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7 Reasons Late Sleepers Are Amazing Friends

7 Reasons Late Sleepers Are Amazing Friends

Sleeping in has negative connotations. It’s mostly because the people who consistently hit snooze are often caught running late and leaving others waiting. But sleeping in is not as big of a deal as its made out to be. In fact, people who sleep in are often better friends than those who get up early.

Here are seven reasons why:

1). You Can Connect with Them

Somebody who is well-rested is easier to connect with. People who sleep in are rarely meeting you for coffee at 6:30 AM before their big meeting. They’re also not squeezing you in between dance practice and their networking event.

Instead, people who sleep in move at a slower pace and make their connections more meaningful. You’ll never have to run a background check on a late sleeper if you have one as a friend or acquaintance because they are among the most trustworthy people you’ll ever meet, with no hidden agenda. They have more time to devote to spending quality time together. As an added bonus, that free time means that they are not thinking about other things when you’re hanging out.

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2). They Remain Forever Young

People who allow themselves to sleep in aren’t caught up in the rat race. They don’t suffer from the hyper-competitiveness that plagues so many people after age 25. This keeps them feeling young and stops them from aging prematurely.

They’ve still got priorities. They’re just not so tightly wound.

Everyone needs someone like this in their life to keep you from spiraling out of control. After all, have you ever seen wrinkles and gray hairs on someone who sleeps until noon?

3). They Appreciate Their Alone Time

People who like to sleep can appreciate the time they spend alone. They’re often dreamers who enjoy spending time exploring the depths of their imaginations.

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This makes them amazing friends because they can do things alone. They don’t need to call you for lunch every single day. You can take a trip together and spend some restorative time apart without questioning your friendship.

Having someone who loves you but does not need to be next to you all day is refreshing because you can grow as friends and as individuals. That is the best and longest-lasting kind of friendship.

4). They Reflect on Their Actions

Late sleepers are more contemplative than other people. It makes them great friends because they don’t jump the gun when thinking about important things. They are less likely to blame you for something you didn’t do because they thought too fast. Instead, they’re more likely to take responsibility for their shortcomings.

This translates into less drama, zero resentment and an awesome friendship.

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5). They Have a Calm Aura

Everyone needs that one friend who projects a calm aura because that calmness is infectious. If you spend even a few minutes alone with them, you begin to feel better.

Their calm nature also makes them better listeners. They are more likely to listen to you when you are in distress than to jump in and offer their own advice. Then, when you’re all worked up they can bring you back down to earth with a soft landing.

6). They Work Smart, Not Hard

It is incorrect to say that people who sleep in are lazy. In fact, they’re more productive than most because they get the sleep they need and then work during their most productive hours. More importantly, they rank working smart over working hard.

It does not matter who you are, everyone can use a lesson in working productively. At the very least, it is inspiration; but if you’re not careful, your friend’s approach to sleep and life can change the way you do everything.

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7). They Don’t Care What Others Think of Them

Adults who choose to sleep past 7:30 AM don’t care what other people think of them. Rather than focusing on other people’s opinions, they do what they want because who do you sleep for if not for yourself?

Having one friend who does not care about the petty opinions of others will help you remember that your ex’s mother’s sister was not right about you.

Everyone needs a late sleeper in their life. Not only do they help calm you down but they help you achieve a more balanced perspective on life. Late sleepers might often be late but they are definitely worth the wait.

Featured photo credit: Diego F. Garcia P via flickr.com

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Last Updated on October 14, 2020

The Art of Humble Confidence

The Art of Humble Confidence

To be confident or not to be confident, that is the question. I’m not sure about you, but I’ve been a bit confused about all this discussion about the subject of confidence. Do you really need to be more confident or should you try to be more humble? I think the answer is both – you just have to know where to use it.

