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9 Things Only People Who’re Not Good At Expressing Themselves Can Relate To

9 Things Only People Who’re Not Good At Expressing Themselves Can Relate To

For some people, expression of thoughts and emotions comes easy. For others, it’s not so natural. If you fall into the latter category, you’re not alone. Here are 9 things only people who aren’t good at expressing themselves can relate to.

1. You’re perceived as cold

With little facial expression and very few words, people usually think you’re so cold and dare not to approach you. The fact is that your emotions are always stirring inside while your outside doesn’t react accordingly.

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2. Your intelligence is often underestimated

People often take fluency in languages as the key of intelligence. It’s true that people who’re fluent in languages have their talents. But it doesn’t mean people who’re not good at expressing themselves are not equally intelligent. Many times in discussion or when meeting new people, as they find you sitting quietly, they’d conclude that you’re not smart enough. They don’t know many highly successful people in human history are not good at expressing themselves (e.g. Albert Einstein).

3. You often think for so long to answer a question

Sometimes it’s hard to find the right word. Words can’t always illustrate your exact thoughts. But more often it’s just too hard to find an absolute answer. To you, things are full of possibilities, you’d seldom conclude things sounding like an expert.

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4. You find large group gatherings tiring

In large group gatherings, people exchange views in a quick and surface manner. Before you give an idea, they’ve turned into a new topic already. You’re not good at responding so quickly, nor to interrupt effectively.

5.You’re a great listener

Though you’re not good at speaking, there’re some advantages too. You won’t interrupt like most people do, so when people tell you their sad stories, you really listen. Real listening doesn’t mean giving your own opinions, but just to really listen, show your interest and understanding. Therefore, people find it comforting to have you on their sides, especially when they’re in bad moods.

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6. You prefer actions than words

You always know actions speak louder than words. That’s why you spend little time on promoting yourself. Instead, you kickstart things right away to prove your ideas. In personal life, you spend little efforts (actually it’s a great challenge for you too) on polishing your words, you prefer putting them into actions instead of making vague and sugar-coated promises.

7. You sometimes find it hard to vent out your emotions

As said before, not being good at expressing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t have emotions. When you have lots of emotions, you sometimes feel like exploding as they’re stuck in your mind and body.

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8. You sometimes find yourself awkward when you spell out your feelings

When you finally try to express your feelings in better ways, you find yourself really awkward, so as people around you who’re not used to it. They’d think you must have gone crazy.

9. Your best friends know all these and won’t force you to change

Fortunately your best friends know all these. They know your struggles and deepest thoughts. They’ve never tried to change you but just to admire such a special friend.

Featured photo credit: Mitya Ku via flic.kr

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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