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21 Moments Only Close Roommates Experience

21 Moments Only Close Roommates Experience

You moved in with your best friend and things couldn’t be any better! Not only is there a BFF right there for a 2 AM update on that one guy who texts every two days, but they are there for pranks, dinner, or just hanging out. If you’re part of a gal-pal gang with a shared headquarters, here is a massive list of 21 things you can definitely relate to.

1. Your Sisters Would Never Understand

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    As much as you refer to your roommate as a sister, your real sisters only wish they could be that close to you. You and your roommate are so close, it’s as though you shared a womb—despite having different mothers.

    2. Dealing With The Dishes!

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      As much as you love your roommate, you still don’t want to catch some icky bug—Ascaris is not pleasant! Whether it’s the dishes or the tub, there is always some area that you need to be clean that they just can’t understand. The dishes are definitely a hotly contested subject for many roommate situations.

      3. There’s Hair In Every Corner

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        While your long hair seems to creep into the carpet, your car, and every part of your boyfriend’s apartment, having two or more of you in the house seems to double the trouble. Small brown hair bunnies seem to drift around your hardwood floors like a cowboy on the range, and your tub has never drained right since you moved in. While it’s kind of gross, at least there is a tiny piece of her with you everywhere you go.

        4. The One Who Cooks Is Queen

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          Oh, what? You need the apartment for a night, but I can have this cheesecake? Oh yeah, sure thing, how long should I be gone for?

          Seriously, whoever cooks is queen. While you will always love your other roommates, the one whose drunken hobby is making cakes is your absolute favorite! The best roommate is the one who cooks, and cooking parties are the best way to pass the time, or to turn into one of those…

          5. Random Dance Parties!

          The fliest dance parties in the hemisphere will always be held in your kitchen. You lay down sick dance moves anytime, day or night. It’s pretty much the best thing you can do to relieve the stress of a long day, it’s exercise, it’s super fun, and it only gets better with a group of kick-a** roommates.

          6. TV Nights Can Have You OBSESSED

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            TV nights will have you and your roommate obsessed. Forget the bae, you’re talking about “A” from Pretty Little Liars—it’s not a romantic thing, although you would expect all the scorn of a cheated lover from your roommate if you did happen to watch ahead.

            7. That Moment When Everyone Gets Sucked Into A Single Interest

            It’s not just the boob-tube that sucks you in, you and your roommate rebound off each other for everything. Whether it’s the color mint or growing a backyard garden, getting into hobbies has never been more exciting or enjoyable as when you are doing it together. Figuring out plant pairings is just as exhilarating as stealing a cop car when you do it with your live-in BFF!

            8. When Someone Goes Missing For A Moment (whether for finals or a mini-vacation)

            You never really realize how close you and your roommate are until the first time they leave on a long vacation. Whether it’s for finals or to find Europe’s best beer, you find yourself wandering around the apartment all by your lonesome, touching the walls, peeing with the door open, and living like a wildebeest until their return.

            9. There’s Always Someone To Lean On

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              Whether it’s 3 AM or a Tuesday morning, it’s always great to have that roommate there to lean on. There are so many deep questions that need answering or texts that need urgent evaluation.

              10. That One Thing You Both Promised To Never Talk About Again (but there are so many questions!)

              You don’t even want to know what you just walked in on, but you totally do. There are so many questions!

              While you can never talk about it again, you desperately need to know. If you walked into a weird moment, let us know. We need answers.

              11. Judging Blind Dates From The Window

              As the live-in best friend, you have the end-all say to what goes on. Whether it’s sending the emergency SOS text to help them escape a bad date, or helping judge an attractive potential mate from the window, close roommates know how to make a great choice.

              12. Encouraging Better Habits

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                Close roommates know that having someone right there can encourage great habits, like exercising or better study habits. Having someone there to boost your confidence can even make negotiating a salary when you go on job interviews a little easier. Your roomie is a superb source of confidence!

                13. The Pranks!

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                  There is nothing better than a housemate you can prank. A comrade with a sense of humour will help inspire some of the grandest mischief in the world! Maybe duct taping things to the ceiling is your cup of tea, or hiding small pictures of the Bonus-Jonas everywhere until you finally complete the prank by taking them to a mystery concert with a surprise guest: the Bonus-Jonas!

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                  Pranks. One of the best things about a high-quality bunkmate.

                  14. New Levels Of Passive Aggression

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                    Whole new levels of passive aggression are born in any roommate situation. Signs or memes can be created with the sole purpose of getting someone to do something without freaking out and yelling “just do it!”

