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How To Have A Good Relationship With Yourself

How To Have A Good Relationship With Yourself

Often there comes a time in life when you miss the person that you used to be. Maybe you have noticed that you have become more quiet and withdrawn, or maybe you have become more pessimistic.

This is normal and natural; you have a relationship with yourself, and relationships are not always perfect. We live in a society that often tells us to better ourselves in many ways, which can result in people struggling to love themselves.

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You spend every day with yourself, so to be truly happy it is important to have a loving and respectful relationship with yourself. Check out 8 things you can do to make sure you have a good relationship with yourself.

1. Do one thing that makes you happy every day

From having a hot bubble bath to watching your favorite show on Netflix, try to do something alone every day that you really enjoy. This will help you to look forward to spending time alone with yourself, and during these times you will learn more about who you are as a person.

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2. Start a new hobby

Can you think of a hobby that you’ve always wanted to learn? From cooking to yoga to salsa, learning a new skill will help to increase your self-esteem and self-worth, showing you how much you have to offer to the world.

3. Take yourself out on a date

Dating is a great way to get to know someone, including yourself. Try treating yourself to a perfect night out; put on your favorite outfit, book a table at your favorite restaurant, and order a meal that you love. Stroll home at your own pace; remember this date is all about you.

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4. Laugh every day

Laughing every day releases chemicals that boost your mood, so ring your funniest friend or listen to a comedy podcast. This will improve your overall outlook, helping you to have a better perspective on life – and yourself.

5. Spend time with people who are likeminded

Humans are pretty unique, which often results in people feeling lonely and isolated. If you mainly associate with people who you have little in common with, you can start to think that your interests are dull or strange.
Try spending time with other people who have similar interests so that you can grow together. Realizing that you are not alone will help you to fall in love with your uniqueness.

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6. Go for a walk outside

If you feel like you don’t really know who you are anymore, going for a walk outside may help. Exercise has been proven to help boost your mood and your health, which results in increased energy and better sleeping habits.
Being outside will also benefit you; it will help you to realize how wonderful and beautiful the world around you is. This moving reflection will help you to make peace with yourself and the world around you.

7. Write a weekly gratitude list

At the end of each week, sit down and write down 7 things that you are grateful for. Often we take things for granted without realizing how lucky we actually are. You can list anything, from your family to a delicious bagel you ate before work. Life is filled with things that bring joy, and making a note of them will help to make you happier with your life and yourself.

8. Say positive things to yourself every day

If you want to have a better relationship with yourself, try saying positive affirmations in the mirror every morning and evening, such as “I love who I am” and “You deserve happiness.” You may feel a little cheesy to begin with, but your mind will be listening. Keep saying the affirmations and eventually you will start to believe they are true. Good luck!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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