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6 Ways To Change The World With Love

6 Ways To Change The World With Love

In today’s world of terror, where horrible things are happening on a daily basis, everyone should watch this video and remember what is really important in life. Hopefully, people will be inspired, and will try to make a change with love. This honest emotion is the one thing that holds people together, the one thing that makes us human.

In this material society, we’ve become programmed to focus on doing things that we can benefit from, but can something really replace love, and can something other than love really have as big of an impact on the world?

“If we’re destroying our trees and destroying our environment and hurting animals and hurting one another and all that stuff, there’s got to be a very powerful energy to fight that. I think we need more love in the world. We need more kindness, more compassion, more joy, more laughter. I definitely want to contribute to that.” Ellen DeGeneres

There are many ways to help make the world a better place, and they will reward you only with feelings fulfillment, compassion and love. However, this kind of reward is worth more than all the gold in the world.

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1. Help homeless people

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give” – Winston Churchill

People who have a home, happy family and income that can provide them with some material things are really privileged in this world. It doesn’t mean that you should be feeling guilty because of that – you should learn to appreciate it and focus on helping those in need. You don’t know their stories, you don’t know what they have been through, and they are simply invisible to our society.

They aren’t different than you, they just didn’t have the same opportunities as you did. When you see a beggar, give him some money, because it can help keep them well fed and warm for another day.

2. Do small acts of kindness

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” – Mark Twain

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Small acts of kindness can really change the world. By helping your elderly neighbor carry heavy bags from the supermarket, you will make them happy. You won’t get anything from it, except for the knowledge that you have actually helped somebody. Love and kindness spread quickly, so if you open the door for someone, that person will be inspired to do the same for someone else.

Restore your faith in humanity and inspire other people to be kind to strangers

3. Adopt an animal from the shelter

“He who is cruel to animals becomes hard also in his dealings with men. We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals.” –  Immanuel Kant

If you can afford to look after a cat or dog, and have the time and space to do so, adopt one and save one life. There are a lot of obligations when you have pets – they can really make a mess and you cannot go on a trip and leave them home alone. However, these cute messy creatures will make your every day pure happiness by showing you how much they love you. The day spent without a pet, is a day wasted.

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Give animals shelter, give them an opportunity to have a home and, in return, you will get unconditional love. If you have never had a pet, then you definitely need to let them into your life. Before you take a cat or a kitten to your home, prepare yourself for the arrival and make sure to cat-proof your furniture. If you are rescuing a dog or a puppy, make sure you put up a nice dog house in the garden and put all your fragile items on the top shelf.

4. Love yourself

“Don’t ever criticize yourself. Don’t go around all day long thinking, ‘I’m unattractive, I’m slow, I’m not as smart as my brother.’ God wasn’t having a bad day when he made you… If you don’t love yourself in the right way, you can’t love your neighbor. You can’t be as good as you are supposed to be.” –  Joel Osteen

This might sound like a cliché, but it is actually the most important thing that you need before you can make a change. If you don’t respect and love yourself, you won’t be able to love anyone else. You need to feel comfortable in your own skin and make a positive change in your life, if you want to be capable of making a change in the outside world.

5. Support local causes

“We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” – J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

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Changing the world starts with you and your environment, so start from your home town. Your town and its people need you, and everything you need to make a change is love. If you are ignorant and you don’t care about the people in your town and other causes, you cannot expect to make a change on the global level. By working together, all the people from one town or city can create small, but important changes, and raise a voice that will will be heard all over the world.

Almost every city has a shelter for homeless people. Support the shelter, and donate money or food or clothes, anything that might be useful to them. If your town doesn’t have a shelter, there’s an idea for a project you can spearhead.

6. Don’t hate – love is all around

“Whenever I get gloomy with the state of the world, I think about the arrivals gate at Heathrow Airport. General opinion’s starting to make out that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don’t see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there – fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge – they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaky feeling you’ll find that love actually is all around.” – Hugh Grant as Prime Minister, Love, Actually

There are certainly people that you don’t like, or even some that you might hate. But ask yourself this: “Why do I hate these people, and why am I allowing them to stress me out?” Haters gonna hate, and there is no reason to feel hurt or even hate them because of that. Stop wasting your time on negative emotions and avoid toxic people, but focus on the people you love. Let them know you love them, and that you are there for them no matter what.

Turn off your phone, and look around you. The world is a beautiful place, and all you need is love in order to develop the strength to cope with everyday challenges and difficulties.

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How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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