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8 Things That People Who Can’t Stop Talking To Themselves Can Highly Relate To

8 Things That People Who Can’t Stop Talking To Themselves Can Highly Relate To

Often you want to push yourself to be more productive. You want to stop talking to yourself sometimes. You want a quiet mind. But it’s extremely hard. Thoughts pop out here and there, related to past, present and future.

“Oh you look great today, what happened to you last night?” I said to myself in the morning.

“What a sunny day! What if I can be one of the clouds and float in the blue sky?” I asked myself.

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Though sometimes such behavior is non-controllable. There’re advantages too. One of them is that it makes me feel calm.

Below are the reasons it happens a lot, how it helps, the struggles we encounter.

1. Memories and relationships are of particular importance.

You value memories of good times and positive relationship that you have in your life. You hold these things dear and do not take them for granted. You often find it pleasing to think about memories you have of recent events or conversations you have shared with friends and family. As memories and relationships are very important to you, you value keeping these alive and fresh in your mind. By saying things out loud you are able to remember the event or person more vividly and this helps you to clearly reminisceov about pleasant times and positive connections.

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2. You mind works non-stop; you constantly have new ideas and thoughts.

Your mind is on constant overdrive. Your thoughts run around your head like a whirl wind. By verbalizing some of these ideas you are able to slow your thoughts down a bit and focus on one thing at a time. Hearing what you are thinking makes things clearer and easier to decipher.

3. You’re a drama queen; you play out dramatic scenarios in your mind.

You experienced lots of drama running through your mind, which you yourself create. You’re the one who writes the script, directs the action, starts in the show and acts as the audience. By controlling all of the elements you can create your reality as you would like it to be. Talking to yourself makes your personal dramatic ‘play’ all the more real. Once more you are also your own audience; always attentive.

4. You have a consultant in your head.

You always have someone who you can consult; yourself. You are always present and able to provide yourself with feedback and advice. By speaking to yourself out loud you can internalize your issues and problems better and as such can be a better consultant. The advice you have to offer yourself can be more pointed when you respond to information that is verbalized.

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5. You experience memory lapse.

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    You often find yourself drifting off in conversation and can forget what others have said. When people are having a discussion your mind is sometimes off in other places processing a lot of other information. You find it hard to stay focused and pay attention to what is happening around you. Often you are conversing with yourself and this distracts you from what is going on around you.

    6. You self-reflect a lot.

    You like to reflect on qualities you hold and attributes that you would like to possess. You can at times be critical when you see things in yourself that you do not like but you also like to praise yourself when you feel that you are doing well. By talking out loud it helps you internalize things you notice about yourself. Being able to hear what you think about attributes you possess and characteristics you would like to have makes it easier for you to come to terms with these things.

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    7. Your empathy can hurt you sometimes.

    As you’re very empathetic and sometimes you find yourself overly sad when you see other people struggling or in pain. You find it difficult to get out of this sad place even if nothing has directly happened to you. You sometimes see that it is useful to talk to yourself through painful experiences. You find it comforting to hear your own voice and can often sooth yourself through self talk.

    8. You have lots of fantastic or strange ideas that can stun people around you.

    You have a lot of radical and fantastic ideas that can often shock your friends and family. You think outside the box and this can sometimes surprise others. At times you find it best to run your extreme ideas past yourself before revealing them to others. You like to see how these ideas sound when you say them out loud. If they appear to be too out there you sometimes decide it is best to keep them to yourself.

    Talking to yourself is a unique trait that is sometimes misunderstood, but in actual fact it can be a very useful and reassuring virtue.

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    Last Updated on November 15, 2018

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

    What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

    As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

    The Success Mindset

    Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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    The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

    The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

    The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

    How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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    How To Create a Success Mindset

    People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

    1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

    How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

    A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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    There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

    2. Look For The Successes

    It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

    3. Eliminate Negativity

    You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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    When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

    4. Create a Vision

    Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

    If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

    An Inspirational Story…

    For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

    What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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