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Why It’s Amazing To Have A Friend Who Constantly Says The Wrong Things

Why It’s Amazing To Have A Friend Who Constantly Says The Wrong Things

How many times have you been sitting in a quiet room when all of a sudden you hear the most awkward, out-of-place comment? How many times have you felt just a little embarrassed to realize that it came from your friend?

At some point or another, everyone stumbles into an awkward situation or makes a verbal misstep. But some people just seem to be born to put their foot in their mouths. Although many people may think that only a rude, socially inept, or downright unintelligent person would constantly say the wrong thing at the wrong time, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

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In reality, people who can’t seem to stop themselves from saying what’s on their mind are actually awesome to be around. Not only are they funny, but they are also open, honest, and full of joy in themselves and the people around them. By now, you definitely know which one of your friends we’re talking about. (And if you can’t think of at least one of your friends who fits this description, maybe it’s you.)

Here’s why your friend who constantly blurts out the wrong thing might just be your best friend, the one who enriches your life in amazing ways that no “normal” friend can.

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That friend will always make you laugh.

Ever since you’ve had the joy of meeting that friend who never says the right thing, you know that nothing breaks the ice like a perfectly timed awkward comment. Whether you’re nervous about a new, important job or you’re just out having brunch with your friend group, you can count on your awkward friend to lighten any mood and make even the most boring small talk interesting. Their ridiculous comments make you laugh like no other friend.

That friend will make the best memories with you.

If you have to attend an acquaintance’s birthday party that you aren’t too excited about or you have to stand in line for hours at the DMV, your awkward friend is always there to bring humor and fun. That friend turns otherwise lifeless events into lifelong memories, even if the awkwardness feels just a little embarrassing at the time.

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That friend will understand you even if no one else does.

When you inevitably say the wrong thing at the wrong time, like we all do from time to time, there’s no one better to talk to than your friend who has said and done it all. That friend will be there because they understand exactly what it’s like. They may not always say the right thing to make you feel better (since hey, they don’t usually say the right thing anyway), but their humor, kindness, and relatability are irreplaceable.

That friend will teach you how to shake it off.

Not just for T-Swift, shaking it off is an important lesson we all need to learn. Not only will your awkward friend understand you when things go a little awry, but they’ll help you figure out how to move forward. Whether you fumbled your words a little on a first date or totally bombed a major presentation, your awkward friend shows you how to shake it off and not take life too seriously. When their words unintentionally offend or hurt anyone, they also knows how to say “sorry” and mean it.

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That friend will show you how to approach life differently.

Sometimes saying the “wrong” thing, or the thing that you are not expected or supposed to say, is exactly what needs to be said. Your friend who can’t stop saying the wrong thing isn’t afraid to be different, and they are there to teach you to stop worrying about what should or shouldn’t be done. Of course, their way may not always be perfect, but they can help you look at situations and problems with a fresh perspective.

That friend will help you grow.

Through all of these funny memories, your awkward friend is there, making you laugh endlessly and showing you how to take life in stride, make mistakes, and move on, living each day with a sense of joy and adventure. Above all, you are a better person for knowing them, even if they can’t help saying the wrong thing.

If you’re lucky enough to have one of these friends, stick with them. You’ll not only enjoy the crazy, ridiculous, and ridiculously awkward adventures that come, but you’ll learn a little something too.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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