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10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Make This the Best Year Ever

10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Make This the Best Year Ever

Ask yourself these 10 questions to help make this your best year ever.

1. Why do I do the work I do?

There are millions of ways to make a living. If the steady paycheck is the only reason you remain at your job, and you loathe your work year after year, I highly recommend you consider figuring out what truly lights you up. Check out this free workbook to help you find your passion.

2. Am I focusing my life on what truly matters to me?

Think about what you want your priorities to be. Are you focusing your life on your priorities? It’s easy to get caught in the daily grind of a mind-numbing routine. Carefully consider how you’re spending your time. When you focus your life on what really matters to you, life is more fulfilling.

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3. What bad (or even mediocre) things can I let go of in my life to make room for the amazing?

There are only 24 hours in each day, so making time for the amazing things in life will require you to let go of certain things. Think about how you’re spending your time. Are there activities you can get rid of to make room for things you really love?

4. Am I surrounding myself with people who inspire me?

One of my favorite quotes is by Jim Rohn, who said, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Think about who you hang out with. The people you surround yourself with will make a huge difference in the kind of life you live.

5. Am I setting big enough goals?

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”

—Michelangelo.

Setting big goals and working toward reaching them keeps life exciting, and helps ensure that you are continually learning. Big goals often require us to step out of our comfort zone, which is where growth occurs.

6. Have I convinced myself I’m “fine” when I’m really not?

In her TED Talk, how to stop screwing yourself over, Mel Robbins describes how telling ourselves we’re fine when we’re really not can hold us back in our lives. Are you seriously doing fine, or are you telling yourself you’re fine to avoid taking action and making changes in your life?

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7. Am I taking care of myself?

Taking care of yourself is important, in the multiple areas of wellness. You can be your best when you take care of yourself. Check out this article, 50 small things to do every day to really love yourself.

8. Am I settling for a less than an amazing life?

It really is possible to do work you love, to have a wonderful relationship, and to spend your time doing what truly matters to you. Yet millions of people succumb to living their lives in quiet desperation, wishing things in their life would change, as they settle for less than what they really desire. You have the potential to make a big impact on the world, and to live an amazing life.

9. If this was about to be the best year of my life, what would be happening?

This question can help clarify your big dreams. Picture this being the best year you could possibly have, and describe it in great detail. Where are you working? Who are you spending time with? Where do you live? What do you accomplish? Your answer to this question can help you design your life so you can make your dreams your reality.

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10. Am I the person I want to be?

Think about the best version of you. Are you acting as if you are that person? Who do you want to be? How do you want to be remembered? How do you want to act as a friend, family member, and coworker? What do you want to stand for? Are you being the person you want to be?

Some of those 10 questions are hard. They’re intended to get you thinking about what you’re doing with your life, and evaluate whether or not change is needed.

If you’re not living a life you love, keep working toward it. It’s possible to design a life you love.

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Featured photo credit: Douglas Scortegagna/https://flickr.com via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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