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Couples Stare At Each Other For 4 Minutes For The First Time

Couples Stare At Each Other For 4 Minutes For The First Time

Six couples, all at different stages in the their relationship, took part in this love experiment. Could they handle four minutes of gazing into one another's eyes without the need to fidget, talk or look away? Many years ago psychologist Arthur Aron asked himself if it was possible to make two strangers fall in love. One of the techniques he used was having the strangers stare at one another for four minutes. He thought he could make any two people fall in love under the right circumstances. What happens if we take a breath and slow down with one another for four minutes? Sure, we look at our partner all the time, but do we really see them?

Maybe this will inspire you to pause and dedicate a few minutes with your loved one for some bond strengthening.

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    “I should have peed first.”

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      “When I look at you really closely like this, I realize how much I need you.”

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        “I feel nervous. Do you feel nervous? I don't know what we're doing.”

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              She: “I wondered what you were thinking.”

              He: “How wonderful it was to just sit here and look at my wife for a change.”

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              Last Updated on January 21, 2020

              How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

              How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

              If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

              Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

              So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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              1. Listen

              Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

              2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

              Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

              “Why do you want to do that?”

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              “What makes you so excited about it?”

              “How long has that been your dream?”

              You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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              3. Encourage

              This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

              4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

              After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

              5. Dream

              This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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              6. Ask How You Can Help

              Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

              7. Follow Up

              Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

              Final Thoughts

              By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

              Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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