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Why It’s Amazing To Have A Friend Who Constantly Says The Wrong Things

Why It’s Amazing To Have A Friend Who Constantly Says The Wrong Things

How many times have you been sitting in a quiet room when all of a sudden you hear the most awkward, out-of-place comment? How many times have you felt just a little embarrassed to realize that it came from your friend?

At some point or another, everyone stumbles into an awkward situation or makes a verbal misstep. But some people just seem to be born to put their foot in their mouths. Although many people may think that only a rude, socially inept, or downright unintelligent person would constantly say the wrong thing at the wrong time, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

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In reality, people who can’t seem to stop themselves from saying what’s on their mind are actually awesome to be around. Not only are they funny, but they are also open, honest, and full of joy in themselves and the people around them. By now, you definitely know which one of your friends we’re talking about. (And if you can’t think of at least one of your friends who fits this description, maybe it’s you.)

Here’s why your friend who constantly blurts out the wrong thing might just be your best friend, the one who enriches your life in amazing ways that no “normal” friend can.

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That friend will always make you laugh.

Ever since you’ve had the joy of meeting that friend who never says the right thing, you know that nothing breaks the ice like a perfectly timed awkward comment. Whether you’re nervous about a new, important job or you’re just out having brunch with your friend group, you can count on your awkward friend to lighten any mood and make even the most boring small talk interesting. Their ridiculous comments make you laugh like no other friend.

That friend will make the best memories with you.

If you have to attend an acquaintance’s birthday party that you aren’t too excited about or you have to stand in line for hours at the DMV, your awkward friend is always there to bring humor and fun. That friend turns otherwise lifeless events into lifelong memories, even if the awkwardness feels just a little embarrassing at the time.

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That friend will understand you even if no one else does.

When you inevitably say the wrong thing at the wrong time, like we all do from time to time, there’s no one better to talk to than your friend who has said and done it all. That friend will be there because they understand exactly what it’s like. They may not always say the right thing to make you feel better (since hey, they don’t usually say the right thing anyway), but their humor, kindness, and relatability are irreplaceable.

That friend will teach you how to shake it off.

Not just for T-Swift, shaking it off is an important lesson we all need to learn. Not only will your awkward friend understand you when things go a little awry, but they’ll help you figure out how to move forward. Whether you fumbled your words a little on a first date or totally bombed a major presentation, your awkward friend shows you how to shake it off and not take life too seriously. When their words unintentionally offend or hurt anyone, they also knows how to say “sorry” and mean it.

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That friend will show you how to approach life differently.

Sometimes saying the “wrong” thing, or the thing that you are not expected or supposed to say, is exactly what needs to be said. Your friend who can’t stop saying the wrong thing isn’t afraid to be different, and they are there to teach you to stop worrying about what should or shouldn’t be done. Of course, their way may not always be perfect, but they can help you look at situations and problems with a fresh perspective.

That friend will help you grow.

Through all of these funny memories, your awkward friend is there, making you laugh endlessly and showing you how to take life in stride, make mistakes, and move on, living each day with a sense of joy and adventure. Above all, you are a better person for knowing them, even if they can’t help saying the wrong thing.

If you’re lucky enough to have one of these friends, stick with them. You’ll not only enjoy the crazy, ridiculous, and ridiculously awkward adventures that come, but you’ll learn a little something too.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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