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48 Men Tell Us Things They’ve Been Hearing Too Much In Their Lives

48 Men Tell Us Things They’ve Been Hearing Too Much In Their Lives

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    As feminists gain more and more rights for women, and as minorities fight tooth and nail for equality, it is easy to ignore the pain and shame most men endure as they grow up. Fortunately, these 48 men were brave enough to tell Huffington Post exactly what cruel, cutting phrases they hear too much. Here are the lessons they shared with us:

    1. Toys should never be gender-specific.

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      2. Colors, neither.

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        3. Everyone has the right to show his or her emotions.

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          4. Strength is important ― but there is more to a person than how much he or she can lift.

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            5. Any fist can hurt, no matter who that fist belongs to — but words can hurt more.

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              6. This should be a compliment, not an insult.

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                7. Asking questions should be informative, not insensitive and cruel.

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                  8. No one should be subjected to such tactless peer pressure.

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                    9. Because there is more to life.

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                      10. Giving and receiving love from one’s mother should be cherished, not scorned.

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                        11. Just as women come in all shapes and sizes, men don’t conform to a single body type.

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                          12. Hair (or lack thereof) does not determine a person’s worth.

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                            13. It is bad enough reducing a woman to body parts, but forcing men into one of two groups is painful.

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                              14. Having sex is an inherently personal choice, not a marker of social success.

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                                15. In fact, nice guys usually lead the happiest and most fulfilling lives.

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                                  16. Your dating style is determined by your personality (and maybe your sign), not what others tell you.

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                                    17. Gender is no excuse for bad behavior.

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                                      18. Everyone knows the brightly colored drinks are the tastiest.

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                                        19. It is shameful that finding a caring and compex man is a source of surprise.

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                                          20. Again, comparing a man to a woman as an insult is inappropriate.

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                                            21. Enforcing heteronormative roles is naïve and insenstive.

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                                              22. What happened to ‘size doesn’t matter?’

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                                                23. Only you and your partner have the right to an opinion regarding your sexual encounter.

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                                                  24. This is ignorant.

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                                                    25. This is malicious on so many levels.

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                                                      26. As if your girlfiend can’t decide for herself whom she can speak with.

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                                                        27. Violence is never, never, appropriate, and violence never, never, shows your worth.

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                                                          28. This term is offensive to anyone, no matter your gender.

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                                                            29. The history of this insult is much more brutal than you might know.

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                                                              30. Does anyone actually know what this means?

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                                                                31. Face it: Everyone loves Adele, and no one should be abused for it.

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                                                                  32. It’s unreasonable to assume that anyone could keep a dry eye during ‘Up.’

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                                                                    33. Because free speech applies to everyone, even women in relationships.

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                                                                      34. The power structure of relationships has changed, but some people don’t understand.

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                                                                        35. As women enter traditionally male careers, men move into traditionally female positions. It’s good for everyone.

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                                                                          36. This is insulting no matter who you are or what you do.

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                                                                            37. Why should a person be foced to abandon his or her identity if he or she doesn’t want to?

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                                                                              38. Salary is important — only insofar as it provides shelter, food, and comfort, not prestige.

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                                                                                39. Nothing should be able to take away a person’s confidence.

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                                                                                  40. It’s a choice. And no one can judge.

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                                                                                    41. Dancing is a human desire, not a gendered one.

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                                                                                      42. It is dangerous to set such negative expectations on an entire gender.

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                                                                                        43. Most times, possessions are just possessions.

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                                                                                          44. Fatherly protection should only extend so far.

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                                                                                            45. In fact, there are more prolific male chefs than female chefs.

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                                                                                              46. Both people wear the pants, because everyone can wear whatever he or she wants.

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                                                                                                47. Everyone gets older; it’s nothing to be ashamed about.

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                                                                                                  48. That time is the past, present, and future. Men will always be men, no matter how they act, what they like, or why they make their choices.

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                                                                                                    Featured photo credit: Huffington Post via youtube.com

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                                                                                                    What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                                                                                                    What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                                                                                                    Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

                                                                                                    They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

                                                                                                    It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

                                                                                                    1. They Manage Their Expectations

                                                                                                    They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

                                                                                                    2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

                                                                                                    Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

                                                                                                    3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

                                                                                                    Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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                                                                                                    4. They’re Not Materialistic

                                                                                                    There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

                                                                                                    5. They Don’t Dwell

                                                                                                    They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

                                                                                                    6. They Care About Themselves First

                                                                                                    They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

                                                                                                    They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

                                                                                                    7. They Enjoy the Little Things

                                                                                                    They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

                                                                                                    8. They Can Adapt

                                                                                                    They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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                                                                                                    9. They Experiment

                                                                                                    They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

                                                                                                    10. They Take Their Time

                                                                                                    They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

                                                                                                    11. They Employ Different Perspectives

                                                                                                    They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

                                                                                                    12. They Seek to Learn

                                                                                                    Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

                                                                                                    13. They Always Have a Plan

                                                                                                    They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

                                                                                                    14. They Give Respect to Get It

                                                                                                    They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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                                                                                                    15. They Consider Every Opportunity

                                                                                                    They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

                                                                                                    16. They Always Seek to Improve

                                                                                                    Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

                                                                                                    17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

                                                                                                    They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

                                                                                                    18. They Live in the Moment

                                                                                                    They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

                                                                                                    You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

                                                                                                    19. They Say Yes

                                                                                                    Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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                                                                                                    20. They’re Self-Aware

                                                                                                    Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

                                                                                                    We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

                                                                                                    Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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                                                                                                    Final Thoughts

                                                                                                    The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

                                                                                                    For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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