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The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The term ambivert refers to someone who exhibits qualities of both an extrovert and an introvert.  You might be an extrovert if you are outgoing, love social gatherings and generally speaking, enjoy surrounding yourself with people. In contrast, if you are an introvert, you are likely more concerned with your internal mentality and do not crave external influences to appease your ego.

Most people have a tendency to lean towards one side of the spectrum or the other.  The middle of the venn diagram is where the ambivert resides.

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    13 of the Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

    1. When you go out you wish you were home, and when you stay home you wish you went out. When you are home alone, you get a bad case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Conversely, when you are out you feel that you could be getting much more done (whatever that means) when you are home.
    2. You can never get everything done. You want to meet new people, go to new places and experience new things all while your inner introvert plans a full day of self-education and reflection. Unfortunately there aren’t 48 hours in a day so you tend to be anxious!
    3. You can’t decide whether you love or hate social media. At times you will be constantly plugged in; tweeting, posting and messaging your fingers away. Then will come the dry spell where you don’t sign into your account for weeks. Rarely will there ever be consistency.
    4. Being alright is never good enough for you. You need change and you need it now! Your social side is calling for friends and interaction while your introvert craves time for yourself.
    5. You’re great at meeting new people but struggle to stay connected.You will make plans with someone and then immediately regret it. When befriending someone it is easy for you to exchange numbers and offer to hang out. Following through is a whole other story.
    6. You wish you could feel as comfortable with the world as you do with your friends. You might be a jokester amongst your crowd and a mute in public. You hate dancing with people you don’t know, but have no problem actin’ a fool around your friends.
    7. You feel that no one gets you. Well how could they? One minute we might be the life of the party and for the next three weeks we curl up in bed watching every Netflix movie and TV series we can think of.
    8. You are always the first one who wants to go home.  You have had your fun wherever you are and now it is time to be a recluse. If you are at a party or a social gathering you generally will be the first one to hint at leaving. You might even subtly take your car keys out and spin them around your finger.
    9. When you tag along with a friend to a random party. Have you ever been asked to go with someone to a party because “we will have a great time” and begrudgingly agree? Only to get there, lose your outgoing friend to eighty people, and question why you ever agreed to come.
    10. You aren’t the best at texting and people take it personally. Friends often complain about how bad you are at responding to texts. Significant others eventually hate you for it. It’s not that we don’t care, we just need our space and aren’t great at vocalizing that.
    11. You sometimes feel alone in a room full of people. Being around people don’t stop you from retreating into your head. In fact, sometimes they motivate you to do so.
    12. You are very indecisive. How could you not be? Part of you is telling you to get out of your head and the other is telling you to retreat in it.
    13. You are always asked if everything is okay. People see you acting outgoing and assume that you are normally that way. So when someone notices you’re quiet, they may think you are upset even if you’re just enjoying a much needed moment to yourself!
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    Last Updated on January 21, 2020

    How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

    How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

    If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

    Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

    So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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    1. Listen

    Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

    2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

    Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

    “Why do you want to do that?”

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    “What makes you so excited about it?”

    “How long has that been your dream?”

    You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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    3. Encourage

    This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

    4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

    After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

    5. Dream

    This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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    6. Ask How You Can Help

    Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

    7. Follow Up

    Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

    Final Thoughts

    By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

    Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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