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5 Common Relapse Triggers for Teens in Recovery

5 Common Relapse Triggers for Teens in Recovery

Teens in the early stages of recovery from drug addiction are prone to relapse once they finish a treatment plan. Read on to recognize five common relapse triggers and how parents can help their children from turning to drugs again.

Stress

All teenagers deal with stress from school, family, and friends. Teens recovering from drug abuse have the added pressure to resist falling back into bad habits. They often have to cut off friends who use drugs and change social habits, like hanging out at a classmate’s house unsupervised after school or attending parties. Sometimes it feels like family members are breathing down their necks, watching their every move, and building up the already tense pressure against a relapse. The pressures of school piled on top of all this can be daunting, causing a teen’s stress levels to skyrocket. In turn, they are at higher risk of developing anxiety or depression. To alleviate the stress that accompanies being a teenager, the effects drugs induce again become a much more appealing escape, increasing a recovering addict’s probability of relapsing.

How Parents Can Help

Create a plan together to combat stress. Break down the stressors and examine how each one may contribute to a relapse. Ask questions and listen openly. Does your teen need a tutor or help with time management for schoolwork? Do they feel pressure from parents and family not to relapse? How has giving up drug-abusing friends affected their social life?

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Next, devise a plan based on their needs. Get them the help they need, which may involve their school or a counselor. Exercise, yoga, and meditation all alleviate stress as well. Support them in trying something new, like martial arts or a musical instrument. Let them keep trying until they find something they love that helps reduce their stress.

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is a powerful influence. When teens go to parties or hang out with drug abusers, they may feel like they have to go along with the crowd. They think using drugs one last time won’t hurt, or they may want to use drugs to appear cool, avoid confrontation, or even make new friends. Finding new friends who don’t use drugs and are positive influences is challenging at a stage where most teens have already developed a set group of friends around whom they feel most comfortable with.

How Parents Can Help

Form a plan for expectations, rules, and consequences regarding drug use. Ask them how they feel about being pressured by old friends or others they want to be friends with. It is possible for teens to explain to their peers that they are committed to remaining drug-free. Practice playing out scenarios in which they may feel pressured to do drugs and different ways to respond. Devise an escape plan, like calling home for a ride no matter how late it is.

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Focus on the positive. Figure out where they can meet clean, like-minded peers. Encourage them to join a support group where they can talk to teens going through the same challenges. Sports, after-school clubs, and church groups all offer alternatives to the party scene.

Loneliness & Isolation

Giving up old friends and situations that encourage drug use or losing interest in regular activities can lead to loneliness and isolation. Teens in recovery often feel like they can’t relate to their peers. This can also lead to anxiety or depression. Being without a friend to talk to may lead to using drugs to combat the struggles of loneliness.

How Parents Can Help

Make sure your child isn’t spending too much time alone, especially in their bedroom. Plan family activities, like a weekly game night or family dinner. Ask them to watch a show with you or offer to help them study. Encourage them to invite their classmates or new friends over for a get-together, including board games or cards, ping pong, Foosball, or something as simple as a movie marathon. Again, a support group where they feel understood by others with similar interests is extremely helpful with the ongoing recovery process.

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Social Situations

The likelihood of your teen avoiding a relapse if they attend events where drugs are readily accessible is slim to none. There will be gatherings they want to attend, whether after school at a friend’s house or maybe even at a football game, where other teens they know are doing drugs. The reality is that your teen must find other social outlets. It may not be easy, but it’s possible.

How Parents Can Help

It’s not easy to start over with new social events and friends when you’re a teenager. Talk to your child and ask them what social activities seem safe to them. Instead of demanding they give up parties altogether, encourage them to try activities like community or school events. Encourage them to go out with trusted friends to the movies or for ice cream. Parent-supervised get-togethers give kids a place to have fun away from the temptations of drugs.

Boredom

Sitting around the house doing nothing is boring for anyone. For a teen in recovery, boredom is dangerous. They ruminate on how they’ve lost friends or are missing parties. They feel left out. The temptation to use drugs to fill that void at this point can be overwhelming.

