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21 Moments Only Close Roommates Experience

21 Moments Only Close Roommates Experience

You moved in with your best friend and things couldn’t be any better! Not only is there a BFF right there for a 2 AM update on that one guy who texts every two days, but they are there for pranks, dinner, or just hanging out. If you’re part of a gal-pal gang with a shared headquarters, here is a massive list of 21 things you can definitely relate to.

1. Your Sisters Would Never Understand

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    As much as you refer to your roommate as a sister, your real sisters only wish they could be that close to you. You and your roommate are so close, it’s as though you shared a womb—despite having different mothers.

    2. Dealing With The Dishes!

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      As much as you love your roommate, you still don’t want to catch some icky bug—Ascaris is not pleasant! Whether it’s the dishes or the tub, there is always some area that you need to be clean that they just can’t understand. The dishes are definitely a hotly contested subject for many roommate situations.

      3. There’s Hair In Every Corner

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        While your long hair seems to creep into the carpet, your car, and every part of your boyfriend’s apartment, having two or more of you in the house seems to double the trouble. Small brown hair bunnies seem to drift around your hardwood floors like a cowboy on the range, and your tub has never drained right since you moved in. While it’s kind of gross, at least there is a tiny piece of her with you everywhere you go.

        4. The One Who Cooks Is Queen

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          Oh, what? You need the apartment for a night, but I can have this cheesecake? Oh yeah, sure thing, how long should I be gone for?

          Seriously, whoever cooks is queen. While you will always love your other roommates, the one whose drunken hobby is making cakes is your absolute favorite! The best roommate is the one who cooks, and cooking parties are the best way to pass the time, or to turn into one of those…

          5. Random Dance Parties!

          The fliest dance parties in the hemisphere will always be held in your kitchen. You lay down sick dance moves anytime, day or night. It’s pretty much the best thing you can do to relieve the stress of a long day, it’s exercise, it’s super fun, and it only gets better with a group of kick-a** roommates.

          6. TV Nights Can Have You OBSESSED

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            TV nights will have you and your roommate obsessed. Forget the bae, you’re talking about “A” from Pretty Little Liars—it’s not a romantic thing, although you would expect all the scorn of a cheated lover from your roommate if you did happen to watch ahead.

            7. That Moment When Everyone Gets Sucked Into A Single Interest

            It’s not just the boob-tube that sucks you in, you and your roommate rebound off each other for everything. Whether it’s the color mint or growing a backyard garden, getting into hobbies has never been more exciting or enjoyable as when you are doing it together. Figuring out plant pairings is just as exhilarating as stealing a cop car when you do it with your live-in BFF!

            8. When Someone Goes Missing For A Moment (whether for finals or a mini-vacation)

            You never really realize how close you and your roommate are until the first time they leave on a long vacation. Whether it’s for finals or to find Europe’s best beer, you find yourself wandering around the apartment all by your lonesome, touching the walls, peeing with the door open, and living like a wildebeest until their return.

            9. There’s Always Someone To Lean On

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            Theo enjoying a moment on New Year's Day with his best friend Marco

              Whether it’s 3 AM or a Tuesday morning, it’s always great to have that roommate there to lean on. There are so many deep questions that need answering or texts that need urgent evaluation.

              10. That One Thing You Both Promised To Never Talk About Again (but there are so many questions!)

              You don’t even want to know what you just walked in on, but you totally do. There are so many questions!

              While you can never talk about it again, you desperately need to know. If you walked into a weird moment, let us know. We need answers.

              11. Judging Blind Dates From The Window

              As the live-in best friend, you have the end-all say to what goes on. Whether it’s sending the emergency SOS text to help them escape a bad date, or helping judge an attractive potential mate from the window, close roommates know how to make a great choice.

              12. Encouraging Better Habits

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                Close roommates know that having someone right there can encourage great habits, like exercising or better study habits. Having someone there to boost your confidence can even make negotiating a salary when you go on job interviews a little easier. Your roomie is a superb source of confidence!

                13. The Pranks!

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                  There is nothing better than a housemate you can prank. A comrade with a sense of humour will help inspire some of the grandest mischief in the world! Maybe duct taping things to the ceiling is your cup of tea, or hiding small pictures of the Bonus-Jonas everywhere until you finally complete the prank by taking them to a mystery concert with a surprise guest: the Bonus-Jonas!

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                  Pranks. One of the best things about a high-quality bunkmate.

                  14. New Levels Of Passive Aggression

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                    Whole new levels of passive aggression are born in any roommate situation. Signs or memes can be created with the sole purpose of getting someone to do something without freaking out and yelling “just do it!”

                    15. You Have A Second Wardrobe — And A Real Opinion On Your Own…

                    You just got a second wardrobe. Need a great pair of skinny jeans for a date or just need an outfit opinion? Ask them. Not only do you get a real opinion, but maybe they have a better idea. It’s pure magic.

                    16. Mastering The Sneak Around

                    If you made it past the passive aggressive stage of your relationship, you have probably also mastered the sneak around technique. While you and your closest companion have strange schedules, making as little noise as possible has evolved into something of an art form. From saving the microwave beeps at the last second and taking your shoes off at the door, you guys are noise ninjas.

                    17. They Are Always There When You Need Them

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                      It’s not just about having someone to lean on, it’s about everything from advice to a ride when your tire goes flat. Having another member in your pack is amazing for everyone in the house.

                      18. 2 AM Conversations About Everything

                      It’s those strange late-night conversations that explore aspects of the world that take you from regular roomies to the next level. Only ride-or-die roomies know about the endless fathoms that you can explore with moonlit talks. It’s unworldly, beautiful, and will help you solve every problem and leave you refreshed.

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                      19. When You Hear A Certain Playlist From Their Room, It’s Time To Go AWOL

                      You just heard your roommate come in, and you get up to go chat about whatever. Then it starts—that track that you know you should disappear for. The second it starts, your lip curls. You grab your stuff and run to the library. An early 2000s country love jam is not something to stick around for.

                      20. Y’all Are A Bunch Of Creeps

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                        Whether it’s the muscular mailman or just a particularly pleasing jogger, you and your roommate have mutually creeped on some studly piece of something wandering around your neighborhood. That barista that gave you both hearts in your coffee. Definitely. Beyonce. For sure—girl-crushing hard. Y’all are a bunch of creeps and it’s great.

                        21. You Will Still Love Every Day Living With Them!

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                          You are so in-sync that no backstreet can take you and your roommate. If you wouldn’t change your living situation for anything, then you know you really are a close set of roommates

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                          6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

                          6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

                          We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

                          “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

                          Are we speaking the same language?

                          My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

                          When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

                          Am I being lazy?

                          When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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                          Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

                          Early in the relationship:

                          “Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

                          When the relationship is established:

                          “Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

                          It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

                          Have I actually got anything to say?

                          When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

                          A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

                          When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

                          Am I painting an accurate picture?

                          One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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                          How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

                          Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

                          What words am I using?

                          It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

                          Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

                          Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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                          Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

                          A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

                          I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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