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10 Signs People Think You’re The Oldest Sibling But You’re Actually Not

10 Signs People Think You’re The Oldest Sibling But You’re Actually Not

While everyone assumes you are the oldest sibling, you are not. It may seem uncomfortable to assume this role but people feel you are pretty cool at playing the part and you are just the ideal candidate for the role. Here are 10 signs people would think you are the oldest sibling but actually you are not the oldest in your family.

1. You are an expert babysitter

You are great at looking after your older and younger siblings. It is not like you work and get paid to do this, it is a role that you simply got into suitably well.

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2. You are a measuring stick

Whether for good or bad, your parents use you as a measuring stick in determining how your brothers and sisters are doing. From stellar grades to being of high moral code, you are a measuring stick for your siblings. It is either your siblings should check out how good your grades are or why they should not turn out like you.

3. You are blamed for everything

When things go wrong you are the one to blame, perhaps because they see you as a model for others to follow or they want to set you as an example for humility. You just have to get things right as people see you as the role model to your siblings.

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4. You are the one your siblings turn to

Your siblings come to you for advice or support when they have done something stupid. They know that you will be the first person to be questioned when any wrongdoing is made. So, they solicit for your support when they are in the corner.

5. You are the capable one

Whether it is an innate thing or because you just feel capable, you stand up to the challenges of the household. You set an example for your siblings on how the real world works. People see this quality in you and assume you are certainly the eldest child, but you are not, you are just being the capable hand.

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6. You are the one who never leaves

Home is where you belong. Every other person may live and stay away for a long time, but you are always not too far away from home. Home is where you belong with your parents. And you become the one who never really moves away from your hometown.

7. You don’t get away with many wrongdoings

Somehow you had to stand up for something. Your curfew was the earliest and you just had to show responsibility with the role you were assigned. You did not get away with many wrongdoings like your siblings.

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8. You got the good stuff last

Toys, cellphones, and video games went to your siblings first. Somehow your parents did not want to spoil you and make you seem favored to the others. You had to appear responsible and wait for the “right time.” You just had to learn how to accept the word “no.”

9. You had to tutor your siblings

As if babysitting your siblings isn’t enough you had to tutor your siblings and help them succeed in school. The interesting twist is that you have to do it for the love and expect nothing in return.

10. You have siblings who are willing to admit you may just have been the oldest one

Even while you are not, your siblings sometimes assume you should have been the oldest since you are great at doing what is expected of you. you play by the book, and show much maturity they always want to hang out with you because it sort of made them look older, smarter, and cooler to their peers.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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