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Get What You Want With The 6 Weapons Of Influence

Get What You Want With The 6 Weapons Of Influence

Whether we know it or not, we so often fall victim to meticulously planned and well-executed weapons of influence which practically force our hand into becoming compliant with blatant marketing ploys.

Taken from the international bestselling book Influence: Science and Practice, this article breaks down the comprehensive scientific studies conducted by Robert B Cialdini, a professor of psychology and marketing, into the weapons of influence.

Study them to learn how to recognize and avoid the consumer traps or to make use of them for your own gain and get what you want!

Weapon 1: Reciprocation

Think about a time when you received a gift or a birthday card from someone you’re not usually used to receiving one from. What impact did that have on you? What did that make you feel like doing? What did you most likely go and do? Of course you sent them a birthday card or gift back. Why is this? It’s simply due to the first weapon of influence: the rule of reciprocation. This rule states:

“We should try to repay, in kind, what another person has provided for us.” 

For example, if a man sends us a birthday present, we should remember his birthday with a gift of our own; if a couple invites us to a party, we should be sure to invite them to one of our own.

By virtue of the reciprocity rule, then, we are obligated to the future repayment of favors, gifts, invitations, and the like.

But why is it so? It’s simple, we feel obligated to repay such a gesture due to a feeling of indebtedness. And it’s our inbred culture and belief systems that force us into repaying such debt. Think about how a term like “much obliged” has become a synonym for “thank you,” not only in the English language, but in others as well.

And that’s not all. The power of this rule doesn’t just stop with birthday cards, there are countless other examples of its power.

Uses for marketers and entrepreneurs:

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It’s simple. First, you must give before you ask or receive. It’s essential for any successful business to provide value to its audience or potential clients. If you provide something of value and provide it for free, you will begin to build a relationship of trust, which will materialize into receiving something in return — a sale.

Weapon 2: Social Proof

The next thing I want you to think about is the last time you purchased something online, a book from Amazon or a holiday to a sunny beach resort. What did you do before you decided to buy? You checked out the reviews, didn’t you? Of course you did, it’s what any right-minded consumer would do! But why? Because if it’s good enough for countless others, it must be good enough for you. After all, five stars is five stars! This is the principle of social proof in action. It states that:

“One means we use to determine what is correct is to find out what other people think is correct.”

The principle applies especially to the way we decide what constitutes correct behavior. We view a behavior as more correct in a given situation to the degree that we see others performing it. So when we are in a state of uncertainty, it’s human nature for us to look to those around us for guidance on which action to take.

Think about online giant Amazon. They built up their huge empire off the back of their product review system. Such was their understanding of the psychological principle of social proof, they actually encouraged their own employees to try and review their products for a reward. This boosted the number of reviews of products and began the process of providing social evidence on the quality of their products to potential customers.

Trip Advisor is another great example. This is a hugely popular site that millions of us look to before purchasing a holiday, going out on a day trip, or trying out a new restaurant. It provides us with the social reassurance we need before we part with our cold, hard cash.

Uses for marketers and entrepreneurs:

There are some key tools that you can manipulate to generate social proof for your businesses. The most obvious of these is the use of the many social media platforms. Think about when you are looking for a new product or learning about something new. The number of fans, likes, and followers will massively influence your decision to use, buy, or study. Pages or profiles with thousands or even millions of followers are seen as authorities in their niche and will continue to grow and get more sales. Take advantage of these platforms by making use of targeted advertising to generate your own following.

Testimonials are another powerful tool for social proof. It’s essential that you gather reviews and testimonies from your satisfied customers and use those to build trust with new customers. Testimonies from the “horse’s” mouth are the most powerful. If you don’t have many of your own to use, leveraging other people’s success stories is another powerful technique.

Weapon 3: Commitment and Consistency

So, consider this; once you’ve placed a bet on a horse or football match, or even bought a lottery ticket, have you ever felt much more confident that you are going to win than you did prior to placing that bet or purchasing the ticket? Did you feel a shift of energy from uncertainty to certainty? After all, you have to be in it to win it, right? This shift in belief comes from deep within us and can direct our actions with quiet power. The reason is quite simple. We have a desire to be (and appear to be) consistent with what we have already done. This is the third weapon of influence in action — commitment and consistency. This rule states:

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“Once people make a choice or make a stand they encounter internal and interpersonal pressure to behave in ways consistent with that choice.”

