Advertising
Advertising

If You’ve Found a Nerd, Congratulations!

If You’ve Found a Nerd, Congratulations!

If you find you are looking at someone close to you and noticing that they are a bit of a nerd, then you may just be in luck. Having a nerd to love and rely on may be the best thing that has happened to you in a long time. Nerds are often given a bad rap but there is much more to nerds that you may give credit to.

Nerds can be socially awkward as they tend to shy away from situations that demand a socially outgoing presence. Nerdy people sometimes speak about things that you may not be able to relate to and this may make you view them as eccentric and difficult to talk to. Nerds are not always interested in trendy fashion or the latest gossip and this can sometimes cause you to believe that they are not exciting. But, there is more than meets the eye.

They’re so clever

Often nerds are so clever that it causes them to think and see things differently. You may approach a problem or a situation in a direct and straight forward manner, but a nerd will think outside the box and come up with creative solutions and ideas. Their ability to find answers to problems you thought you would never solve will leave you admiring their ingenuity.

Advertising

They have a quirky perspective

The quirkiness of nerds gives them a unique perspective on things, people and situations. They may leave you wondering: Why did I never notice that before? They can open your eyes to a whole new world.

They have crazy imagination

Nerds are highly imaginative. They will often blow you away with their imagination and leave you wondering: How did they think of that? You will marvel at the scenes and scenarios they create in their heads.

They’re resourceful.

Nerds know how to make the most of the materials and resources they have at their disposal and may surprise you with their shrewdness. They may come up with wacky inventions from things they have lying around the house and this will leave you laughing and amazed.

Advertising

They don’t follow social standards

Nerds do not conform to societal standards and as such can be candid in their approach to life. When you get to know a nerd you appreciate their sincerity and truthfulness. In an age when there is a lot of pretense a nerd can bring a refreshing frankness to a situation or conversation. It is a great thing to have someone around how you know is going to tell you the truth; no matter what!

They influence you a lot

Nerds can have a very positive influence on you. Nerds can teach you how to be true to yourself and how not to be overly influenced by external pressures and demands. You can learn from a nerd’s quirkiness. You can learn to see your nerd’s eccentricity as an asset and, as such, see the value in your own quirks and idiosyncrasies. By observing how a nerd relates to others with honesty and openness, you can internalize and practice these virtues.

They can enjoy themselves

A nerd may decide to go to a coffee shop by themselves. Sometimes they may not feel like talking to anyone and as such prefer their own company. This can be a very refreshing and rewarding experience as they do not have the pressure of keeping up with conversation or making a good impression. They can simply sit and enjoy their coffee while taking in their pleasant surroundings.

Advertising

They’re enthusiastic

At work a nerd might volunteer to take on a new project. They may have many exciting and unique ideas that they believe will make the project great. Their enthusiasm and ingenious way of looking at things will most likely be well received by their boss.

Often a nerd will take time out of their busy schedule to be attentive to other people’s needs. They may on impulse decide to take you out to a movie one evening. Nerds can be surprising with their spontaneity and generosity.

If you are fortunate enough to have a nerd in your life, then keep them close. They are a rare find and it is worth holding on to them.

Advertising

Featured photo credit: assets entrepreneur via assets.entrepreneur.com

More by this author

Rebecca Beris

Rebecca is a wellness and lifestyle writer at Lifehack.

Science Says Silence Is Much More Important To Our Brains Than We Think 16 Unhealthy Habits You Should Get Rid Of By 35 Years Old How To Get Rid Of A Headache Without Medicine 7 Surprising Benefits Of Drinking Warm Water In The Morning Typical Day of A Minimalist vs A Maximalist

Trending in Communication

1 How to Practice Positive Thinking And Change Your Life 2 12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life 3 What Makes a Good Leader? 10 Essential Leadership Qualities 4 How Not to Be Boring (And Start to Be More Interesting) 5 11 Tips for Maintaining Your Positive Attitude

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

Advertising

2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

Advertising

Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

Advertising

Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

Advertising

Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

More About Finding Yourself

Featured photo credit: Andrew Neel via unsplash.com

Read Next