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Robert Greene on Embracing Loneliness and Dealing with Power

Robert Greene on Embracing Loneliness and Dealing with Power

Have you ever felt lonely?

Maybe you’re lonely right now. We all feel it, whether people have the guts to admit it or not.
This could be because the people around you don’t quite get your vision or what you’re working on, or it could be because you just moved to a new city or company — or for any reason whatsoever.

It’s 100% natural, and our special guest, Robert Greene, shares why it’s necessary to embrace loneliness to get through our struggles. Like a marathoner may experience cramps from time to time, you will experience loneliness — whether you’re an entrepreneur, artist, creative, freelancer, or working for someone else.

After traveling around the world for the past 15 months, I have felt multiple counts of loneliness myself, especially since I don’t have a regular routine of going into the office. It’s all cafe hopping, home office, and parks for me.

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I’ve personally realized the importance of dealing with loneliness, and how it can even boost your creativity, vision, and mental agility. What it really comes down to is how you frame the situation and the emotion you’re feeling inside.

As a full-time writer of bestselling books like The 48 Laws of Power, Seduction, Mastery, and 50th Law, which he wrote with 50 Cent, Robert has shared his moments of loneliness working alone (especially since most of his books are based on dead people!). He has sold millions of books around the world, and his most popular one The 48 Laws of Power, is popular with well-known rappers, entrepreneurs, celebrities, athletes and actors including 50 Cent, Jay-Z, Kanye West, Busta Rhymes, Ludacris, DJ Premier, Dov Charney, Brian Grazer, Andrew Bynum, Chris Bosh, and Will Smith.

Robert and I go deep in this episode, and I ask questions that he has never been asked in his 17 years of doing interviews on TV, radio, and podcasts. So you don’t want to miss this episode. Enjoy!

Quick Episode Summary: Why Learning The 48 Laws Of Power Is Critical

Power is a controversial topic in society. Some people associate the word with manipulation, and some with strength and leadership.

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All around us in our lives, we experience a power play in one form or another, and we need to understand the rules to navigate these plays. More importantly, we need to know these laws so we don’t get taken advantage of.

Robert shares how you can use the 48 laws of power to your own advantage in this episode.

Why You Should Never Outshine The Master

One of the biggest mistakes Robert sees time and time again (and one he made personally) is when people try to outshine the master. His take is that no matter how powerful or far up the chain someone is, we humans are all the same. We all deal with self-consciousness, ego issues, and sensitive topics that run through our minds constantly.

When the prodigy or the mentee tries to outshine the person that has gotten them to where they are, it not only diminishes the time and energy the master has put into you, but it just pisses them off — period.

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Dealing With Loneliness

Loneliness is inevitable. In fact, the bigger your vision, the more loneliness you will face in your life, because most people won’t think the same way you do, nor understand what you’re trying to accomplish.

Our audience is filled with game-changers, and this is going to be the most important lesson of all — how to embrace loneliness and use it to your advantage.

Robert shares practical strategies and tactics that he uses himself, to overcome loneliness and be on his best game physically and mentally, in order to write bestselling books.

Here’s a highlight of what’s to come in the episode:

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  • The 48 laws of power, what it means, and why those who are not aware of the laws are at a disadvantage in life and business
  • Robert’s take on the most critical law of power that everyone should know today
  • Why you should never outshine the master (mentor, advisor, or boss)
  • How Robert deals with the contrasts between introversion and extroversion
  • Working with 50 cent – what it was like, what the vision was for the book was, etc.
  • And much more!

Over To You

What’s your favorite law of power, and how do you deal with loneliness personally?

Share below! Your comments are my oxygen.

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Last Updated on November 19, 2019

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

I imagine that like me, you say that you never have enough time and that you just cannot cope with 60 dozen things all at once.

How on earth do you get out of that spiral?

Many people never sit down and look at how to work smarter, rather than harder and even longer hours. But not you, you’re smart enough to try to learn effective ways to work.

So how to work smarter not harder? Here are 12 smart ways you should be following:

1. Improve Your Time Management Skills

Easier said than done? Well, no actually, because there are a few simple rules that can really help you to manage time better.

For example, when setting up a top priority task, you need to switch off the phone and ignore your email first. Then you need to abandon any ideas of multitasking as that will slow you down and ruin your focus.

Finally, set a reasonable deadline and do everything in your power to meet it.

“When you’re born, you’re born with 30,000 days. That’s it. The best strategic planning I can give to you is to think about that.” — Sir Ray Avery

2. Speed up Your Typing and Use Shortcuts

These days we’re all keyboard slaves. So why not speed up your typing and try to get rid of the two finger syndrome. In fact, when you save 21 days per year just by typing fast!

