“The aim of art is to represent not the outward appearance of things, but their inward significance.” ― Aristotle
Whether it is through music, painting, sculpting, or any other form, making art has always been a great way for people to express themselves. It is a great way to let their inner thoughts and emotions out in the open. Not only does art allow freedom, but it also has a soothing effect. In a way, making art is like talking, only you are doing it with an instrument or a paint brush. Either way, its power to heal is significant.
Unfortunately, many of us think that in order to paint something, you have to be talented as well as imaginative. That is not true. Just as with writing, driving, or giving speeches, it is a universal skill. And, as such, it can be taught and learned with a little bit of effort. Better yet, it can be learned by people of all different ages, occupations, and interests.Advertising
All you need is willpower and practice. It doesn’t matter if you are a busy professional, young or old, you can start creating art today.
The benefits of making art: fighting stress and depression
Since not every person is the same or has the same preferences, we have to choose unique ways in which to express ourselves. Thanks to the diversity of art, there are many techniques that can help set your mind at ease, alleviate stress, and fight depression. Depending on the person, some might choose coloring books, which have been growing in popularity in recent years. Fortunately, there have been many published ones with various themes.
The reason these books are so popular is simple: they’re fun. They bring us back to our childhoods, awakening feelings of carelessness, of a child’s innocent and unconcerned mind. Coloring books have a big stress-relieving effect. It seems as though this simple technique can greatly help adults unwind and relax after a hard day’s work.Advertising
If you have a bit more talent, you can move on to painting or drawing and give yourself the freedom to to create something truly unique, to give others a glimpse into your mind and the beautiful mess residing inside.
However, not everyone is into coloring or painting. Others might want to go for a more digital form of art – photography.
Getting started with photography
Because photography demands some time and effort — you need to learn how to use a camera, to understand how lighting works, and so on – it’s an amazing form of therapy for people suffering from depression. Taking the time to learn all the tricks can get someone’s mind off all the dark thoughts. It’s a form of distraction.Advertising
Furthermore, photography promotes imagination and requires some physical effort on your part. The photographer has to go out and about in order to explore their surroundings and practice taking shots of various objects. This constant movement and immersion into society benefits mood substantially.
Even though it seems time-consuming, photography can be your hobby even if you are a busy person. If you plan it well, you can do it a few times a week or a month – it doesn’t have to be a daily ritual. Additionally, you do not need an excellent, high-grade professional camera. Many camera makers have great entry-level options for new photographers on a budget, great examples being the Canon T5 or T5i. With a little bit of practice and a some initial investment, you can get a lot of benefits from this hobby.
“I don’t have time or energy for art,” is not a valid excuse
All you need is a little push. Pick one hobby and start doing it. Not only will it fill up your day, but it will also keep your brain activity normal. Hell, it can even improve your thinking.Advertising
Even if you are a business professional, you still have time for art. Sign up for music lessons, buy a camera, get yourself some paintbrushes and some paint, or even get a few whittling knives and a block of wood – whatever you feel comfortable with — and start practicing. You can do it during breaks at work, before bed, or on weekends. Obviously, there is a time slot for it — all you need to do is say yes.
Think of it as a new challenge and try it out. Plus, art is a great stimulant. It will keep you creative and alert. Besides getting new ideas, you can learn about yourself and get a better insight into your emotions and thoughts. The advantages will quickly become clear in both your personal and professional life.
Last Updated on September 17, 2018
7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck
Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.
Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.
When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).
Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:
1. You’re depressed about your home life.
No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.
However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.
If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.
When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.
You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.
2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.
Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.
If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.
You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.
If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.
3. You can’t stop snooping.
Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.
I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.
Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.
So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.
It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.
If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.
4. You’re afraid of commitment.
If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.
Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.
No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.
If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.
Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.
5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.
If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.
Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.
Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.
Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.
If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?
6. You resent, rather than love your partner.
When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.
When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.
If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.
7. You chase past feelings.
It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.
You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.
When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.
If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.
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