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7 Great Things Only Short Girls Would Understand

7 Great Things Only Short Girls Would Understand

I am short, and being a short girl, I do face certain complications. I think we all do, regardless of whether we are short or tall. But of course, like everything else around us, there are the advantages and disadvantages of being short. I know a few short girls who think their height plays a negative role in their life, but I see it otherwise.

If you see it in a positive manner, you will find out how special we are. Here is a shoutout to all the short girls out there! Let’s check out 7 great things only we would understand.

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1. You can easily try clothes from the kid’s section

Being short, you have the privilege to check out the kid’s section while shopping. Don’t find anything you like in the women’s department? Hop down to the kid’s one, and see if anything nice fits you. 80% of the times, tops, or skirts are bound to fit you. Those little pleasures come when your friend asks you where you got that top from… you know she’ll never get to wear them!

2. You are in the front during a photo session

Because when it is time for photo sessions, you all are dressed up. And because you are, well, diminutive in stature, you get the advantage of standing in the front of the group. Meaning, you are in the limelight. I mean, I get this: the people who check out a group picture usually comments on how pretty I am looking, before checking the others out.

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3. You can easily fit into small space

One big benefit of being short is that you can effortlessly fit into a small space, be it in a car, or say, sharing a chair with someone. For example, the back seat of our car is 80% taken by two humongous car seats, leaving 20% of the seat fitted for a skinny person. As it happens, a tall skinny person finds it quite difficult to sit there for long. But I don’t. I have travelled on 3 hour rides, sitting there in comfort. Or perhaps you are in a room full of people, and the seats are nearly all occupied by people. You need to sit? Just squeeze in between two. You won’t have much of a problem.

4. You take less area

No, this is not exactly the same thing as I have mentioned in my previous point. It may have similarities, though. I mean, when you are sleeping, you usually don’t take a huge part of the bed (unless you rotate 360 degree while sleeping). If you have a big company staying the night, you don’t have the extra worry of where to sleep. Because you can even fit into a two-seater sofa, if need be.

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5. You can easily walk on heels

Walking on heels takes a lot of practise, and many people can’t specialize in it. But being short, we have master the art of walking with ease. There are so many sexy heels that we can pick one from. And we can catwalk like a real model without falling down. Hey! We can even dance on stilettos!

6. You can be hot, and cute at the same time

Short girls have another advantage of being short. Getting compliments like, “hey, she’s hot”, and at the same time, someone says, “yeah, she’s cute, too”. Well, there can be complaints that short girls are classified as cute only. I don’t think so. There are so many of them who can be cute, yet are hot as well (like myself! Haha!)

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7. You are evergreen

No one, and I mean, no one can guess your age! I think, this is the biggest blessing we have. We look young, no matter how old we grow. Heck, kids much younger than us either think we are of their age, or we are younger than them. I think, this is quite hilarious and I definitely see this as an advantage rather than disadvantage. I mean, can you guess my age?

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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