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What It Really Feels Like To Be An Only Child

What It Really Feels Like To Be An Only Child

Being an only child has a lot of associations that come along with this role, but they are often not true. Growing up as an only child has many benefits that people often are not aware of unless they are one themselves. Here are some truths that will help clear up any misconceptions once and for all about this often misunderstood population.

We are not all spoiled brats

This common misconception is often unfairly put upon us, but it is not entirely true. Parents of only children are quite aware of drawbacks of having a spoiled only child and often are stricter than they would be if they had more than one child. If we did not do as well as we could on our report card, we knew our parents would not let it go lightly. But if we did exceptionally well on a test we knew our parents would reward our hard work with a dinner at our favorite restaurant or an extra hour of television.

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We are not socially awkward

Being an only child does not mean that you do not know how to interact with your peers, just because you not grow up with siblings. Instead, we learned appropriate social interactions through spending time with our friends and classmates, just as most children do. We also have cousins and best friends who often feel like they could be our brothers and sisters, since we have known them for as long as we can remember.

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We do not mind being alone

Growing up as an only child means that we are very comfortable being alone. We find eating in a restaurant solo or seeing a movie sans company as something that is enjoyable and not in the least bit stressful. Our often introverted nature means that we prefer to have time to ourselves to recharge, but that does not mean we do not enjoy the company of a good friend or a group of close pals every so often.

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We come off as “old souls”

Being raised as the only child often means that you appear wise beyond your years, having spent most of your home life with adults. We are mature for our age and often give advice or have a perspective that may seem surprising coming from such a young person. We also enjoy music from the past and television shows that are parents enjoy, simply because this is what we were exposed to growing up.

We prefer competing against ourselves

We may be hard-working, but we dislike competition. We prefer competing against ourselves to beat our personal best, rather than trying to beat someone else. Growing up, we gravitated toward more creative hobbies like art or drama, than the ultra-competitive world of sports.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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