                    15. You Have A Second Wardrobe — And A Real Opinion On Your Own…

                    You just got a second wardrobe. Need a great pair of skinny jeans for a date or just need an outfit opinion? Ask them. Not only do you get a real opinion, but maybe they have a better idea. It’s pure magic.

                    16. Mastering The Sneak Around

                    If you made it past the passive aggressive stage of your relationship, you have probably also mastered the sneak around technique. While you and your closest companion have strange schedules, making as little noise as possible has evolved into something of an art form. From saving the microwave beeps at the last second and taking your shoes off at the door, you guys are noise ninjas.

                    17. They Are Always There When You Need Them

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                      It’s not just about having someone to lean on, it’s about everything from advice to a ride when your tire goes flat. Having another member in your pack is amazing for everyone in the house.

                      18. 2 AM Conversations About Everything

                      It’s those strange late-night conversations that explore aspects of the world that take you from regular roomies to the next level. Only ride-or-die roomies know about the endless fathoms that you can explore with moonlit talks. It’s unworldly, beautiful, and will help you solve every problem and leave you refreshed.

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                      19. When You Hear A Certain Playlist From Their Room, It’s Time To Go AWOL

                      You just heard your roommate come in, and you get up to go chat about whatever. Then it starts—that track that you know you should disappear for. The second it starts, your lip curls. You grab your stuff and run to the library. An early 2000s country love jam is not something to stick around for.

                      20. Y’all Are A Bunch Of Creeps

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                        Whether it’s the muscular mailman or just a particularly pleasing jogger, you and your roommate have mutually creeped on some studly piece of something wandering around your neighborhood. That barista that gave you both hearts in your coffee. Definitely. Beyonce. For sure—girl-crushing hard. Y’all are a bunch of creeps and it’s great.

                        21. You Will Still Love Every Day Living With Them!

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                          You are so in-sync that no backstreet can take you and your roommate. If you wouldn’t change your living situation for anything, then you know you really are a close set of roommates

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                          How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

                          How to Deal With Anger (The Ultimate Anger Management Guide)

                          We all lose our temper from time to time, and expressing anger is actually a healthy thing to do in our relationships with others. Expressing our differences in opinion allows us to have healthy conflict and many times come to an agreement or understanding that works for everyone. However, there are times when anger can become overwhelming or damaging, and during these times, it’s important to learn how to deal with anger.

                          Expressing anger inappropriately can be harmful to relationships, both personal and professional. You may express too much anger, too often, or at times that are only going to make things worse, not better. In this article we will look at anger management techniques that will help you better control your emotions.

                          Let’s take a deeper look at how to deal with anger.

                          Expressing Anger

                          Anger is a natural and normal part of almost any relationship. This includes relationships with your significant other, kids, boss, friends, family, etc. Anger provides us with valuable information if we are willing to listen to it. It clues us in to areas where we disagree with others and things that need to be changed or altered.

                          Unhealthy Ways to Express Anger

                          Here are some common yet unhealthy ways to express anger that you should avoid:

                          Being Passive-Aggressive

                          This is a term many of us are familiar with. Passive-aggressive behavior happens when someone is angry but uses indirect communication to express their anger.

                          Some of the more common passive-aggressive behaviors include the silent treatment, making comments about someone behind their back, being grumpy, moody, or pouting, or simply not doing tasks or assignments that they should.

                          This is a passive-aggressive person’s way of showing their anger. It’s not very productive but extremely common.

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                          Poorly-Timed

                          Some people get overwhelmed and express anger in a situation where it can’t really do any good.

                          An example would be getting angry at one person in front of a crowd of people. All that does is make people uncomfortable and shuts them down. It’s not a healthy way to express anger or disagreement with someone.

                          Ongoing Anger

                          Being angry all the time is most often a symptom of something else. It’s healthy and normal to express anger when you disagree with someone. However, if someone is angry most of the time and always seems to be expressing their anger to everyone around them, this won’t serve them well.

                          Over time, people will start to avoid this person and have as little contact as possible. The reason being is no one likes being around someone who is angry all the time; it’s a no-win situation.

                          Healthy Ways to Express Anger

                          What about the healthy ways[1] to adapt? When learning how to deal with anger, here are some healthy ways to get you started.

                          Being Honest

                          Express your anger or disagreement honestly. Be truthful about what it is that is making you angry. Sometimes this will entail walking away and thinking about it for a bit before you respond.

                          Don’t say you’re mad at something someone did or said when it’s really something else that upset you.

                          Being Direct

                          Similar to being honest, being direct is a healthy way to express anger.

