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10 Signs People Think You’re The Oldest Sibling But You’re Actually Not

10 Signs People Think You’re The Oldest Sibling But You’re Actually Not

While everyone assumes you are the oldest sibling, you are not. It may seem uncomfortable to assume this role but people feel you are pretty cool at playing the part and you are just the ideal candidate for the role. Here are 10 signs people would think you are the oldest sibling but actually you are not the oldest in your family.

1. You are an expert babysitter

You are great at looking after your older and younger siblings. It is not like you work and get paid to do this, it is a role that you simply got into suitably well.

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2. You are a measuring stick

Whether for good or bad, your parents use you as a measuring stick in determining how your brothers and sisters are doing. From stellar grades to being of high moral code, you are a measuring stick for your siblings. It is either your siblings should check out how good your grades are or why they should not turn out like you.

3. You are blamed for everything

When things go wrong you are the one to blame, perhaps because they see you as a model for others to follow or they want to set you as an example for humility. You just have to get things right as people see you as the role model to your siblings.

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4. You are the one your siblings turn to

Your siblings come to you for advice or support when they have done something stupid. They know that you will be the first person to be questioned when any wrongdoing is made. So, they solicit for your support when they are in the corner.

5. You are the capable one

Whether it is an innate thing or because you just feel capable, you stand up to the challenges of the household. You set an example for your siblings on how the real world works. People see this quality in you and assume you are certainly the eldest child, but you are not, you are just being the capable hand.

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6. You are the one who never leaves

Home is where you belong. Every other person may live and stay away for a long time, but you are always not too far away from home. Home is where you belong with your parents. And you become the one who never really moves away from your hometown.

7. You don’t get away with many wrongdoings

Somehow you had to stand up for something. Your curfew was the earliest and you just had to show responsibility with the role you were assigned. You did not get away with many wrongdoings like your siblings.

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8. You got the good stuff last

Toys, cellphones, and video games went to your siblings first. Somehow your parents did not want to spoil you and make you seem favored to the others. You had to appear responsible and wait for the “right time.” You just had to learn how to accept the word “no.”

9. You had to tutor your siblings

As if babysitting your siblings isn’t enough you had to tutor your siblings and help them succeed in school. The interesting twist is that you have to do it for the love and expect nothing in return.

10. You have siblings who are willing to admit you may just have been the oldest one

Even while you are not, your siblings sometimes assume you should have been the oldest since you are great at doing what is expected of you. you play by the book, and show much maturity they always want to hang out with you because it sort of made them look older, smarter, and cooler to their peers.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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