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Science Says Polite People Are Less Stressed In Life

Science Says Polite People Are Less Stressed In Life

That barista who greets everyone in the ‘round-the-block line with a smile more invigorating than the coffee, and what seems like every waiter/waitress who seems upset but okay after dropping every plate in their hand push through seemingly stress-free . There is a reason the most polite people seem stress free even in the most trying circumstances, being polite will help bounce some of the naturally occurring negative stimuli out of our mind and contribute to more positive emotional well-being. Being polite can even help you get the most out of life by acting as a stress relief during some of the most stressful (but totally enjoyable) times. From school, to work, to the most terrible travel experience into divine destinations, being polite will reduce discomfort and will make your experiences pest-free to your mind.

School

Going to college can be one of the most stressful times of your youth. It’s many young folks first time moving out, first time by themselves, and their premier onto the adult scene. This added stress can exacerbate underlying mental conditions, which is why most mental issues present themselves between the ages of 18-24. Being a polite person will free our minds from the stress day-to-day aggravations can cause, and that’s a big deal for young folks trying to make it through school. Smiling and holding the door open for the person behind you will help you forget about the one just slammed in your face.

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While school work and being away from your family can be major stressors for freshmen, cohabitation can squeeze even the coolest college kid. Courtly courtesy can keep even the crummiest dirty sock hoarder out of mind, in your room, and an ideal roommate. While it might seem strange to oblige their strange habits, your 15 alarms don’t do much better. Communication and cordial interactions are vital contributors to serene cohabitation (being polite is all it takes), not daily dusting or taping down the middle of the room in a vain attempt to split your 10X20 room into separate kingdoms. Being polite while at school can really save your bum from a whole slew of daily emotional pitfalls, and keep your emotional well-being stable, this is just one example of the tremendous benefits that come when acting with a diplomatic disposition on a regular basis.

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Work

Coping with workplace stress is a difficult transition for any person hacking their way through white collar wastelands, added stress from poor communication and conditions beyond your control (like when the print-shop closes, emails that need returned to you, or weather conditions) can cause your stress to spiral out of control. That stress can affect your performance, your interactions with clients, and your health; stay sweet and avoid that fetid funk that can sink into business interactions, and your mindset. You can get coffee for a co-worker, keep your conversations extremely cordial (avoid cursing, or politely curse), or try to focus on the positive, awesome things your co-workers are doing, and let them know that they are awesome for doing them! Let your clients, know too, your rude manners shouldn’t be the subtext to your customer service. Besides, if you’re staying late to wait for the print-shop to get back to you, or are waiting for some vital emails that need inspected before you leave, you can use your time to teach another co worker about your favorite excel tricks, or you could get a head start on the secretary’s HUGE stack of filing (they would love you forever for that).

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Leisure time

You are the sweetest, kindest little genteel that ever did exist while at work, at school, or with your family and friends, but unless you can maintain that sweet, socially performing facade while under the pressures that might come with leisure activities like travel, playing games, or paintball! Just going for a long drive in the country-side can be super relaxing, but unless you stay calm and polite in the road, it can turn into a road-rage quite quickly if you start aggressively driving, or are unsure about the rules of the road in the area. Those rules can also prevent your politeness from spreading in other parts of the world (especially if you don’t follow the regional rules of what it means to be polite). Taking your leisure time, and enjoying it stress-free is vital for your future well-being. Relax, enjoy your leisure time, and take off into the super polite bliss you are bound to achieve.

Featured photo credit: Calgary Canada Day 2014 via flickr.com

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Last Updated on October 6, 2020

15 Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

15 Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To walk with swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.

And if you want to know the difference between an arrogant person and a confident person, watch this video first:

 

1. They don’t make excuses.

Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.

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2. They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.

Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.

3. They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.

Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.

4. They don’t put things off until next week.

Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.

5. They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.

Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.

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6. They don’t judge people.

Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.

7. They don’t let lack of resources stop them.

Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but rather focus on finding a solution.

8. They don’t make comparisons.

Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so unique that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.

9. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.

Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them.

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10. They don’t need constant reassurance.

Highly confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.

11. They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.

Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.

12. They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.

Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time).

13. They don’t require anyone’s permission to act.

Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?”

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14. They don’t limit themselves to a small toolbox.

Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.

15. They don’t blindly accept what they read on the Internet as “truth” without thinking about it.

Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just because some author “said so”. They look at every how-to article from the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism, making use of any material that is relevant to their lives, and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise, highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power to decide what “confidence” means.

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