“After a cruel childhood, one must reinvent oneself. Then re-imagine the world.” ― Mary Oliver
Children are fragile with emotions and despite they show resilience and ability to stand up against any situation more than adults do. However, some traumatic events during the childhood can leave long-lasting effects and negativity that can haunt in the adulthood, if not overcame.Advertising
Anything can trigger a trauma during childhood. The disrupted sense of security, domestic violence, sexual and verbal abuse, mistreatment, bullying and separation from a parent are some of the most common ones. If you’re past as a child haunts you and you face several emotional and psychological problems, you can get over it. Here are 8 steps to overcome childhood trauma.
1. Acknowledge and recognize the trauma
Most people who face childhood trauma go through a lot of problems including the feeling of guilt, self-blame or so. However, people fail to try and acknowledge to minimize the trauma and even pretend that it did not happen, which hits them back. The best way to start healing is understanding that the event occurred and that you had no will to be a part of it.Advertising
2. Seek support
Childhood trauma often leads to isolation and makes people and introvert. Many trauma survivors say that the best way to recover quickly is to seek support and talk to people. Connecting with different people will give ideas on different ways to heal and overcome the effect. Talk to your family members, or a close friend or join a support group so that you can speak to someone about the event and put off all of your frustrations.
3. Take care of your health and exercise
People who face trauma as a child build up unnecessary stress which creates a direct impact on health. A daily routine to keep oneself at rest by exercising and eating properly will keep you away from anxiety and make you fresh. Join a gym club and start sweating because the more you become physically and mentally strong, the more you get close to overcoming the impacts of a childhood trauma. Make sure that you choose the right protein and best creatine to build muscles the right way.Advertising
4. Avoid alcohol and drugs
People who face trauma get depressed and the only gateway they think of is drugs or alcohol. However, the first thing to do is to refrain yourself from such harmful things and avoid them at any cost. If you’re already an addict, you need to start thinking of your future and join a rehab. Alcohol and drugs make people ill while it also adds up more stress in the future though they might provide temporary relief.
5. Reclaim control
When you become a victim of childhood trauma, your past will get control of your present and future. But, when you start reclaiming control over your thoughts and activities, you’re your own boss and you can shape your present and future the way you want it to be. As long as you’re willing to let go of the past, you’re in good shape. So, make sure you’re ready to battle your past and navigate through the sufferings that you went through.Advertising
6. Be patient
When you’re hurt as a child, you develop intense feelings, lose control over your emotions and become hopeless. Healing takes time and you need to be patient with yourself. Take things step by step, one at a time and the little success you enjoy with the bits and pieces will help you overcome childhood trauma sooner.
7. Replace bad habits with good ones
Negativity is going to lead you nowhere. Bad habits will develop such negativity and develop a feeling of mistrusting others, doubting yourself or so. It’ll also keep you secluded. You need to give up on your bad habits and start replacing with good ones right away. If you smoke, quit it slow and it’ll help you relive the pain of the past. If it’s hard for you to let go of your bad habits, go to a therapist or seek help from people around you.
8. Accept it and move on
Learning the fact that you were a part of a trauma is surely hurting. But, when you accept something, it’s not that you need to embrace it throughout your life and go through all the pain and sufferings. Acceptance means that you’ve something to do with it and that you won’t let it ruin your life. You need to accept it and move on, try to move away from your bad memories and believe that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel.
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Last Updated on December 9, 2019
14 Things That Make You Happy And Enjoy Life More
Do you ever come across people who are always upbeat and no matter what life throws at them, they just seem to roll with the punches?
It’s quite possible they’re following a formula for happiness.
The good news? You can increase your own happiness quotient too by doing these 14 things that make you happy:
1. Start with a Good Dose of Gratitude
Being consciously aware of what you’re thankful for can actually change your level of happiness.
When you wake up each morning, spend time time recalling all the things for which you feel grateful.
Start with simple things: Do you have a roof over your head? Enough to eat? It might be helpful to start a gratitude journal.
2. Make Sure You’re Giving Back
Do you give 10% of your income to your favorite charity or church?