East VS West – Confidence, It’s a Cultural Thing

In typical Western countries, the answer to the confidence debate is obvious – more is better. Our heros are rebellious, independent and shoot first, ask questions later. I think this snippet of dialog from The Matrix sums it up best:

Agent Smith – “We’re willing to wipe the slate clean, give you a fresh start. All that we’re asking in return is your cooperation in bringing a known terrorist to justice.”
Neo – “Yeah. Well, that sounds like a pretty good deal. But I think I may have a better one. How about, I give you the finger”
[He does]
Neo -“ …and you give me my phone call.”

In Eastern countries, the tone is often considerably different. Elders are supposed to be revered not dismissed. The words ‘guru,’ meaning a teacher, and the philosophy of dharma, loosely translated to mean ‘duty,’ come from here. In Eastern cultures humility and respect are more important than confidence.

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These perspectives are generalizations, but it shows how the confidence debate goes back deep into our culture. I think that both extremes of pure confidence or pure humility are misguided. Instead of rectifying this situation by simply blending the two: becoming somewhat humble, somewhat confident all the time, I believe the answer is to know when to be confident and when to be humble.

Humble Confidence – Know When to Use It

I’m going to make another broad generalization. I believe that virtually every relationship you are going to have is going to fit into one of two major archetypes, either master or student. In peer relationships this master/student role may switch frequently, but it is extremely rare that the relationship never leans to one side.

In the master role, you are displaying confidence to get what you want. This is public speaker, leader or seducer. Being the master has advantages. You have more control and ability to influence from this role.

The student role is the opposite. You are intentionally displaying humility. This is the student, disciple or follower. Being the student has advantages too. You can learn a lot more in this role and are more likely to win the trust of the other person.

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Know When to Shut Up and Learn

If you are a typical Westerner, you are probably already thinking about which role you prefer. Being the leader is great. You get respect and a higher status. Most of all you get a greater degree of control.

But the problem is that you can’t and shouldn’t always try to be the leader. Trying to assume that role without the skills, resources or status to back it up will lead to conflict. More importantly, there are many times when you purposely want to display humility. Some of the benefits to the student role include:

  • You learn more.
  • Smooths relationships.
  • Makes others more willing to lend a helping hand.

Knowing when taking the humble route is to your advantage. It is far easier to get mentors and advisors if you use humility rather than arrogance. A small sacrifice to your ego can open up the potential to learn a lot.

Confidence to Persuade, Humility to Learn

In reality almost no relationship is as clearly defined as master/student. Within our connections, people have overlapping areas of expertise. I might be an expert in blogging to a non-blogger, but they might be an expert in finance. In each area there are different roles to take.

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Before any interaction ask yourself what the purpose is. Are you trying to learn or persuade?

Persuasion requires confidence. If you are trying to sell, instruct or lead you need to display the confidence to match your message. But learning requires humility. You won’t learn anything if you are constantly arguing with your professors, mentors or employers. Taking a dose of humility and temporarily making yourself a student gives you the opportunity to absorb.

Persuade Less, Learn More

Persuasion is great for immediate effect, but learning matters over the long-haul. Instead of washing over all your communication with pure confidence, look for opportunities to learn. Persuading someone to follow you may give you an immediate boost of satisfaction, but it doesn’t last. Learning, however, is an investment for the future.

Whenever I make a connection with someone and realize they have a skill or understanding I want, I am careful to express humility in that area. That means listening with what they say even if I don’t immediately agree and being patient with their response. This method often drastically cuts down the time I need to spend on trial and error to learn by myself.

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Confidence/Humility Doesn’t Replace Communication Skills

This approach of selectively using confidence and humility for different purposes doesn’t replace communication skills. Humility isn’t going to work if the other person thinks you’re an irritating whiner. Confidence won’t work if the entire room thinks you are an arrogant jerk. Knowing how to display these two qualities takes practice.

The next time you are about to enter into an interaction ask yourself why you are doing it. Are you trying to persuade or learn? Depending on which you can take a completely different tact for far better results.

Featured photo credit: BBH Singapore via unsplash.com

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