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The Best U.S. Cities for a Romantic Weekend

The Best U.S. Cities for a Romantic Weekend

Valentine’s Day is nearly here, and many of you may be sick of the chocolate, flowers, and bland dinner dates that have come to represent this holiday. It may be time to jazz things up with a trip that strays from the ordinary and expected. Whether you live in one of these locations or want to make a romantic weekend getaway, here are some of the most promising destinations for couples in the U.S.

1. San Juan

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    Halfway between Seattle and Vancouver, San Juan Island is a Washington hotspot for fun and romantic activities. Go whale-watching in the bay, stay at a charming bed & breakfast, or get rejuvenated at one of the local spas. San Juan Island Vineyards offer sophisticated wine tastings, and the town even has a special Valentine’s Day listing full of timely activities and discounts.

    2. San Diego

    With its glorious weather and scenic attractions, San Diego is a no-brainer choice for a romantic weekend. Couples can check out Little Italy, see a movie at one of San Diego’s drive-in theaters, take a paddle boat out to sea, or roam the luxurious Prado – full of beautiful architecture, restaurants, and hidden gardens. The perfect balance of beach and city life, it’s no wonder we call it “America’s Finest City.”

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    3. Chicago

    Chicago may not be the first city that pops into your mind for a romantic weekend, but it does feature several great locations you may not have heard of. Millennium Park is packed with fun couples activities, like winter ice skating. No romantic getaway is complete without a trip to the Signature Room, a five-star restaurant with a stunning view from the top of the John Hancock Observatory. If you visit in the summer, top off the evening with a trip to the Navy Pier Ferris Wheel overlooking the city.

    4. Boulder

    Everyone’s favorite ski town, Boulder offers more than juts cozy ski trips with your sweetheart. Chautauqua Park is the perfect destination for athletic couples, featuring hiking trails, rock climbing, and dazzling views of the Flatirons. Boulder Falls also offers a scenic adventure for couples. City folks may be more comfortable sauntering down Pearl Street to check out the bars, eateries, street performances, and fountains.

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    5. Miami

    Check in at the Fountainebleau or the Hyatt Centric in South Beach for an especially luxurious hotel stay. Miami offers a myriad of romantic activities that won’t break the bank – like a stroll down Lincoln Road, which hosts a movie theater at one end and the Fillmore at the other. Visit Coral Gables or Bal Harbour Shops to get your shopping fix, and stop by Sunset Lounge to grab a drink and watch the sun set over the bay.

    6. Bar Harbor

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      A lesser-known town in Maine, Bar Harbor is an adorable spot where couples can stay in cottages, eat the tastiest seafood, and enjoy relaxing views of the bay. Take a scenic drive around Park Loop Road and reach the lofty heights of Cadillac Mountain. Acadia National Park hosts trails for the more adventurous, while various cafes like Cafe This Way offers the perfect touch of small town charm. If you love to browse bookstores and boutiques, Bar Harbor is just the place.

      7. Omaha

      If you’re way out in the midwest and can’t make it to any of these coastal destinations, humble Omaha, Nesbraska features tons of off-the-beaten-path attractions for couples. Walk or cycle down the Bob Kerrey Pedestrian Bridge or take a tour of one of Omaha’s delicious breweries, like Lucky Bucket Brewing Co. You can even spend a weekend on the museums alone — Omaha is a hub for magnificent sites like the Durham Museum and the Joslyn Art Museum.

      8. Louisville

      The list wouldn’t be complete without a fancy southern destination like Louisville, Kentucky. Couples can go antiquing at the quaint Crazy Daisy and browse beautiful old Victorian homes in town. Take a romantic ride in a horse-drawn carriage downtown and stop in at one of Louisville’s restaurants, like Saffron’s Persian Restaurant. Couples can take a cruise on the Belle of Louisville for a calming view of the Ohio river and the city skyline.

      Featured photo credit: robert bejil photography via imcreator.com

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      Last Updated on March 30, 2020

      What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

      What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

      Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

      You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

      This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

      What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

      According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

      Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

      There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

      How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

      When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

      Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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      1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

      One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

      The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

      Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

      2. Be Honest

      A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

      If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

      On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

      Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

      3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

      Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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      If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

      4. Succeed at Something

      When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

      Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

      5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

      Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

      Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

      If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

      If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

      Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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      6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

      Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

      You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

      On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

      You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

      7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

      Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

      Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

      Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

      When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

      Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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      In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

      Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

      It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

      Final Thoughts

      When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

      The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

      Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

      Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

      Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

      More Tips for Improving Your Self-Esteem

      Featured photo credit: Cata via unsplash.com

      Reference

      [1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
      [2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
      [3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
      [4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
      [5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
      [6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
      [7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
      [8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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