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Science Has Shown Happiness Comes With Age (No Matter How We’ve Lived Until Then)

Science Has Shown Happiness Comes With Age (No Matter How We’ve Lived Until Then)

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I’m so much happier now than I used to be?”

If not, don’t worry: you’ll get there. All you need to do is age a little. That’s what science says, anyway.

Humans are programmed to be able to adapt to their surroundings, but the social and emotional pressures that go along with growing up—not to mention unpredictable events along the way, like a death in the family—don’t make this very easy.

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It turns out scientific research continues to point toward evidence that we really are happier the older we get. Happiness comes with age—no matter the hardships, minor or severe, we’ve faced throughout our lives.

Here’s a little hope, backed by science, for those who aren’t where they want to be in life, and wonder if they’ll ever be as happy as they’d like to be.

What is happiness?

When we look at the dictionary definition of happiness—good fortune, pleasure or joy—it’s hard to believe that, according to science, no matter how much misfortune or misery we might encounter as we migrate through life, we’ll still be happier 10, 20, even 50 years from now than we are right now.

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That disbelief is challenged, however, when we consider that happiness is nothing more than a much broader idea of the concept psychologists call life satisfaction, or a person’s thoughts and feelings toward the daily ins and outs of their lives.

Life satisfaction, a narrower, more scientific way to measure happiness among populations, is what researchers have more recently used to analyze how people’s happiness changes over time.

A study found that happiness in groups increases with age.

In 2013, a study was published suggesting the overall happiness of the general population tends to increase the older they get. Researchers analyzed data that included self-reported levels of happiness spanning across thousands of people over 30 years. This data was taken from two large-scale studies conducted by the National Institute of Health and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and used as a way to infer how the ways our world is changing, such as high unemployment rates, might impact the well-being of younger generations of people.

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They found a trend within that data that suggested while overall well-being of older adults appeared lower than younger adults, life satisfaction in those participants increased over time. As they got older, their thoughts and feelings about their lives became, overall, more positive.

Using the same definition of happiness as summarized in the section above, we can therefore speculate that in general, throughout our lifetimes, the levels of satisfaction we feel when we reflect on, live through and plan ahead for the various stages of our lives will incline.

What does this mean for us?

Life is a series of hills and valleys. We all go through hardships and, whether we’re able to believe it or not, come out on the other side stronger than we ever were before.

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The older we get, the more different types of experiences we endure as we continue to adapt to our surroundings, and as science suggests, the happier we will become.

So what if you’re not quite at a point in your life where you have to take a step back and ask yourself, “Why am I happier now?” The truth is, that’s okay. Remember Maslow’s hierarchy, that triangle of basic human needs you learned about in health class? Our needs are never completely satisfied. We’re always going to be on the lookout for the next best thing, to keep ourselves energized, to find new ways to make us, and those around us, happy.

That pursuit, as the years go by, is exactly what we live for.

Featured photo credit: PROBrian Tomlinson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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