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How Parents Can Help

Encourage your teen to try something new at school like joining a club or sport. Volunteer together in your community once a week or take a work vacation to help rebuild a community after a flood or tornado. Helping others is a great way for your teen to meet new people and feel a sense of pride in what they’re doing, all while showing your teen what the world has to offer beyond a life of partying and drugs.

Let Us Help

Once your teen has completed a drug treatment program, the work doesn’t stop. They have to learn how to resist the urge to return to drugs while navigating their way through triggers like stress, peer pressure, loneliness, social activities, and boredom.

Does your teen need support? Pyramid Healthcare, is here to help! Contact us for more information on outpatient support groups for teens.

Together we can help your teen succeed on the path to recovery.

Featured photo credit: Mother embracing and soothes depressed daughter/David Pereiras via bigstockphoto.com

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Published on December 14, 2018

14 Helpful Tips for Single Parents: How to Stay Sane While Doing it All

14 Helpful Tips for Single Parents: How to Stay Sane While Doing it All

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, over 27% of children under the age of 18 are living with a single parent.[1] That’s over 1/4th of the U.S. population.There is a common misconception that children who grow up in single parent homes are not as successful as children living in two-parent homes.

One crucial detail that was often left out of studies when comparing single and two-parent homes was the stability of the household. There is a correlation between family structure and family stability, but this study shows that children who grow up in stable single-parent homes do as well as those in married households in terms of academic abilities and behavior.

But providing stability is easier said than done. With only one adult to act as a parent, some tasks are inherently more challenging. However, there are a few helpful things you can do to make the parenting journey a little easier for yourself and stay sane while doing it.

1. Don’t Neglect Self-Care

Before anything else can be done, you must be caring for your own needs adequately. Only when you are feeling well-rested and healthy can you be at your best for your children.

Many parents tend to put their kids’ needs first and their owns last, but that will result in a never-ending cycle of exhaustion and feelings of inadequacy. Make time to eat regularly and healthfully, get plenty of rest, and squeeze in exercise whenever you can. Even a short walk around the neighborhood will help your body get much-needed movement and fresh air.

Your children depend on you, and it’s up to you to make sure that you are well-equipped and ready to take on that responsibility.

2. Join Forces with Other Single Parents

At times, it may seem like you’re the only person who knows what it’s like to be a single parent. However, the statistics say that there are many others who know exactly what you’re going through.

Find single parents locally, through your kid’s school, extracurricular activities, or even an app. There are also numerous online communities that can offer support and advice, through Facebook or sites like Single Mom Nation.

Although single moms make up the majority of single parents, there are more than 2.6 million single dads in the U.S. A great way to connect is through Meetup. Other single parents will more than happy to arrange babysitting swaps, playdates, and carpools.

Join forces in order to form mutually beneficial relationships.

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3. Build a Community

In addition to finding support with other single parents, also build a community comprised of families of all different types. Rather than focus solely on the single parent aspect of your identity, look for parents and kids who share other things in common.

Join a playgroup, get plugged in at a church, or get to know the parents of the kids involved in the same extracurricular activities. Having a community of a variety of people and families will bring diversity and excitement into your and your kids’ lives.

4. Accept Help

Don’t try to be a superhero and do it all yourself. There are probably people in your life who care about you and your kids and want to help you. Let them know what types of things would be most appreciated, whether it’s bringing meals once a week, helping with rides to school, or giving you time to yourself.

There is no shame in asking for help and accepting assistance from loved ones. You will not be perceived as weak or incompetent. You are being a good parent by being resourceful and allowing others to give you a much-needed break.

5. Get Creative with Childcare

Raising a child on a single income is a challenge, with the high cost of daycares, nannies, and other conventional childcare services. More affordable options are possible if you go a less traditional route.

If you have space and live in a college town, offer a college student housing in exchange for regular childcare. Or swap kids with other single parents so that your kids have friends to play with while the parents get time to themselves.

When I was younger, my parents had a group of five family friends, and all of the children would rotate to a different house each day of the week, during the summer months. The kids would have a great time playing with each other, and the parents’ job becomes a lot easier. That’s what you would call a win-win situation.

6. Plan Ahead for Emergencies

As a single parent, a backup plan or two is a must in emergency situations. Make a list of people you know you can call in a moment’s notice. There will be times in which you need help, and it’s important to know ahead of time who you can rely on.

