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15 Things Only A Middle Child Would Know

15 Things Only A Middle Child Would Know

Being a middle child can be tough. We don’t get to be the cute baby of the family, and we can never get away with anything. But being in the middle doesn’t mean that we are boring; in fact, the truth is far from that. The middle child is often the strongest of them all. They are creative, interesting and they can handle pressure well – and they are really, really good at sharing things.

Here are 15 things that only a middle child would know.

1. We are open-minded and we see the world through different perspectives

As children we saw the world through both of our sibling’s eyes as well as our own, which taught us to be open-minded and empathetic.

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2. We are responsible

The oldest child makes the first mistakes and the middle child watches it happen. This taught us that actions have consequences, and that it is important to be responsible.

3. We were occasionally ignored

The middle child is often used to not being noticed, as they were overshadowed by their siblings. This means we don’t care much about being in the spotlight, and we enjoy focusing on other people’s achievements.

4. We are happy to go with the flow

Our siblings were always fighting over what game we should play, and as the middle child we were expected to make a decision, even though if we weren’t interested in playing. These tensions taught us to be relaxed and to go with the flow, shaping us as people.

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5. We embrace our personalities

Rather than wanting to fit in, we wanted to stand out – just like our other siblings. Our siblings taught us that standing out makes you more noticeable, so we embraced all of our quirks and interesting personality traits.

6. We are fair and reasonable

We saw our oldest sibling being punished for small things like missing a curfew, and we saw our youngest sibling get away with nearly everything. This gave us a strong sense of justice, and often the middle child is the most fair and reasonable sibling.

7. We didn’t always get praised

We always had an older sibling who set the bar high, and our younger siblings were praised for virtually anything. The middle child had to earn praise with strengths and skills, teaching us the benefits of hard work.

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8. We have interesting personalities

The middle child has to work to get their parent’s attention – and the easiest way to do this is to have a great personality. We always had interesting facts and funny stories to tell, and as adults we are great socializers.

9. We felt both younger and older as children

One day we were hanging in the park with our cool older sibling, and the next day we were brushing Barbie’s hair with the youngest sibling.

10. We are good negotiators

The middle child isn’t the baby of the family or the mature child, so we couldn’t rely on our cuteness or matureness to get things. Instead we became expert negotiators. Now we are great at arguing, but we also know when to be patient and when to back down.

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11. We know how to fight for what we want

Nothing was handed to the middle child easily. We fought and argued to have our turn with the TV remote, and we grew up to be strong adults who know how to fight for what we want.

12. We can stand up for ourselves

The middle child is used to being between sibling fights, and often our siblings tried to force us to take a side. This taught us to stay out of the drama while standing up for ourselves.

13. We are diplomatic

Whenever the other siblings fought, the middle child was always there to help resolve the situation. Now we are great at peace-making – and we have our siblings to thank for it.

14. We know how to share

Whenever the middle child got a new toy, there was always another sibling clamouring to play with it. We became used to hand-me-downs, and we learned to love sharing – the most important things aren’t material, anyway.

15. We know a lot about pop culture

We watched cool PG films with our older sibling and Disney films with our youngest sibling, so now we know pretty much everything about that era of pop culture.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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