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What It Really Feels Like To Be An Only Child

What It Really Feels Like To Be An Only Child

Being an only child has a lot of associations that come along with this role, but they are often not true. Growing up as an only child has many benefits that people often are not aware of unless they are one themselves. Here are some truths that will help clear up any misconceptions once and for all about this often misunderstood population.

We are not all spoiled brats

This common misconception is often unfairly put upon us, but it is not entirely true. Parents of only children are quite aware of drawbacks of having a spoiled only child and often are stricter than they would be if they had more than one child. If we did not do as well as we could on our report card, we knew our parents would not let it go lightly. But if we did exceptionally well on a test we knew our parents would reward our hard work with a dinner at our favorite restaurant or an extra hour of television.

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We are not socially awkward

Being an only child does not mean that you do not know how to interact with your peers, just because you not grow up with siblings. Instead, we learned appropriate social interactions through spending time with our friends and classmates, just as most children do. We also have cousins and best friends who often feel like they could be our brothers and sisters, since we have known them for as long as we can remember.

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We do not mind being alone

Growing up as an only child means that we are very comfortable being alone. We find eating in a restaurant solo or seeing a movie sans company as something that is enjoyable and not in the least bit stressful. Our often introverted nature means that we prefer to have time to ourselves to recharge, but that does not mean we do not enjoy the company of a good friend or a group of close pals every so often.

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We come off as “old souls”

Being raised as the only child often means that you appear wise beyond your years, having spent most of your home life with adults. We are mature for our age and often give advice or have a perspective that may seem surprising coming from such a young person. We also enjoy music from the past and television shows that are parents enjoy, simply because this is what we were exposed to growing up.

We prefer competing against ourselves

We may be hard-working, but we dislike competition. We prefer competing against ourselves to beat our personal best, rather than trying to beat someone else. Growing up, we gravitated toward more creative hobbies like art or drama, than the ultra-competitive world of sports.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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