This is exactly what I am doing now, so I cannot honestly say I am practicing what I preach!

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But help is at hand. Try some of these apps and games to help you type fast: 8 Most Effective Games and Apps to Learn to Type Fast

Using shortcuts on the keyboard is another time saver and can speed up your work.

For example, press F2 to rename a selected file, while CTRL + I will put selected text in italics.

There are so many of these. If you make the effort to learn them, they really can be helpful.

3. Learn How to Use Productivity Tools

It is well worth downloading all the useful tools and apps that can highly boost your productivity. Take a look at these 18 Best Time Management Apps and Tools and install whatever fits your needs.

Now that is really a great way of working smarter, not harder.

4. Use Your Phone Wisely

Instead of writing emails, sometimes it’s better to pick up the phone and talk to the person responsible. It saves time, especially for important or urgent discussions.

If that colleague works in the same office, it is even better to go and talk to him or her. It gives you a break, you get some exercise and you actually make human contact which is becoming quite rare in this electronic world.

5. Keep a Tab on Your Tabs

If you are like me, you might well find that you have a ton of tabs open at the top of your browser.

In order to find the one you want, you have to search for them as they are off screen. Having all these tabs open slows down your browser too.

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One solution is to use OneTab which can keep a neat list on the screen of all these tabs when you want to quickly get to one of them or you want to remind yourself which ones you have open.

6. Use a “To Don’t” List

We all know about to do lists and I find that they are generally great. They give me a great sense of achievement as I cross off the tasks done.

But often, I find that we are doing non-essential tasks or ones that can easily be postponed. That is why many people recommend the to don’t list.[1]

Some people prefer to savagely prune the to do list while others prefer to have two separate lists, to do and to don’t. You just have to work out what works best for you when you are trying to save precious time to become more productive.

7. Expect Failure and Fight Paranoia

When failure rears its ugly head, some people get a bit paranoid and fear that this may become a trend.

Projects will go wrong and failure should be expected rather than feared. Learning lessons from failure and analyzing what went wrong is the best way forward.

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” — Richard Branson

And here you can find 10 Great Lessons Highly Successful People Have Learned From Failure.

8. Be Concise

Rambling on at meetings, in emails and even when introducing yourself to new clients can waste a lot of people’s time.

One way is to practice and sharpen your “elevator speech,”[2] which tells people in 30 seconds or less why they need your skills and how they can benefit from doing business with you.

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Just think of the many situations where this could be useful:

  • Making new contacts
  • Talking about yourself at a job interview
  • Meeting people at conferences or parties
  • Phone calls to new clients

9. Ask the Right Questions

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” — Naguib Mahfouz

How do you get feedback? The secret is to ask the right questions at the right time.

When you do this, you are gathering the information you need to help in decision making. This will save you time and you will be able to cut meetings to a minimum.

Forbes magazine reports on research that they carried out on asking the right questions.[3] When that happens, the positive effects are increased by 400%. There are also other benefits in staff motivation and a positive impact on the company’s bottom line.

Lifehack’s CEO Leon has shared about how to ask for feedback to learn faster: How to Learn Quickly And Master Any Skill You Want

10. Learn as Much as You Can

You should always be on a steep learning curve. Look at your skills profile and determine where you need to fill a gap. Talk to important connections and network in your niche.

Keep up to date on trends and developments. It is a fact-changing world. When an opportunity arises, you will be the best equipped to seize it because you have never stopped learning. Just another way of working smarter.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

11. Look After Your Greatest Resource

No, your greatest resource is not time. It is YOU.

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If you do not get enough sleep, exercise and relaxation, you find that you become less and less productive. You begin to work longer and longer hours, which is the exact opposite of what you want.

What you should be doing is making sure you are in the best shape. It is useful to remember that you need a break of 15 minutes after every one and a half hours of work.[4]

Taking breaks and getting fresh air and exercise is one of the best ways of working smarter, not harder.

12. Don’t Fall into the Trap of Working Smarter and Harder

As a society, we are obsessed with doing everything smarter so we are more efficient and we save time all around.[5]

But the most important thing to remember is to accept when we are ready to switch off that computer and not fill up the time with even more work!

The Bottom Line

The key to greater productivity is to work smarter, not harder. Working smarter saves precious time and energy for the things that really matter — your life goals, your personal growth, your health and your relationships.

Stop working for more hours and start working smarter!

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