Such pressures cause us to respond in ways that justify our earlier decision. We simply convince ourselves that we have made the right choice and will correspond our actions in accordance with the choice in order to appear normal and feel better about our decision.

Why do we think this type of behavior will make us appear normal? Well, people who are consistent in thought and in action are deemed to be stable, honest, logical, and rational.

Let’s illustrate this with a scientific example:

A study by Moriarty (1975) in New York analysed the number of people on a beach who would attempt to prevent a staged theft of an unattended radio left on a beach towel. In the first instance, only four out of 20 did so, which is probably quite understandable. However, once people were asked to please “watch my things” while the owner of the radio went off for a walk (which everyone agreed to), the results were drastically different. Nineteen out of the 20 suddenly became vigilantes when the staged theft then took place. This was the power of commitment and consistency in action!

Uses for marketers and entrepreneurs:

By getting people to make a commitment, of course! The most powerful commitments are those made publicly. The powerful phrase known as “if I, would you” is a great tool for this. In conversation with potential customers, you can get them to make a public commitment using this phrase. For example you might ask them “If I were to offer you a free place on this training course as goodwill gesture, would you attend?” Of course, if the response is “yes,” then you have a public commitment which is more likely to be followed through. The more public, the better.

Have you ever wondered why cold callers often begin the conversation by asking “How are you feeling today?” Once you reply “I’m well, thank you,” you are much less likely to then come up with some sob story and poor excuse as to why you can’t sign up for the charity donation or listen to the offer. Sneaky.

Weapon 4: Liking

The strength of a social bond is twice as likely to influence a sale than the preference for the product itself. Think about the times when you may have gone a little further out of your way to visit a store or make a purchase because you liked the the staff better.

Think about salespeople. The first thing a good salesperson will do is try to strike up a rapport with you by complimenting you, then by asking you questions in an attempt to find out your personal qualities or preferences, to then continue the conversation in alignment with these. A discussion about a favorite sport or sports team is a great example of this. Why does this work? Because we tend to like people who compliment us or who are similar to us in nature. This is the weapon of liking. It states:

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“People prefer to say yes to the requests of someone they know and like.”

It sounds awful, but even physical attractiveness plays a huge role in the effectiveness of this weapon. So, presentation and appearance is key in business.

Uses for marketers and entrepreneurs:

I’ll refer back to the word rapport. It’s essential that through the various communication media we have at our disposal, we build rapport with potential customers. The use of email marketing and social media platforms provide super-efficient ways of building trusting relationships in which the weapon of liking can be used.

I mentioned that presentation is key. When presenting to an audience, ensure your appearance is appropriate. This doesn’t always mean business attire either. It’s entirely down to your audience. Remember your audience will prefer to see physical attractiveness, but also similarities too, so choose carefully. This comes back to relationships, as you will need to know your audience or potential customers to be able to do this effectively.

Weapon 5: Authority

People respect authority. By authority, I mean people who are experts in their field or niche. Consider this: would you hire the services of a well-trained, experienced electrician opposed to that of an apprentice? How about a trainee plastic surgeon? Think about the feeling you would have in your gut when you’re lying on the theater table and the trainee surgeon walks in — “I’ve never done this operation before, but I think I can handle it…” No thanks!

People trust those that know what they are doing or what they are talking about. This is the weapon of authority, which states:

“Society values loyalty and deference to authority.”

Even appearing as an authority figure can make all the difference when it comes to business, even if the apparent authority is illegitimate. Such an appearance can considerably increase the likelihood that others will comply with your requests. Compliance equals sales, which equals profit! Business titles, attire, and flashy cars are all factors which can play a role here. This is why we so often see the classic self-made millionaire marketing campaigns in which the authority figure is donning designer Louis Vuitton clothes and a Lamborghini sports car — “Well, if he looks like that and owns one of those, he must know what he’s talking about!”

Uses for marketers and entrepreneurs:

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Become an authority in your own right! Personal development in any business is key. It’s essential that any new business person entrepreneur dedicates time to developing the skills, knowledge, and mindset needed to become an authority in their chosen niche. This doesn’t mean you need to know everything. On your journey, as you learn, you will appear as an authority to some. Even what may appear the most trivial of skills to you could be completely alien to others. The principle of learn, do, teach should be used, applied, and strictly adhered to.

