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If You’ve Found a Nerd, Congratulations!

If You’ve Found a Nerd, Congratulations!

If you find you are looking at someone close to you and noticing that they are a bit of a nerd, then you may just be in luck. Having a nerd to love and rely on may be the best thing that has happened to you in a long time. Nerds are often given a bad rap but there is much more to nerds that you may give credit to.

Nerds can be socially awkward as they tend to shy away from situations that demand a socially outgoing presence. Nerdy people sometimes speak about things that you may not be able to relate to and this may make you view them as eccentric and difficult to talk to. Nerds are not always interested in trendy fashion or the latest gossip and this can sometimes cause you to believe that they are not exciting. But, there is more than meets the eye.

They’re so clever

Often nerds are so clever that it causes them to think and see things differently. You may approach a problem or a situation in a direct and straight forward manner, but a nerd will think outside the box and come up with creative solutions and ideas. Their ability to find answers to problems you thought you would never solve will leave you admiring their ingenuity.

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They have a quirky perspective

The quirkiness of nerds gives them a unique perspective on things, people and situations. They may leave you wondering: Why did I never notice that before? They can open your eyes to a whole new world.

They have crazy imagination

Nerds are highly imaginative. They will often blow you away with their imagination and leave you wondering: How did they think of that? You will marvel at the scenes and scenarios they create in their heads.

They’re resourceful.

Nerds know how to make the most of the materials and resources they have at their disposal and may surprise you with their shrewdness. They may come up with wacky inventions from things they have lying around the house and this will leave you laughing and amazed.

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They don’t follow social standards

Nerds do not conform to societal standards and as such can be candid in their approach to life. When you get to know a nerd you appreciate their sincerity and truthfulness. In an age when there is a lot of pretense a nerd can bring a refreshing frankness to a situation or conversation. It is a great thing to have someone around how you know is going to tell you the truth; no matter what!

They influence you a lot

Nerds can have a very positive influence on you. Nerds can teach you how to be true to yourself and how not to be overly influenced by external pressures and demands. You can learn from a nerd’s quirkiness. You can learn to see your nerd’s eccentricity as an asset and, as such, see the value in your own quirks and idiosyncrasies. By observing how a nerd relates to others with honesty and openness, you can internalize and practice these virtues.

They can enjoy themselves

A nerd may decide to go to a coffee shop by themselves. Sometimes they may not feel like talking to anyone and as such prefer their own company. This can be a very refreshing and rewarding experience as they do not have the pressure of keeping up with conversation or making a good impression. They can simply sit and enjoy their coffee while taking in their pleasant surroundings.

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They’re enthusiastic

At work a nerd might volunteer to take on a new project. They may have many exciting and unique ideas that they believe will make the project great. Their enthusiasm and ingenious way of looking at things will most likely be well received by their boss.

Often a nerd will take time out of their busy schedule to be attentive to other people’s needs. They may on impulse decide to take you out to a movie one evening. Nerds can be surprising with their spontaneity and generosity.

If you are fortunate enough to have a nerd in your life, then keep them close. They are a rare find and it is worth holding on to them.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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