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                          Don’t talk around something that is making you angry. Don’t say that one thing is making you angry when it’s really something else, and don’t stack items on top of each other so you can unload on someone about 10 different things 6 months from now.

                          Be direct and upfront about what is making you angry. Ensure you are expressing your anger to the person who upset you or you are angry at, not to someone else. This is very counterproductive.

                          Being Timely

                          When something makes you angry, it’s much better to express it in a timely manner. Don’t keep it bottled up inside of you, as that’s only going to do more harm than good.

                          Think of the marriages that seem to go up in flames out of nowhere when the reality is someone kept quiet for years until they hit their breaking point.

                          Expressing anger as it occurs is a much healthier way of using anger to help us guide our relationships in the moment.

                          How to Deal With Anger

                          If you feel angry, how should you deal with it right at that moment?

                          1. Slow Down

                          From time to time, I receive an email at work that makes me so angry that steam is probably pouring out of my ears.

                          In my less restrained moments, I have been known to fire off a quick response, and that typically has ended about as well as you might imagine.

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                          When I actually walk away from my computer and go do something else for a while, I am able to calm down and think more rationally. After that happens, I am able to respond in a more appropriate and productive manner. Doing things that helps you learn how to release anger can make an uncomfortable situation more manageable before it gets out of hand.

                          2. Focus on the “I”

                          Remember that you are the one that’s upset. Don’t accuse people of making you upset because, in the end, it’s your response to what someone did that really triggered your anger. You don’t want to place blame by saying something like “Why don’t you ever put away your dishes?” Say something more like “Having dirty dishes laying on the counter upsets me—can you work with me to come to a solution?”

                          When you are accusatory towards someone, all that does is increase the tension. This doesn’t usually do anything except make your anger rise higher.

                          3. Work out

                          When learning how to deal with anger, exercise is a great outlet. If something happens that angers you, see if you have the opportunity to burn off some of the anger.

                          Being able to hit the gym to get a hard workout in is great. If this isn’t an option, see if you can go for a run or a bike ride. If you are at work when you become angry and the weather permits, at least go outside for a brisk walk.

                          Besides working some of your anger out through exercise, this also helps to give your mind a chance to work through some ways to address what it is that upset you.

                          If you’re not sure where to start with an exercise routine, check out Lifehack’s free Simple Cardio Home Workout Plan.

                          4. Seek Help When Needed

                          There are times when we could all use some help. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. It’s perfectly fine to seek some help from a mental health professional if it will help you get back to a healthy balance.If you find that you are angry all the time, it might be a good idea to go talk to an expert about learning to control intense emotions. They can give you some sound advice and ideas on how to get your anger to a more manageable and healthy level.

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                          5. Practice Relaxation

                          We all seem to lead incredibly busy lives, and that’s a good thing if we are loving the life we are living. That being said, it is very beneficial to our physical and mental well-being to take time out for relaxation.

                          That can mean spending time doing things that help us calm down and relax, like being around people we enjoy, practicing deep breathing or listening to music. It could be making time for things that help bring us balance like a healthy diet and physical activity.

                          Many people incorporate techniques such as yoga and meditation to calm their minds and release tension when learning how to deal with anger. Whatever your choice is, ensure you take time out to relax when warning signs of anger start to bubble up.

                          6. Laugh

                          Incorporating humor and laughter on a regular basis will help keep anger in check and help you get over a bad mood and feelings of anger more quickly. This isn’t part of formal anger management techniques, but you’ll be surprised by how well it works. Remember, life is a journey that’s meant to be enjoyed fully along the way through healthy emotion. Make sure you take time to laugh and have fun.Surround yourself with people that like to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t work at a job that just causes you stress, which can lead to anger. Work at something you enjoy doing.

                          7. Be Grateful

                          It’s easy to focus on the bad in life and the things that cause us negative emotions. It’s vitally important to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things in life that bring us positive emotions, things that we easily forget because we get caught up in the whirlwind of day to day life.

                          Take time out each day to remind yourself of a few things you are grateful for in order to help you learn how to release anger and invite in more positive feelings.

                          Final Thoughts

                          Life can be overwhelming at times. We seem to have constant pressure to achieve more and to always be on the go or motivated. People we are around and situations we are in can cause stress, anger, and negative emotions. At times, it can seem to be too much, and we get angry and our emotions start to get out of control.

                          During these times, keep in mind that life is an incredible journey, full of wonder and things that bring you joy. When you find yourself angry more often than is healthy, take time out to remember the good things in life—the things that we seem to forget yet bring us so much positive energy and emotions.

                          Use some of the tips included here to help with how to deal with anger and better control your emotions.

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