“After a cruel childhood, one must reinvent oneself. Then re-imagine the world.” ― Mary Oliver
Children are fragile with emotions and despite they show resilience and ability to stand up against any situation more than adults do. However, some traumatic events during the childhood can leave long-lasting effects and negativity that can haunt in the adulthood, if not overcame.Advertising
Anything can trigger a trauma during childhood. The disrupted sense of security, domestic violence, sexual and verbal abuse, mistreatment, bullying and separation from a parent are some of the most common ones. If you’re past as a child haunts you and you face several emotional and psychological problems, you can get over it. Here are 8 steps to overcome childhood trauma.
1. Acknowledge and recognize the trauma
Most people who face childhood trauma go through a lot of problems including the feeling of guilt, self-blame or so. However, people fail to try and acknowledge to minimize the trauma and even pretend that it did not happen, which hits them back. The best way to start healing is understanding that the event occurred and that you had no will to be a part of it.Advertising
2. Seek support
Childhood trauma often leads to isolation and makes people and introvert. Many trauma survivors say that the best way to recover quickly is to seek support and talk to people. Connecting with different people will give ideas on different ways to heal and overcome the effect. Talk to your family members, or a close friend or join a support group so that you can speak to someone about the event and put off all of your frustrations.
3. Take care of your health and exercise
People who face trauma as a child build up unnecessary stress which creates a direct impact on health. A daily routine to keep oneself at rest by exercising and eating properly will keep you away from anxiety and make you fresh. Join a gym club and start sweating because the more you become physically and mentally strong, the more you get close to overcoming the impacts of a childhood trauma. Make sure that you choose the right protein and best creatine to build muscles the right way.Advertising
4. Avoid alcohol and drugs
People who face trauma get depressed and the only gateway they think of is drugs or alcohol. However, the first thing to do is to refrain yourself from such harmful things and avoid them at any cost. If you’re already an addict, you need to start thinking of your future and join a rehab. Alcohol and drugs make people ill while it also adds up more stress in the future though they might provide temporary relief.
5. Reclaim control
When you become a victim of childhood trauma, your past will get control of your present and future. But, when you start reclaiming control over your thoughts and activities, you’re your own boss and you can shape your present and future the way you want it to be. As long as you’re willing to let go of the past, you’re in good shape. So, make sure you’re ready to battle your past and navigate through the sufferings that you went through.Advertising
6. Be patient
When you’re hurt as a child, you develop intense feelings, lose control over your emotions and become hopeless. Healing takes time and you need to be patient with yourself. Take things step by step, one at a time and the little success you enjoy with the bits and pieces will help you overcome childhood trauma sooner.
7. Replace bad habits with good ones
Negativity is going to lead you nowhere. Bad habits will develop such negativity and develop a feeling of mistrusting others, doubting yourself or so. It’ll also keep you secluded. You need to give up on your bad habits and start replacing with good ones right away. If you smoke, quit it slow and it’ll help you relive the pain of the past. If it’s hard for you to let go of your bad habits, go to a therapist or seek help from people around you.
8. Accept it and move on
Learning the fact that you were a part of a trauma is surely hurting. But, when you accept something, it’s not that you need to embrace it throughout your life and go through all the pain and sufferings. Acceptance means that you’ve something to do with it and that you won’t let it ruin your life. You need to accept it and move on, try to move away from your bad memories and believe that there’s always light at the end of the tunnel.
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Last Updated on September 20, 2018
7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life
What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.
For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.
It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.
1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?
The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.
What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.
The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.
2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?
Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.
How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?
If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.
Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.
3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?
Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.
If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?
These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.
What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …
4. What are my goals in life?
Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:
Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.
5. Whom do I admire most in the world?
Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.
Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?
You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.
Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.
6. What do I not like to do?
An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.
What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?
Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.
The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …
7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?
Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.
But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,
“What do I want to do with my life?”
So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.
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