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Real Story: She Writes Love Letters to Total Strangers

Real Story: She Writes Love Letters to Total Strangers

People do strange things. All too often, those strange actions are ones that cause discomfort and pain to those around us. This story is not a story like that. This story is one in which a person is taking action to stir positive emotions in those around her. One in which she has made a conscious effort to seek out people who may feel invisible, or people who have been through some things.

This story has tickled my imagination and I hope it does yours as well. Hannah Brencher is the Juliet to her city. That is, she has written love letters to be found in all areas of her city by different people. The first one she wrote was addressed “If you find this letter… it is for you.”

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Finding Love Letters

Can you imagine finding a love letter in your coat pocket, on the sink of the bathroom, tucked behind the subway seat, or on the water fountain? A letter that gave you a small reprieve from the things going on inside your head. A letter that gave you purpose for a moment by showing a kindness. This is what Hannah did for people.

Then it developed further. She began a website and branched out to have others try this out in their communities. The website is called moreloveletters.com. The website now connects people who need love letters with others that have begun writing love letters.

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Examples of Lives Changed

One particular happy story involves a lady by the name of Briana. She was a single mother struggling to pay rent. Hannah wrote out her story and requested letters for Briana. The day came to check her PO Box and forward on the letters. She opened the box and there was nothing, but a small sticky note. Low and behold so many letters were received that they didn’t fit in the box. The letters were compiled and sent on to Briana.

Put yourself in Briana’s place for a moment (or any of the letter receivers’ shoes.) Can you imagine the immense relief of no longer feeling alone? In world where we remain so connected through electronics and the interwebs. Invisible strings that connect us, these letters are physical representations of a connection that is lacking in these other communications—connections that can be felt, touched, and slept with under our pillow.

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I remember as a child putting my most special treasures under my pillow. The troll doll with the jeweled belly that I made wishes on, my list of dreams and wishes for the year, and my bible when I went through a particularly religious phase. I feel like this sort of letter would be a good fit to remind me of the love.

Please do your self a favor and visit this article from Hannah Bencher herself and read some more examples of this awesome project she started and has continued. The article can be found by clicking this link.

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Hannah speaks of chemotherapy patients, PTSD sufferers, veterans, and people fearing they wouldn’t leave a mark on the world. These people received love letters. Bundles of letters from fellow human beings that didn’t want people to feel alone. People who followed her lead to reach out and show love.

How You Can Get Involved

I don’t know Hannah, but this work that she does makes me happy. I take joy in the joy she is spreading. If we take a second to look through our own lives, we may find things can we do to bring joy to others. Letters to soldiers might be a good starting off point. Thanking them for all they do and showing support for all that they give up to serve the country. Please also check Hannah’s website MoreLoveLetters.com to get started on your letters.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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