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[VIDEO] How to Ask Someone Out in Spanish

[VIDEO] How to Ask Someone Out in Spanish

Asking someone out is hard.

It could be a long-time friend you’ve had for the past few years, or someone you’ve recently met. Just thinking about it has us tongue-tied. While asking for a date is already hard enough in English, what’s even harder is to do it in Spanish.

Here’s a quick guideline of what to do and what not to do, when you’re asking someone out in Spanish.

1. Give a warm welcome

Start with basic Spanish greetings by introducing yourself and asking them how they are.

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a. Hola, como vas? – Hey, how’s it going?

b. Que haces? – What are you up to?

Then you can comment on their appearance. Often complimenting them on what they’re wearing can be a great option to go with.

a. Te ves muy linda hoy – You look very beautiful today

b. Te ves hermosa hoy – You look very pretty today

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2. Going for the ask

Once you’ve both relaxed and established a natural conversation, you’ll eventually need to go for the ask.
Everyone has their own style of doing this, but here are some sentences that can help.

a. Te gustaria ir a ver una pelicula alguna vez? – Would you like to go to see a movie sometime?

b. Te gustaria ir a tomar algo? – Would you like to go for a drink?

c. Te gustaria ir a cenar alguna vez? – Would you like to go to dinner sometime?

3. Wrapping up

Now it’s time for your exit. Once you’ve asked someone out, you probably don’t want to be lingering around for too long.
Get whatever information you need to get across, and say your goodbyes.

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a. ¿Cuál es tu numero de teléfono? – What’s your phone number?

b. Bueno, nos vemos pronto – Great, we’ll see each other soon

c. Ciao! – Ciao!

Things not to say or avoid

When it comes to asking someone out, no matter what language, there are some big no-nos, such as old-fashioned pick up lines.
In Spanish, here are things not to say:

Pick up lines

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a. ¿Oye, te dolio? Cuando te caiste del cielo – Did it hurt? When you fell from heaven.

b. ¿Eres una camara? Porque cada vez que te miro sonrio –  Are you a camera? Because every time I look at you, I smile.

Boring, sensitive, and irrelevant topics

c. ¿Qué opinas de las nuevas politicas economicas? – What do you think of the new economic policies?

d. ¿Crees que Dios existe? – Do you think that God exists?
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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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