In instances where depth of skills and knowledge is clearly lacking and presents a problem, utilizing testimonials from legitimate, recognized authorities can help to persuade others to engage with your business.

Weapon 6: Scarcity

It’s a psychological and economic fact that the more scarce something is, the more value we place on it. Can you think of a time when you rushed to buy something because you thought it would soon be out of stock? Can you remember the fuel crisis in the mid “naughties” in the UK? There were massive queues of cars and trucks at petrol stations in a panic to buy fuel. This was caused by blockades and boycotts of fuel transportation in protest against proposed fuel price hikes — the weapon of scarcity was heavily in action. This rule states:

“Opportunities are more valuable when their availability is limited.”

So, the rarer or more scarce something appears, the greater motivation there will be to obtain it. The phrase “hurry before they’re gone” is ringing in my ear right now. The fear of not being able to possess something whips people into a frenzy, desperate not to miss out. This is far more powerful than the motivation from the thought of actually having the ability to gain something.

Fear of the loss of freedom also comes into play here. When something becomes scarce, it generates a fear of the removal of freedom of choice to purchase or possess it. Businesses exploit this fear by displaying numbers of availability for products, the use of the color red for such a tactic further enhances this.

Queues for the latest iPhone, video game or console, concert tickets, and the madness of Black Friday are all classic illustrations of the lengths people will go to when the weapon of scarcity comes into play.

Uses for marketers and entrepreneurs:

Think about how you can shift the focus of a marketing campaign from the product’s benefits to an emphasis on the consequences of a missed opportunity. Offering a limited-time-only promotion often works well, too. We’ve all seen the classic countdown timer showing the amount of time remaining before the offer expires. Unfortunately, we can often refresh the page only to see the time reset! Legitimacy is important, but this doesn’t reduce the effectiveness of such a ploy. You can make a conscious decision on how to use such a tool. Where your products or services offer unique qualities or features, be sure to highlight this, as it is another form of scarcity.

Featured photo credit: Paul Schermerhorn by RL Johnson via imcreator.com

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How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

If you’re going to spend 1/3 of our life at work, you should enjoy it, right?

Trust me, I know that’s easier said than done. Difficult coworkers, less-than-desirable tasks, or even just being in the wrong position can all lead to a lack of enjoyment and fulfillment in your work.

But what if I told you it doesn’t have to be this way? Or better yet, if you struggle with all of the above (and then some), what if I told you that enjoying your work and finding fulfillment regardless of those obstacles is possible?

Don’t believe me? I don’t blame you because I was there too. Before implementing the tips below, I struggled to get through each day, much less find real fulfillment, in the office. Now, even after the toughest days on the job, I still come away with feelings of pride, accomplishment, and fulfillment. The best news is, so can you.

If you’re ready to make those hours count and find happiness and fulfillment in the office, then read on to find out how to be happy at work and find fulfillment in your career:

1. Discover the root(s) of the problem

For this first step, we’ll need to think back to 8th-grade physics (humor me). We all know Newton’s 3rd law, “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” When you think about it, the same can be said outside of physics, and we see this law play out in our daily lives, day after day.

Simply put, all the issues we deal with in the office (and life in general) affect us in a noticeable way.

If you’re appreciated at work, like the work you do and receive frequent praise, promotions, or raises, then this will probably have an altogether positive effect on your life in the office.

But what if we reverse this? What if you feel under appreciated, get passed up for promotions, or get denied raises? This is sure to affect the way you feel at work on a negative level.

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So, before you can implement the steps of feeling happy and fulfilled at work, we first have to discover the reasons why you don’t feel that way already.

Think about it, write a list, or make a mental note. Run through all the reasons you’re dissatisfied in the office, and don’t hold back. Knowing the exact obstacles you’re facing will make overcoming them that much easier.

In fact, as a side-challenge to this article, I recommend picking the top three reasons contributing to your dissatisfaction at work and using the following tips to tackle them.

2. Practice gratitude for an instant uplift

Did you know the simple act of feeling grateful can increase your happiness and make you more fulfilled at work?[1]

Well, it’s true, and it’s scientifically proven.

Dr. Lisa Firestone notes that practicing gratitude “reminds us of what we lacked in the past.” Meaning, it serves as both a boost to happiness and a bit of a wake-up call that things have been or could be, much worse.

