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Why Grilled Cheese Lovers Are Better At Life

Why Grilled Cheese Lovers Are Better At Life

There’s nothing better than the comfort of a warm grilled cheese sandwich. There’s a lot we can learn from those who, in their adult years, still yearn for grilled cheese.

Cheese Can Have a Drug-like Effect

Studies show that cheese has euphoric, opioid-like effects. While I’m no biologist, I’d say this is probably the equivalent of a healthy pick-me-up in modest quantities. Of course, there is some discussion in The Daily Mail that some people could even become addicted to cheese.

Grilled Cheese Lovers Have More Sex

According to research performed by Skout, grilled cheese lovers have a more active sex life. Thirty-two per cent of grilled cheese eaters have sex at least 6 times per month, whereas only 27% of non-grilled cheese eaters have sex that often. Perhaps it’s that aforementioned opioid-like effect that gets people in the mood. Or, perhaps the playful mind of a grilled cheese eater is more likely to pursue sexual amusement.

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Grilled Cheese Lovers Give More to Charity

Another fact discovered by Skout is that 81% of the people who love grilled cheese say they give their time and money to charity versus 66% of those who do not. Perhaps grilled cheese eaters are more empathetic. Their desire to connect with the gooey, cheesy joy of their childhood opens their mind to the happiness of other children. This is unlike the grilled cheese haters who are too busy being adults all the time and can’t see past their own daily hustle.

Grilled Cheese Lovers are More Adventurous

Skout also suggested that 84% of grilled cheese lovers are more likely to do adventurous things or travel, compared to 78% of those who dislike grilled cheese. If you’re willing to embrace the excitement of your favorite childhood sandwich, you’ll likely also be daring enough to seek a bit more out of life.

Toast is Better Than Bread for Level-Headedness

According to Live Strong, toasted bread has a lower glycemic index than normal bread. This helps you avoid spikes in blood sugar levels. So, perhaps choosing grilled cheese over a traditional sandwich has a tiny effect on keeping people more levelheaded under pressure, and less nervous when approaching ambitious projects.

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If You’re Too Strict to Eat Grilled Cheese, You’re Too Strict to Risk Failure

Wouldn’t it feel a little bit silly if your professor or your company’s executives caught you, the serious and dignified adult that you are, eating some crazy, fat-filled melted grilled cheese sandwich? Certainly, you should have adult food. Or at least demonstrate health consciousness.

To the grilled cheese haters, it’s a matter of self-discipline: If you’re not being perfectly astute with what you eat, then what else might you drop?

However, people who are good at life understand the need for balance and embrace the risk of a bad self-image. If you can’t take the self-image of being a childish grilled cheese gobbler, then you’re probably unwilling to abandon your current life’s path to try something new, since you’re unwilling to deal with failure.

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Grilled Cheese Lovers are in Touch with What They Love

As people get older, they tend to fall into life’s busy routine. Initially, people start by dreaming of things they love — travel, creative projects, and big ideas. But as life goes on, people obtain more responsibilities and have bills to pay. We run out of time and slowly lose touch with what triggers our happiness.

Grilled cheese lovers don’t forget. They remember their brief passion for grilled cheese. If they remember this, they also remember other things they love; they are people who are in touch with their passions and are more likely to take steps to make those passions reality.

Grilled Cheese Lovers Cherish Playfulness

One key to being a happy adult is to play. Being totally serious and mature 24 hours per day is a terrible burden, but many people have simply forgotten how to be any different. If you eat grilled cheese, you cherish something a little less mature. Odds are good that a grilled cheese eater has more of a playful side.

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Featured photo credit: Grilled Cheese/Lucas Richarz via flic.kr

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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