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10 Signs You Have The Coolest Girlfriend In The World

10 Signs You Have The Coolest Girlfriend In The World

Most men make a few mistakes before they find a girl who is perfect for them. There are lots of things that you find out while you are with someone; for example they could be selfish or extremely high maintenance.

This can result in you feeling sad and unloved, but as you grow older you become more aware of what you want in a relationship. The perfect girl is out there – maybe you have already found her?

Check out 10 signs that your girlfriend is one of the coolest in the world.

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1. She is independent

No one wants to become a part-time carer for their partner, but some partners can be so needy and clingy that you end up feeling like their babysitter. A great girlfriend is independent and strong; instead of needing you there, she simply wants you to be there because she enjoys your company. Without you, her life doesn’t fall apart; she just gets on with it.

2. She is interesting

You and your girlfriend should be able to have conversations that last for hours and truly interest you. A relationship can last a lifetime, so it is important to find a girlfriend who interests and excites you.

3. She gets on well with your family and friends

Your girlfriend should be interested in your personal life, and she should be keen to meet the other people in your life. Even if she isn’t BBF with your little brother, it should be obvious that she is trying to love the people that you love.

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4. She is intelligent

Your girlfriend should open your mind up to new ideas and perspectives, teaching you new things while making you question what you already know. This is important for any long-term relationship; without intelligence conversation is difficult, and without conversation it is likely that the relationship will turn sour.

5. She is there for you when you are feeling low

Your girlfriend is the one person who you can go to after a seriously hard day. She is the person who will listen to you vent before offering a much-needed hug. If your girlfriend is dismissive of your problems, there may be deeper problems in the relationship.

6. She respects you

Respect is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. A great girlfriend won’t share your secrets with others, and she won’t try to push you around. It is worth noting that the respect must be mutual; you give respect to earn it.

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7. She makes you want to be a better person

When you meet someone truly amazing, they will inspire and motivate you to a be a better person. From advancing your career to becoming more compassionate, there are endless ways that your girlfriend can motivate you to be better.

8. She accepts your individual interests

In a relationship, both partners will have their own individual interest. An awesome girlfriend will encourage you to follow your interests, and she will continue to pursue her own. No matter how much she loves you, she understands that you love other things too.

9. She makes you laugh

Laughing is the ultimate sign of happiness, and your girlfriend should regularly crack you up. Relationships have highs and lows; without someone who can make you laugh, the lows will be a lot more noticeable.

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10. She loves you for who you are

A great girlfriend doesn’t want to change her boyfriend. She will embrace all of his quirky traits, and she will even find them cute. If your girlfriend is trying to change you, it might be a sign that you two aren’t well suited. The girl who is loves you for you will never try to change who you are.

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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