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The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The term ambivert refers to someone who exhibits qualities of both an extrovert and an introvert.  You might be an extrovert if you are outgoing, love social gatherings and generally speaking, enjoy surrounding yourself with people. In contrast, if you are an introvert, you are likely more concerned with your internal mentality and do not crave external influences to appease your ego.

Most people have a tendency to lean towards one side of the spectrum or the other.  The middle of the venn diagram is where the ambivert resides.

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    13 of the Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

    1. When you go out you wish you were home, and when you stay home you wish you went out. When you are home alone, you get a bad case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Conversely, when you are out you feel that you could be getting much more done (whatever that means) when you are home.
    2. You can never get everything done. You want to meet new people, go to new places and experience new things all while your inner introvert plans a full day of self-education and reflection. Unfortunately there aren’t 48 hours in a day so you tend to be anxious!
    3. You can’t decide whether you love or hate social media. At times you will be constantly plugged in; tweeting, posting and messaging your fingers away. Then will come the dry spell where you don’t sign into your account for weeks. Rarely will there ever be consistency.
    4. Being alright is never good enough for you. You need change and you need it now! Your social side is calling for friends and interaction while your introvert craves time for yourself.
    5. You’re great at meeting new people but struggle to stay connected.You will make plans with someone and then immediately regret it. When befriending someone it is easy for you to exchange numbers and offer to hang out. Following through is a whole other story.
    6. You wish you could feel as comfortable with the world as you do with your friends. You might be a jokester amongst your crowd and a mute in public. You hate dancing with people you don’t know, but have no problem actin’ a fool around your friends.
    7. You feel that no one gets you. Well how could they? One minute we might be the life of the party and for the next three weeks we curl up in bed watching every Netflix movie and TV series we can think of.
    8. You are always the first one who wants to go home.  You have had your fun wherever you are and now it is time to be a recluse. If you are at a party or a social gathering you generally will be the first one to hint at leaving. You might even subtly take your car keys out and spin them around your finger.
    9. When you tag along with a friend to a random party. Have you ever been asked to go with someone to a party because “we will have a great time” and begrudgingly agree? Only to get there, lose your outgoing friend to eighty people, and question why you ever agreed to come.
    10. You aren’t the best at texting and people take it personally. Friends often complain about how bad you are at responding to texts. Significant others eventually hate you for it. It’s not that we don’t care, we just need our space and aren’t great at vocalizing that.
    11. You sometimes feel alone in a room full of people. Being around people don’t stop you from retreating into your head. In fact, sometimes they motivate you to do so.
    12. You are very indecisive. How could you not be? Part of you is telling you to get out of your head and the other is telling you to retreat in it.
    13. You are always asked if everything is okay. People see you acting outgoing and assume that you are normally that way. So when someone notices you’re quiet, they may think you are upset even if you’re just enjoying a much needed moment to yourself!
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    Last Updated on November 15, 2018

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

    As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

    The Success Mindset

    Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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    The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

    The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

    The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

    How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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    How To Create a Success Mindset

    People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

    1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

    How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

    A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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    There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

    2. Look For The Successes

    It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

    3. Eliminate Negativity

    You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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    When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

    4. Create a Vision

    Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

    If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

    An Inspirational Story…

    For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

    What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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