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9 Struggles Only People Who Seldom Smile But Are Actually Happy Would Know

9 Struggles Only People Who Seldom Smile But Are Actually Happy Would Know

We cannot all be alike. Yes there are differences between us and certain individuals. To be happy doesn’t mean it has to be physically expressed with a smile. Happiness shouldn’t be falsified in a smile. To us, who do not smile often we simply have to deal with certain realities. And here are 9 struggles that we have to put up with.

1. You find that many people aren’t sharing their jokes with you

It’s not as if they don’t want you to share in their amusement or make you a part of the excitement, it’s just that they are being thoughtful since the image you present doesn’t help make a joke worth telling.

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2. You don’t connect with people who smile

You are comfortable with not smiling. It’s not as if you are not happy. You are just better off with a stern face. And you want everyone around you to carry this type of face. You simply don’t know why smiling is a way of expressing happiness, you can express your happiness without opening your teeth and curving your lips. So when you are surrounded with people who smile frequently, you just feel out of place and can’t connect with them. Certainly your best friends are persons who value this quality in you and would want to act the same way as you.

3. You don’t look great in photographs

Everyone says “cheers” at the camera except you. You are okay with making photographs look serious as if you just came out of a funeral procession. You look odd in general photographs. But you look great when you take a passport photograph, which seems to be an easy task for you to feature in.

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4. You meet people who want to know if everything is alright

Things are not always looking okay. And people want to know why. Even when you smile, people consider that odd and want to know why you did smile at all. So you just smile less and are your usual self.

5. You meet people who think you are rude

You’re not rude. You’re just okay with being who you are. Yes they want you to smile back at them. Unfortunately you are always serious and stern, so why should you smile back at them simply for the sake of being nice? Yes they may consider you to be arrogant, stubborn and not friendly in nature, but this is something you have to continually deal with.

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6. You can deliver the funniest jokes

It seems you have a smooth way of making others laugh when you maintain a straight face. People seem to think that your jokes are funny and laugh at them, even when you don’t see any reason to laugh or smile at such jokes.

7. You have people make jokes on you

Since you are always serious and seldom smile, people consider you to be amusing and out of the ordinary. Thus they can make jokes on you and see you as a person who should be laughed at.

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8. You don’t think anything is funny, even if it is

You wonder why people can laugh over something for so long. You wonder if their muscles get sore at some point. You’re odd when you’re getting married or going to other people’s marriages. The truth and reality is that you have to continuously force a smile on your face for hours. This can be a nightmare, but it seems to be the pain you have to go through for your loved ones.

9. You are considered to be boring and grim

People come to you when they habe to deal with something serious. You make any mood grim and stiff. Only very few people can relate with this, because your smile issue is something only very few can come to terms with. But it is okay with your loved ones.

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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