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3 Easy Tips to Make Sober Friends While Recovering from Addiction

3 Easy Tips to Make Sober Friends While Recovering from Addiction

Relapse is not uncommon. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, 40 to 60 percent of drug abusers currently in a treatment program or in recent recovery experience at least one relapse episode. Only after completing approximately five years of seemingly endless recovery do former users approach an 85% chance of achieving lifetime sobriety. The road is long, there is no doubt, but you don’t have to travel it alone.

Why Make New Friends?

Recovering from a drug or alcohol addiction takes a toll on your body. The desire to make new friends is probably one of the last things on your mind, if it’s there at all. But building a network of new friends is one of the best ways to make sure you stay clean. A strong support network including people who won’t judge you for poor decisions you’ve made in the past will give you someone to turn to when the temptation of relapse calls out to you on a particularly rough night.

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Spending time with new friends also helps keep you away from old friends who may promote or even enable your drug or alcohol addiction. It’s difficult to cut ties with old friends, especially if they helped you cope with some tough times; but being around them is likely to trigger unpleasant memories and increase your risk of relapse. This is likely not a risk worth taking, as it can destroy any chances of healing your relationships with sober friends and family members and building a brighter future.

How to Make Sober Friends

1. Join a Support Group

In early addiction recovery, you may feel reluctant and unwilling to admit you are struggling or to express how you feel, especially among a group of strangers. And that’s okay. Attending a support group is about more than just expressing your feelings—it’s about realizing you’re not alone, that others are dealing with similar struggles and need just as much support as you as they finally take control of their lives and say no to their addictions.

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You have something in common with these individuals, and together you can help one another stay clean and create a better future. It is reassuring and even motivating to know that someone who is sincerely willing to support you is merely a phone call away, even at three o’clock in the morning. Attending a support group regularly is a great way for you to build that type of relationship.

2. Invest in a Hobby

Taking up a hobby is more than just collecting paperclips or birdwatching on the weekends. It’s a great way to spend time doing something you enjoy, time you may have otherwise spent sitting around and, pre-recovery, getting wasted. Not only is it a better use of your time, it’s an excellent way to meet others who share your interests.

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Reading is a more entertaining alternative for escaping reality than getting high or drunk. You can do it on your own or volunteer to read to young students or the elderly. Consider joining a book club, where you can view stories from other people’s points of views and develop relationships with fellow readers. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn your family history. Research your ancestors online to build your family tree and connect with relatives you didn’t know you had while discovering more about your heritage. Take photography classes. There are literally hundreds of hobbies to choose from.

3. Participate in Sober Activities

Instead of going clubbing or reconnecting with your old pals with drug or alcohol addictions, consider taking part in activities that keep you out and about and in good company.

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Ever wanted to further your education? Now would be the perfect time. Taking classes helps fill your spare time with subjects you’re interested in. With the countless classes you can take, homework requires a good portion of your time, as well. Get together with people from your classes to form study groups or just to hang out. There are so many things to see and do for free as well, where you can meet others with similar interests. Go to local festivals in the summertime. Google nearby towns for ideas on where to go and what to see. Explore historical sites. Visit art museums. The options are endless.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

7 Simple Rules to Live by to Get in Shape in Two Weeks

Learning how to get in shape and set goals is important if you’re looking to live a healthier lifestyle and get closer to your goal weight. While this does require changes to your daily routine, you’ll find that you are able to look and feel better in only two weeks.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about what it takes to get in shape. Although anyone can cover the basics (eat right and exercise), there are some things that I could only learn through trial and error. Let’s cover some of the most important points for how to get in shape in two weeks.

1. Exercise Daily

It is far easier to make exercise a habit if it is a daily one. If you aren’t exercising at all, I recommend starting by exercising a half hour every day. When you only exercise a couple times per week, it is much easier to turn one day off into three days off, a week off, or a month off.

If you are already used to exercising, switching to three or four times a week to fit your schedule may be preferable, but it is a lot harder to maintain a workout program you don’t do every day.

