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10 Small Things Guys Can Consistently Do To Make Their Wives Happy

10 Small Things Guys Can Consistently Do To Make Their Wives Happy

Back in 2014, a study was commissioned in the UK to determine whether or not money could actually buy happiness. Surprisingly, 60% of Brits were revealed that they were indeed more satisfied with life than residents in poorer nations, suggesting that those with greater financial resources are indeed predisposed to happiness.

This is not necessarily the case, however, and in fact it is often the smaller details and non-materialistic gestures that provide true happiness in life. This is something for all of us to bear in mind, especially as we look to take care of our loved ones, wives and make our relationships work.

This is particularly important for us guys, who tend to appraise our romantic gestures based on financial value and bottom line cost, to remember. Instead, we should focus on the small and non-material things that we can do consistently to make our wives happy. For example:

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1. Break down gender stereotypes and work as a team with your wife

While men and women should take on alternative roles in their relationship, these should not be based these on gender alone. As a husband, you therefore need to break down traditional gender stereotypes and instead consider your relationship as a unique union between two equal partners. By working as a team with your wife and undertaking your share of household and child-raising chores, you can create a happy and empowering relationship.

2. Listen to your wife’s concerns without trying to fix the problem

This is often difficult for us guys to manage, as the male of the species is often inclined to being proactive and resolving problems practically. Conversely, women tend to be more in touch with their emotions and reflective, meaning that they want to share their feelings without judgment or their partners attempting to fix the problem. From experience I know how important it is to listen, allowing my wife to vocalize her issues and come to her own conclusions.

3. Speak kindly to your wife and express gratitude

While actions may speak louder than words, the way in which we communicate without our wives is central to their happiness. Speaking kindly to your wife is the verbal embodiment of a gentle and loving relationship, as taking the time to showcase appreciation for her as an individual underlines how grateful you are for everything that she does for you as a partner.

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4. Support your wife’s dreams and make them come true

When my wife wanted to earn her law degree, I took on additional work as she gave up her full-time role to concentrate on her studies. This act enabled her to pursue her dreams, underlining the importance of providing emotional and practical support for your partner’s endeavors. Without this type of selflessness and a willingness to recognize your wife’s aspirations, you relationship can easily become lost in a sea of narcissism.

5. Compliment your wife’s physical appearance and achievements

On a similar note, it is imperative that you also take the time to compliment your wife’s achievements (both at home and in the workplace). There is no point empowering her to achieve her dreams if you then ignore her accomplishments, so constantly strive to reinforce her efforts and compliment her success. The same principle can be applied to her physical appearance, as I always look to compliment my wife whenever she sports a new hairstyle or outfit, as this makes her feel feminine and attractive as an individual.

6. Tell your wife that you love her

You will probably have noticed by now that these steps are breathtakingly simple, so long as you are proactive and consistent in your approach. I try to tell my wife that I love here every single day, taking every opportunity to reaffirm the joy and value that she adds to my life. This is one thing that can never be in question in a progressive relationship, and as a guy it is your duty to take the lead in this respect.

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7. Never be afraid to apologize to your wife

We have already touched on the importance of listening to your wife, but occasionally there may be a need to take direct action and apologize for your actions. I have a unique sense of humor that can sporadically cross the line, for example, while my wife is a little more conservative and sometimes take umbrage at my jokes. When I do cross this line, I take the initiative to apologize quickly and remember the importance of respecting my wife’s outlook.

8. Take responsibility for everything that you do

This advice has quite a broad remit, as it can be applied to everything from everyday chores to large-scale financial decisions. Even when you work as a team, you may well find yourself responsible for certain decisions or actions within your marriage, and it is important that you take responsibility for every one of these. This breeds trust and honesty in a relationship, and my wife can certainly take solace in the fact I can be expected to follow through on promises or actions.

9. Be proactive when generating money to treat your wife

By now, it should be obvious that money alone cannot buy happiness. It can still play a role in creating memorable experiences within your marriage, however, as you look to plan romantic getaways for you and your wife. There is nothing wrong with this, so long as you take the initiative to seek out creative and innovative ways to raise money. Whether this involves selling unwanted kid’s items and old technology or freelancing for a brief period of time is up to you, the key is that you take responsibility and adopt an independent approach to funding your romantic endeavors.

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10. Always ask for your wife’s opinion

As well as empowering your wife in the pursuit of her dreams, you should take the time to immerse her in your own. You can achieve this simply by asking for her insight or opinion on a host of important decisions, particularly difficult choices that are career-related and will have an impact on your marriage. Not only is this integral to teamwork, but it also helps me to tap into an intelligent, experienced and caring resource.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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