Trying to conjure up feelings of gratitude can seem almost impossible when your work situation seems bleak, but hear me out: There are incredibly easy ways to get started and it doesn’t involve trying to “force” yourself to feel grateful about things that stress you out.

For an instant pick-me-up, try this:

Find a loose piece of paper, a blank sticky note, or anything you can write on, be it physical or digital. List just three things that you are absolutely without-a-doubt thankful for in your life.

Now here’s the trick: Don’t just list what you’re grateful for, you have to list why you’re grateful for them, too.

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For example, simply saying “I’m grateful for my kids” will probably make you feel good, sure, but what if we could amplify the warm, fuzzy feeling into real, lasting motivation?

Instead, write the reason you’re so thankful for your children. Is it because they make you laugh and forget about other stressors? Or maybe they help to remind you of why you go to work every day in the first place?

Whatever your reasons may be, jot them down and keep your list somewhere you can see it while you work. A quick glance at your gratitude list throughout the day can provide powerful, positive motivation to keep going.

Bonus:

If you can find just three things to be thankful for that specifically relate to your job, and list why those things make you grateful, your list can also help you find fulfillment in your work itself which can give you an even bigger boost of positivity throughout the day.

3. Take meaningful time for yourself

We all know creating a strong work-life balance can be crucial to feeling satisfied in our jobs, but rarely do we ever address how we’re spending our time outside of work.

Many of us survive a 9-hour work day and commute home only to find ourselves busy with our personal to-do lists, running a household, and taking care of a child (or 2 or 3, and so on).

If you spend all your time working, whether in the office or within your household, you’re going to feel drained at some point. This is why setting meaningful time for yourself every day is highly important.

Look, I get it: I don’t know anyone in the working world who can shun all responsibility for a 3-movie marathon or happy hour with friends whenever they feel like it. But finding time for yourself, be it just 30 minutes to an hour, can really make a difference in how you feel at work.

This works because you’ll have time to actually relax and let the day’s stress melt away while you enjoy something just for you. The to-do lists and stressors will still be there after you’re refreshed and ready to tackle them.

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No time for me-time? Try this:

If you have a busy household, you’ll need to capitalize on a block of time you know will be completely uninterrupted. The easiest way to do this: try waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier than usual (or push bedtime back an hour if you’re a night owl, like me) and take time to do something you enjoy.

This could be reading with a cup of tea, catching up on Facebook, spending time on a passion project—anything! As long as it’s meaningful to you, it works!

Bonus:

Starting your day with meaningful time for yourself can set you up to have a positive mood that lasts well into office hours, and having your me-time in the evening can give you something positive to look forward to during the day.

4. Get productive and feel accomplished

Don’t you just love the feeling of checking the last item off of a hefty to-do list? That’s because self-motivation can be a huge driver of positivity and success.

When we accomplish something, no matter how small, it makes us feel good, plain and simple. Applying this tactic to your daily work can be the motivator you need to find fulfillment during the daily office grind.

While there are tons of steps to get more done at work, I’ll share my personal favorite: Prioritizing.

Now, many people handle prioritizing differently. Some like to tackle the little tasks first so they can spend focused time on the big to-dos. Others like to knock out the big items first and get to the smaller ones when they can.

No matter which camp you’re in, you may be missing one crucial step: Time management.

So how’s this work? When you factor in the amount of time your priorities will take, it can transform your productivity ten-fold.

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Say you have three top priorities for the day. You might jump into the smaller ones or the bigger ones depending on your preferred method, and then find yourself out of time and bringing work home with you at the end of the day.

This is prevented when you factor in time. Knowing how long each item will take, or deliberately setting specific blocks of time for your priorities can help you accomplish more in the same 8-9 (or 12) hours that you typically spend at work.

Try this:

Take a look at your priorities and consider how long they should take. Pop into your Google calendar (or Filofax, whatever works for you) and schedule time to work on your priority items around any important meetings or events of the day.

The most important thing to remember is to stick to your dedicated time.

Often, when we know exactly how long we have to work on something (and honor this time limit), we’re motivated to get more done on time to avoid taking work home at the end of the day.

The bottom line

There’s no need to waste 1/3 of our lives feeling unsatisfied at work. Luckily, you now have the tools to get started, take back your time, and become happy and fulfilled at work again.

The only question is — which tip will you try first?

Featured photo credit: Ellyot via unsplash.com

Reference

[1]Psychology Today: The Healing Power of Gratitude

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