starts—that track that you know you should disappear for. The second it starts, your lip curls. You grab your stuff and run to the library. An early 2000s country love jam is not something to stick around for.

                      20. Y’all Are A Bunch Of Creeps

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                        Whether it’s the muscular mailman or just a particularly pleasing jogger, you and your roommate have mutually creeped on some studly piece of something wandering around your neighborhood. That barista that gave you both hearts in your coffee. Definitely. Beyonce. For sure—girl-crushing hard. Y’all are a bunch of creeps and it’s great.

                        21. You Will Still Love Every Day Living With Them!

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                          You are so in-sync that no backstreet can take you and your roommate. If you wouldn’t change your living situation for anything, then you know you really are a close set of roommates

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                          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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                          How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                          You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                          Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                          Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                          Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                          1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                          According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                          “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                          Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                          Warming up

                          If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                          If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                          Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                          1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                          2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                          3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                          Stay hydrated

                          Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                          To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                          Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                          Meditate

                          Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                          Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                          Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                          Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                          2. Focus on your goal

                          One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                          Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                          Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                          Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                          If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                          3. Convert negativity to positivity

                          There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                          ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                          It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                          Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                          Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                          Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                          4. Understand your content

                          Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                          However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                          “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                          Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                          Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                          One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                          5. Practice makes perfect

                          Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                          In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                          Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                          6. Be authentic

                          There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                          Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                          Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                          To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                          With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                          Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                          7. Post speech evaluation

                          Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                          Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                          We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                          You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                          Improve your next speech

                          As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                          Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                          • How did I do?
                          • Are there any areas for improvement?
                          • Did I sound or look stressed?
                          • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                          • Was I saying “um” too often?
                          • How was the flow of the speech?

                          Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                          If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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