There’s something about giving that allows you to receive more in return besides just the awesome act of giving to help others. When you give, you’re sending a message to the Universe that you know everything’s going to be all right.
By giving, you’ll be taken care of, too. You see it from those with very little to those who have millions: you have to give to get and by doing that, your happiness increases.
3. Laugh Every Day (It’s Better than Money)
Do you spend time each day laughing? Do you purposefully find something to laugh about?
When you laugh, you release a happy hormone called oxytocin. It’s a hormone that uplifts us as we share experiences with others. Even just making yourself smile will put you in a better place.
4. Foster Good Relationships with Family and Friends
Happy people don’t spend large amounts of time alone. By spending time with people you like, you forge supportive relationships that help you in times of stress.
You also bond with others through common experiences, such as life’s ups and downs. They become your support network.
People who don’t spend as much time with family or friends are more prone to loneliness and depression.
5. Take Some Alone Time
In contrast to spending time with family and friends, it’s important to step back and take some time for yourself, by yourself.
You can recharge your spirit and find a little peace in a little bit of silence. Taking some time away and being alone can do wonders for your mood and outlook.
6. Do What You Love
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Do what you love, because the money will follow?” Doing things that you love to do–and even better, getting paid for it–are good ways to boost your levels of happiness.
When work feels like play, you’re more likely to enjoy other aspects of your life better, too.
7. Volunteer Your Time
When you give off yourself, either by time or talent, your focus shifts from your life to that of others.
This can help you realize that your own problems may not be that bad. You invariably forge new relationships and experience an uplift in your spirit.
8. Get Enough Exercise
When you take time out for exercise, you’re doing your body good in more ways than one.
First, you’re doing what it was designed to do: physical exertion. Humans were made to move around and the body works best when it does what it was meant to do.
Second, as you exercise, you release those same feel-good hormones as mentioned above.
Third, when you take some time to exert yourself, you reduce your stress levels.
All around, you need exercise to function optimally.
9. Avoid Regrets
We all make mistakes in life–that’s part of the human condition. But with a little forethought, you can try to avoid making big mistakes.
Even then, they still happen. That’s when it’s best to learn to forgive–yourself and others–because everyone else just trying to get through life the best they can, too. They’ll make mistakes, but the trick is, moving on from them.
10. Take Time to Meditate
Sitting down, lighting a candle and doing some deep breathing for 10 minutes are all it takes to relax your mind and body.
In doing so, you get in touch with your inner-self, and invariably, you’ll get to know yourself a little better. That’s definitely a booster on the happiness scale.
11. Deal With Clutter
Are you overrun with books and papers piled everywhere? Too much mail sitting on the hall table? Why not tackle a small task each day for a month in an effort to de-clutter your life?
When you’re not running around looking for items you can’t find, when everything has its place, you’ll automatically be less stressed and in a better mental state.
That’s a great place to be on Monday morning when you’re trying to get out the door and you already know where the lunchboxes are, and the bills you have to mail.
12. Get Enough Rest
Ever notice how cranky you are the afternoon when you’ve only had 5 or 6 hours of sleep? Many of us are suffering from sleep deprivation which can lead to higher levels of stress and edginess.
After a good night of sleep, you can tackle your daily tasks in a more calm, alert way. It’s so much better than experiencing that awful sluggish feeling in that oh-so-important meeting with your boss. Your body will thank you, too.
13. Eat Healthier Foods
You’ve heard the phrase, “You are what you eat.” It’s true.
If you spend your time eating package after package of boxed noodles, canned dinners or fast food, your body is going to let you know by gaining weight, feeling sluggish, and quite possibly having a host of health problems. How can you look and feel your best if the foods you eat are not good for you?
By eating better you’re not only taking care of yourself, but you’ll also feel more vibrant and energetic. You’ll literally be healthier from the inside out.
14. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
This is definitely easier said than done, but if you can condition your mind to focus on the good that you are doing and the good things in your life, you’re not going to be tempted to focus on how others are doing.
Here’re some tips to help you stop comparing yourself to others: The More We Compare, the More We Lose Ourselves
Happiness comes from all the small things and habits you do every day. If you want to start living a happy life, practice these 14 things and fit them into your daily routine!
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