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9 Struggles Only People Who Seldom Smile But Are Actually Happy Would Know

9 Struggles Only People Who Seldom Smile But Are Actually Happy Would Know

We cannot all be alike. Yes there are differences between us and certain individuals. To be happy doesn’t mean it has to be physically expressed with a smile. Happiness shouldn’t be falsified in a smile. To us, who do not smile often we simply have to deal with certain realities. And here are 9 struggles that we have to put up with.

1. You find that many people aren’t sharing their jokes with you

It’s not as if they don’t want you to share in their amusement or make you a part of the excitement, it’s just that they are being thoughtful since the image you present doesn’t help make a joke worth telling.

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2. You don’t connect with people who smile

You are comfortable with not smiling. It’s not as if you are not happy. You are just better off with a stern face. And you want everyone around you to carry this type of face. You simply don’t know why smiling is a way of expressing happiness, you can express your happiness without opening your teeth and curving your lips. So when you are surrounded with people who smile frequently, you just feel out of place and can’t connect with them. Certainly your best friends are persons who value this quality in you and would want to act the same way as you.

3. You don’t look great in photographs

Everyone says “cheers” at the camera except you. You are okay with making photographs look serious as if you just came out of a funeral procession. You look odd in general photographs. But you look great when you take a passport photograph, which seems to be an easy task for you to feature in.

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4. You meet people who want to know if everything is alright

Things are not always looking okay. And people want to know why. Even when you smile, people consider that odd and want to know why you did smile at all. So you just smile less and are your usual self.

5. You meet people who think you are rude

You’re not rude. You’re just okay with being who you are. Yes they want you to smile back at them. Unfortunately you are always serious and stern, so why should you smile back at them simply for the sake of being nice? Yes they may consider you to be arrogant, stubborn and not friendly in nature, but this is something you have to continually deal with.

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6. You can deliver the funniest jokes

It seems you have a smooth way of making others laugh when you maintain a straight face. People seem to think that your jokes are funny and laugh at them, even when you don’t see any reason to laugh or smile at such jokes.

7. You have people make jokes on you

Since you are always serious and seldom smile, people consider you to be amusing and out of the ordinary. Thus they can make jokes on you and see you as a person who should be laughed at.

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8. You don’t think anything is funny, even if it is

You wonder why people can laugh over something for so long. You wonder if their muscles get sore at some point. You’re odd when you’re getting married or going to other people’s marriages. The truth and reality is that you have to continuously force a smile on your face for hours. This can be a nightmare, but it seems to be the pain you have to go through for your loved ones.

9. You are considered to be boring and grim

People come to you when they habe to deal with something serious. You make any mood grim and stiff. Only very few people can relate with this, because your smile issue is something only very few can come to terms with. But it is okay with your loved ones.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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