Look into whether or not your area offers emergency babysitting services or a drop-in daycare. Knowing who will be able to care for your child in the event of an emergency can relieve one potential source of anxiety in stressful situations.

7. Create a Routine

Routines are crucial for young children because knowing what to expect gives them a semblance of control. This is even more important when in a single parent home.

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If the child travels between homes or has multiple caretakers, life can seem extremely chaotic and unpredictable. Establish a routine and schedule for your child as much as possible. This can include bedtime, before/after school, chores, meal times, and even a weekend routine.

Having a routine does not mean things cannot change. It is merely a default schedule to fall back on when no additional events or activities are going on. When your children know what to expect, they will be less resistant because they know what to expect, and days will run much more smoothly.

8. Be Consistent with Rules and Discipline

If your child has multiple caretakers, such as another parent, grandparent, or babysitter, communicate clearly on how discipline will be handled. Talk to your ex, if you are sharing custody, as well as any other caretakers about the rules and the agreed-upon approach to discipline.

When a child realizes that certain rules can be bent with certain people, he/she will use it to their advantage, causing additional issues with limits, behavior, and discipline down the road.

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9. Stay Positive

Everyone has heard the saying, “Mind over matter.” But there really is so much power behind your mentality. It can change your perspective and make a difficult situation so much better.

Your kids will be able to detect even the smallest shift in your attitude. When the responsibilities of motherhood are overwhelming, stay focused on the positive things in your life, such as your friends and family. This will produce a much more stable home environment.

Maintain your sense of humor and don’t be afraid to be silly. Look towards the future and the great things that are still to come for you and your family. Rediscover and redefine your family values.

10. Move Past the Guilt

In a single parent home, it is impossible to act as both parents, regardless of how hard you try. Let go of the things that you cannot do as a single parent, and instead, think of the great things you ARE able to provide for your children.

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Leave behind the notion that life would be easier or better with two parents. This is simply not true. There is a multitude of pros and cons to all family dynamics, and the one you are providing for your kids now is the one that they need.

Don’t get bogged down by guilt or regret. Take control of your life and be the best parent you can by being present and engaged with them on a daily basis.

11. Answer Questions Honestly

Your kids may have questions about why their home situation is different from many of their friends. When asked, don’t sugarcoat the situation or give them an answer that is not accurate.

Depending on their age, take this opportunity to explain the truth of what happened and how the current circumstances came about. Not all families have two parents, whether that is due to divorce, death, or whatever else life brings.

Don’t give more detail than necessary or talk badly about the other parent. But strive to be truthful and honest. Your children will benefit more from your candor than a made-up story.

12. Treat Kids Like Kids

In the absence of a partner, it can be tempting to rely on your children for comfort, companionship, or sympathy. But your kids are not equipped to play this role for you.

There are many details within an adult relationship that children are not able to understand or process, and it will only cause confusion and resentment.

Do not take out your anger on your kids. Separate your emotional needs from your role as a mother. If you find yourself depending on your kids too much, look for adult friends or family members that you can talk to about your issues.

13. Find Role Models

Find positive role models of the opposite sex for your child. It’s crucial that your child does not form negative associations with an entire gender of people.

Find close friends or family members that would be willing to spend one-on-one time with your kids. Encourage them to form meaningful relationships with people that you trust and that they can look up to.

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Role models can make a huge difference in the path that a child decides to take, so be intentional about the ones that you put in your kids’ lives.

14. Be Affectionate and Give Praise

Your children need your affection and praise on a daily basis. Engage with your kids as often as possible by playing with them, going on outings, and encouraging open dialogue.

Affirm them in the things that they are doing well, no matter how small. Praise their efforts, rather than their achievements. This will inspire them to continue to put forth hard work and not give up when success is not achieved.

Rather than spending money on gifts, spend time and effort in making lasting memories.

Final Thoughts

Being a single parent is a challenging responsibility to take on. Without the help of a partner to fall back on, single parents have a lot more to take on.

However, studies show that growing up in a single parent home does not have a negative effect on achievement in school. As long as the family is a stable and safe environment, kids are able to excel and do well in life.

Use these tips in order to be a reliable and capable parent for your kids, while maintaining your own well-being and sanity.

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