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The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The term ambivert refers to someone who exhibits qualities of both an extrovert and an introvert.  You might be an extrovert if you are outgoing, love social gatherings and generally speaking, enjoy surrounding yourself with people. In contrast, if you are an introvert, you are likely more concerned with your internal mentality and do not crave external influences to appease your ego.

Most people have a tendency to lean towards one side of the spectrum or the other.  The middle of the venn diagram is where the ambivert resides.

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    13 of the Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

    1. When you go out you wish you were home, and when you stay home you wish you went out. When you are home alone, you get a bad case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Conversely, when you are out you feel that you could be getting much more done (whatever that means) when you are home.
    2. You can never get everything done. You want to meet new people, go to new places and experience new things all while your inner introvert plans a full day of self-education and reflection. Unfortunately there aren’t 48 hours in a day so you tend to be anxious!
    3. You can’t decide whether you love or hate social media. At times you will be constantly plugged in; tweeting, posting and messaging your fingers away. Then will come the dry spell where you don’t sign into your account for weeks. Rarely will there ever be consistency.
    4. Being alright is never good enough for you. You need change and you need it now! Your social side is calling for friends and interaction while your introvert craves time for yourself.
    5. You’re great at meeting new people but struggle to stay connected.You will make plans with someone and then immediately regret it. When befriending someone it is easy for you to exchange numbers and offer to hang out. Following through is a whole other story.
    6. You wish you could feel as comfortable with the world as you do with your friends. You might be a jokester amongst your crowd and a mute in public. You hate dancing with people you don’t know, but have no problem actin’ a fool around your friends.
    7. You feel that no one gets you. Well how could they? One minute we might be the life of the party and for the next three weeks we curl up in bed watching every Netflix movie and TV series we can think of.
    8. You are always the first one who wants to go home.  You have had your fun wherever you are and now it is time to be a recluse. If you are at a party or a social gathering you generally will be the first one to hint at leaving. You might even subtly take your car keys out and spin them around your finger.
    9. When you tag along with a friend to a random party. Have you ever been asked to go with someone to a party because “we will have a great time” and begrudgingly agree? Only to get there, lose your outgoing friend to eighty people, and question why you ever agreed to come.
    10. You aren’t the best at texting and people take it personally. Friends often complain about how bad you are at responding to texts. Significant others eventually hate you for it. It’s not that we don’t care, we just need our space and aren’t great at vocalizing that.
    11. You sometimes feel alone in a room full of people. Being around people don’t stop you from retreating into your head. In fact, sometimes they motivate you to do so.
    12. You are very indecisive. How could you not be? Part of you is telling you to get out of your head and the other is telling you to retreat in it.
    13. You are always asked if everything is okay. People see you acting outgoing and assume that you are normally that way. So when someone notices you’re quiet, they may think you are upset even if you’re just enjoying a much needed moment to yourself!
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    What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

    What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

    Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

    They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

    It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

    1. They Manage Their Expectations

    They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

    2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

    Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

    3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

    Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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    4. They’re Not Materialistic

    There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

    5. They Don’t Dwell

    They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

    6. They Care About Themselves First

    They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

    They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

    7. They Enjoy the Little Things

    They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

    8. They Can Adapt

    They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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    9. They Experiment

    They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

    10. They Take Their Time

    They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

    11. They Employ Different Perspectives

    They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

    12. They Seek to Learn

    Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

    13. They Always Have a Plan

    They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

    14. They Give Respect to Get It

    They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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    15. They Consider Every Opportunity

    They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

    16. They Always Seek to Improve

    Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

    17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

    They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

    18. They Live in the Moment

    They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

    You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

    19. They Say Yes

    Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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    20. They’re Self-Aware

    Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

    We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

    Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

    Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

    Final Thoughts

    The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

    For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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