I get nervous about everything, sometimes I literally don’t know why I’m anxious; I just am and no one seems to understand that.
The above quote has appeared so many places on the web that I could not determine its original source; it’s a testament to how many people suffer from an anxiety disorder and how they feel about it.
Anxiety disorders involve more than temporary worry or fear. For a person with an anxiety disorder, the anxiety does not go away and can get worse over time. These feelings can interfere with daily activities such as job performance, school work, and relationships.
Estimates are that up to 40 million people in the US alone, from all demographics, experience some type of anxiety disorder. I am one of those people from the US and here are some of the things about living with an anxiety disorder that we would like people to understand:
It can be extremely debilitating.
Attacks can be very severe, causing problems ranging from physical illness to a need to get away and hide from everything. It interferes with normal functioning when at its worst.
It has many forms and levels.
General Anxiety Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, and Phobias can all be grouped under this general heading of Anxiety. There are also varying levels of severity of the disorders that people can experience. For me, my General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is at a well-controlled level.
It is more than just worry.
Worry is a normal human emotion that most people experience at times. An anxiety disorder goes beyond this once-in-a-while feeling to a long-term life-interfering problem.Advertising
It can cause physical symptoms.
Extreme attacks can cause shortness of breath, headaches, nausea, and other physical problems. For me, it is digestive system problems during bad attacks.
I can not just “get over it” or turn it off at will.
It is not some bad habit I need to break, nor an addiction to be overcome. It is an actual medically diagnosed illness, often involving brain chemistry, that can be managed.
I tend to overthink.
Situations, actions, words – from myself or others – can be over-analyzed to the point of mental paralysis. I have to apply coping skills that short-circuit the anxiety thought loop.
I tend to overprocess outside stimuli.
Anxiety disorders can cause or aggravate problems with sensory input. For me, it is with sounds. I have always been sound-sensitive, but now hearing too much noise or certain noises can lead to serious agitation unless I leave the area or block out the sound.Advertising
I can have attacks from a trigger situation.
There are highs and lows with anxiety. My anxiety is well-controlled through my faith, counseling, and medication, but there are times when a situation, often socially related for me, can still trigger a mild anxiety spike.
I can have attacks for no reason at all.
Because anxiety can be related to brain chemistry among other factors, there are times when all is going well, but I still feel an anxiety spike coming on. This is where medication – Zoloft works for me, but others need different medications for their body chemistry – most often comes into the picture, just as it would for a more classic physical disease.
I may seem antisocial at times due to an anxiety spike.
If I feel an anxiety attack coming on, I may excuse myself suddenly from a social situation. I do not dislike your company, but believe me, a full-blown attack is not a pretty thing.
I need ways to vent, cope, or otherwise deal with the anxiety.
This is where professional counseling really helps, but sometimes I need a friend to listen when I can not get to the counselor right away. Friends who understand and calmly listen are a precious treasure indeed.Advertising
I am afraid of overwhelming those friends.
I do have friends who listen, but I am often concerned that I may overwhelm them with my needs if I am going through a prolonged period of anxiety.
I have developed a deep empathy for those facing hidden problems.
My special education teaching experience taught me empathy for students with not so obvious learning problems. My anxiety disorder has taught me empathy for those facing emotional struggles.
I have learned to appreciate the quietly pleasant times more.
I do not need a party or a huge group of friends to have a good time – in fact, that might cause anxiety. I do appreciate the little pleasures in life more – like my cat purring by me, a day filled with sunshine, the songs of my faith, getting the right words on a page for my writing. Most of all, I appreciate those friends who care and support and listen and understand.
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Last Updated on July 18, 2019
10 Small Changes To Make Your House Feel Like A Home
Your house is more than just a building that you live in. It should be a home that makes you feel welcome as soon as you open the front door.
Making your house feel like a home is not something that simply happens on its own. You need to make some changes to a house when you move in, to give it that cozy, warm feeling that turns it into a true home. To help you speed the process, follow this guide to 10 small changes to make your house feel like a home.
1. Make the Windows Your Own
When you move into a home, they often come with boring Venetian blinds or less than attractive curtains.
One of the best ways you can instantly warm your home and make it showcase your style is to add some new window dressing. Adding beautiful curtains not only improves your home’s appearance, but it can also help to control the temperature.
2. Put up Some Art
If you have a lot of bare walls in your home, it will seem sterile no matter how beautiful your paint or wallpaper is.
Hanging art on the walls will instantly give it personality and make it feel like home.
3. Improve the Aroma
A house that is not filled with inviting smells will never feel like a home. There are loads of ways you can make your home smell nice. There are tons of air fresheners on the market you can use.
Incense and scented candles are a nice option as well. Don’t forget that baking in a home is also a great way to fill it with an aroma that instantly smells like home as soon as you open the front door.
4. Put out Lots of Pillows and Throws
A great way to make your home look warm and inviting is to place lots of pillows and throws out on the furniture. It is much better to have too many pillows than not enough.
There is nothing like the feeling of sinking into a cushiony pillow that feels like a cloud to make you feel like you are at home.
5. Instantly Class up Your Closet
If your closet is filled with wire or plastic hangers, it will never truly feel homey. To instantly make your closet feel classy, change out your old hangers for wooden ones.
Not only do they look great, but they are better for hanging your clothes as well.
6. Improve Your Air Quality
One of the most overlooked ways to make your house feel more like a home is to improve its air quality.
The easiest and best way to upgrade the air quality in your home is to change the old, dirty filters in your furnace regularly. Get some air filters delivered to your home so that you always have some on hand.
7. Fill it with Plants
Another way to improve the air quality in your home is to fill it with plants. You should have plants in every room of your home.
They help to improve the air quality and they look beautiful. As well as making your home appear homier, plants also help to boost your mood and lower your stress levels.
8. Change the Doorknobs
Most people don’t really give their doorknobs a second thought unless they are broken. That is a shame because changing your doorknobs is an easy way to add personality to your home.
Changing your old, boring doorknobs to new ones that are works of art will instantly brighten your home.
9. Upgrade Your Tub or Shower
There is nothing like luxuriating in a whirlpool bath or steam shower to make the cares of the day melt away. Your family deserves a bit of luxury when they are in their bathroom.
Install a new shower or tub today to make your bathroom worthy of a place in your home.
10. Fresh Cut Flowers
You can make any room in your house feel homier by placing a vase full of beautiful flowers in it. The gorgeous look and intoxicating aroma of fresh cut flowers will immediately brighten your day when you encounter them.
You don’t have to make all these changes at once. Try one or two a day though, and your house will feel like a home before you know it. The trick is to constantly keep adding these homey touches to make your home a place worthy of its name.