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10 Things That Happen When You Move Across the Country

10 Things That Happen When You Move Across the Country

East and West, New York and LA—the two extreme sides of this country are so different that, at times, they can feel like different countries altogether. So when you find yourself moving from one to the other, needless to say, there are going to be a lot of adjustments for you to get used to. Here are some of the things you can expect to happen if you decide to make the big move.

1. The way you get from A to B completely transforms.

The car is king in Los Angeles, but upon moving to New York, you’re bound to discover fairly quickly that it’s often not worth even owning a car at all. People tend to get around using the subway, walking, and through hiring the occasional taxi. Conversely, when you move in the other direction, you will soon find that public transport is no longer a staple, and you will have to drive just about anywhere you need to be (with plenty of traffic on the way).

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2. You have to get used to a completely new climate.

The perpetual sunshine of LA could not be more different from the four contrasting seasons that you will experience on the East Coast. Whether you are moving east or west, you will no doubt have to completely transform your wardrobe to adjust to the new climate.

3. You end up answering endless questions about your previous city of residence.

Whichever direction you are moving, be prepared to answer the same questions over and over about your recent move—it’s just part and parcel of moving someplace new, especially when that new place is across the other side of the country. “Oh, you just moved from ___? That’s a big adjustment! How are you settling in here in ____? What made you move?” And so on.

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4. They speak a whole different language.

OK, so maybe they don’t literally speak a different language, but there are a so many nuances in the speech, slang, and culture of each big city that sometimes it can feel as though they really do. Lucky for you, it should only take a few months to get used to the new city and you’ll be talking about the MTA like a pro.

5. There is a whole new social scene to get used to.

And along with the language—in fact, a large part of what influences it—there is a whole new social scene to get used to. And though drinks with friends is a near-universal activity, certain location-specific features mean that you will have to adjust to other things accordingly. For example, it’s a lot more common to spend a day or evening at the beach when you live in LA than in New York.

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6. You get involved in a lot of arguments about food.

In n’ Out versus Shake Shack, pizza versus Mexican—one thing that locals of any given city are particularly passionate about is food. It will be hard for you not to romanticize the food in your previous city, but don’t worry: you will have plenty of people with whom you can debate the matter.

7. You still spend just as much money.

Another universal fact about large cities, especially LA and New York, is that they are not cheap places to reside. From the cost of rent, to transport, and even food, you won’t need to adjust your budget very much as high prices will break the bank on either coast.

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8. The concept of space is completely different.

When compared with the history of New York, Los Angeles is a relatively new city. It is for this reason that it was built for cars and roads. It also means that there is generally a lot more space to be found in LA. If you make the move across to New York, you will probably find that what constitutes a large space is no longer as big as it once was.

9. You meet plenty of diverse and interesting new people.

While it can be a difficult adjustment at first, one comfort of moving to one of these big cities is that you will meet a lot of other “outsiders” like yourself, who moved from similarly far-off places. Meeting new and interesting people every day is one of the best things about living in a big city.

10. You miss home occasionally, but still love your new city.

All of these things may be a scary prospect at first, but it doesn’t take long to fit into the rhythm of a brand new city. If you embrace the differences, rather than fighting against them, you will soon find that any homesickness fades away and you will grow to love your new home as much as your old one.

Featured photo credit: cofiem/City via flic.kr

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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