Be careful to not repeat the same exercise routine each day. If you do an intense ab workout one day, try switching it up to general cardio the next. You can also squeeze in a day of light walking to break up the intensity.

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2. Duration Doesn’t Substitute for Intensity

Once you get into the habit of regular exercise, where do you go if you still aren’t reaching your goals? Most people will solve the problem by exercising for longer periods of time, turning forty-minute workouts into two hour stretches. Not only does this drain your time, but it doesn’t work particularly well.

One study shows that “exercising for a whole hour instead of a half does not provide any additional loss in either body weight or fat”[1].

This is great news for both your schedule and your levels of motivation. You’ll likely find it much easier to exercise for 30 minutes a day instead of an hour. In those 30 minutes, do your best to up the intensity to your appropriate edge to get the most out of the time.

3. Acknowledge Your Limits

Many people get frustrated when they plateau in their weight loss or muscle gaining goals as they’re learning how to get in shape. Everyone has an equilibrium and genetic set point where their body wants to remain. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve your fitness goals, but don’t be too hard on yourself if you are struggling to lose weight or put on muscle.

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Acknowledging a set point doesn’t mean giving up, but it does mean realizing the obstacles you face.

Expect to hit a plateau in your own fitness results[2]. When you expect a plateau, you can manage around it so you can continue your progress at a more realistic rate. When expectations meet reality, you can avoid dietary crashes.

4. Eat Healthy, Not Just Food That Looks Healthy

Know what you eat. Don’t fuss over minutia like whether you’re getting enough Omega 3’s or tryptophan, but be aware of the big things. Look at the foods you eat regularly and figure out whether they are healthy or not. Don’t get fooled by the deceptively healthy snacks just pretending to be good for you.

The basic nutritional advice includes:

  • Eat unprocessed foods
  • Eat more veggies
  • Use meat as a side dish, not a main course
  • Eat whole grains, not refined grains[3]

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Eat whole grains when you want to learn how to get in shape.

    5. Watch Out for Travel

    Don’t let a four-day holiday interfere with your attempts when you’re learning how to get in shape. I don’t mean that you need to follow your diet and exercise plan without any excursion, but when you are in the first few weeks, still forming habits, be careful that a week long break doesn’t terminate your progress.

    This is also true of schedule changes that leave you suddenly busy or make it difficult to exercise. Have a backup plan so you can be consistent, at least for the first month when you are forming habits.

    If travel is on your schedule and can’t be avoided, make an exercise plan before you go[4], and make sure to pack exercise clothes and an exercise mat as motivation to keep you on track.

    6. Start Slow

    Ever start an exercise plan by running ten miles and then puking your guts out? Maybe you aren’t that extreme, but burnout is common early on when learning how to get in shape. You have a lifetime to be healthy, so don’t try to go from couch potato to athletic superstar in a week.

    If you are starting a running regime, for example, run less than you can to start. Starting strength training? Work with less weight than you could theoretically lift. Increasing intensity and pushing yourself can come later when your body becomes comfortable with regular exercise.

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    7. Be Careful When Choosing a Workout Partner

    Should you have a workout partner? That depends. Workout partners can help you stay motivated and make exercising more fun. But they can also stop you from reaching your goals.

    My suggestion would be to have a workout partner, but when you start to plateau (either in physical ability, weight loss/gain, or overall health) and you haven’t reached your goals, consider mixing things up a bit.

    If you plateau, you may need to make changes to continue improving. In this case it’s important to talk to your workout partner about the changes you want to make, and if they don’t seem motivated to continue, offer a thirty day break where you both try different activities.

    I notice that guys working out together tend to match strength after a brief adjustment phase. Even if both are trying to improve, something seems to stall improvement once they reach a certain point. I found that I was able to lift as much as 30-50% more after taking a short break from my regular workout partner.

    Final Thoughts

    Learning how to get in shape in as little as two weeks sounds daunting, but if you’re motivated and have the time and energy to devote to it, it’s certainly possible.

    Find an exercise routine that works for you, eat healthy, drink lots of water, and watch as the transformation begins.

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