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The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

The term ambivert refers to someone who exhibits qualities of both an extrovert and an introvert.  You might be an extrovert if you are outgoing, love social gatherings and generally speaking, enjoy surrounding yourself with people. In contrast, if you are an introvert, you are likely more concerned with your internal mentality and do not crave external influences to appease your ego.

Most people have a tendency to lean towards one side of the spectrum or the other.  The middle of the venn diagram is where the ambivert resides.

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    13 of the Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

    1. When you go out you wish you were home, and when you stay home you wish you went out. When you are home alone, you get a bad case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Conversely, when you are out you feel that you could be getting much more done (whatever that means) when you are home.
    2. You can never get everything done. You want to meet new people, go to new places and experience new things all while your inner introvert plans a full day of self-education and reflection. Unfortunately there aren’t 48 hours in a day so you tend to be anxious!
    3. You can’t decide whether you love or hate social media. At times you will be constantly plugged in; tweeting, posting and messaging your fingers away. Then will come the dry spell where you don’t sign into your account for weeks. Rarely will there ever be consistency.
    4. Being alright is never good enough for you. You need change and you need it now! Your social side is calling for friends and interaction while your introvert craves time for yourself.
    5. You’re great at meeting new people but struggle to stay connected.You will make plans with someone and then immediately regret it. When befriending someone it is easy for you to exchange numbers and offer to hang out. Following through is a whole other story.
    6. You wish you could feel as comfortable with the world as you do with your friends. You might be a jokester amongst your crowd and a mute in public. You hate dancing with people you don’t know, but have no problem actin’ a fool around your friends.
    7. You feel that no one gets you. Well how could they? One minute we might be the life of the party and for the next three weeks we curl up in bed watching every Netflix movie and TV series we can think of.
    8. You are always the first one who wants to go home.  You have had your fun wherever you are and now it is time to be a recluse. If you are at a party or a social gathering you generally will be the first one to hint at leaving. You might even subtly take your car keys out and spin them around your finger.
    9. When you tag along with a friend to a random party. Have you ever been asked to go with someone to a party because “we will have a great time” and begrudgingly agree? Only to get there, lose your outgoing friend to eighty people, and question why you ever agreed to come.
    10. You aren’t the best at texting and people take it personally. Friends often complain about how bad you are at responding to texts. Significant others eventually hate you for it. It’s not that we don’t care, we just need our space and aren’t great at vocalizing that.
    11. You sometimes feel alone in a room full of people. Being around people don’t stop you from retreating into your head. In fact, sometimes they motivate you to do so.
    12. You are very indecisive. How could you not be? Part of you is telling you to get out of your head and the other is telling you to retreat in it.
    13. You are always asked if everything is okay. People see you acting outgoing and assume that you are normally that way. So when someone notices you’re quiet, they may think you are upset even if you’re just enjoying a much needed moment to yourself!
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    Last Updated on September 20, 2018

    7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

    7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

    What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

    For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

    It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

    1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

    The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

    What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

    The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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    2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

    Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

    How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

    If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

    Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

    3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

    Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

    If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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    These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

    What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

    4. What are my goals in life?

    Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

    Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

    5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

    Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

    Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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    You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

    Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

    6. What do I not like to do?

    An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

    What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

    Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

    The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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    7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

    Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

    But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

    “What do I want to do with my life?”

    So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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