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A Letter To My Lover Without The Phrase “I Love You”

A Letter To My Lover Without The Phrase “I Love You”

To My Love,

I have made of you a habit, my dear. A habit formed with words. I said those three words at first, when our relationship was almost old and nearly new, because that first time was the magical time that made it all come true for me. And time and time after that first magicalmoment, I repeated those little words- like an echoing mantra through the temple of my heart.I did it out of an earnest intent, because love is often vocal, but I forgot that actions are equally important…

So…

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Instead of just three words, I will always be here. When troubles come and you feel alone, I will always be by your side. Nothing can withstand the force when two hearts like ours collide. We are a fearless army of two and we have fought these battles before. We always get stronger and we always prevail. That is the love we carry, and the only kind we know.

Instead of just three words, I will tell you to follow your dreams; all the things you want to see and do and be and catch. I will chase these down with you and make them yours, because the butterflies of dreams we capture together, we can both admire forever.

My love will be in my hands, not merely in my words; as I reach for your hand to stroll through an empty field that is rustled bythe breezy stirrings of a summer wind,and we hand in hand, underneath the pin prick illuminations of a million tiny stars that we can call our own.

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My love will be in my ears, not merely in my words; in listening toand not just hearingall the things you say and want and do in life. Making your dreams come true by listening tothem in full and conspiring to act on them with you when I fully understand.

My love will be in our picnics; in the tall, green grass of sun kissed parks; where children spin on a merry-go-round and their laughter is an approaching and receding wave of music to serenade us. My love will rest in those moments, quiet and serene; with your head on my chest and my fingers pushing back the silk of your hair so I can steal a kiss.

My love will be when I hold you tight during the dark black storms that shake and rattle our house; the thunder peeling off like cannon blasts and the wind a steady howl, but you and I wrapped close and safe in the couchcocoonof our always sturdy love. My love will be thatshelter where you can always go to find solace from the storms.

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My love will be in my everything; in all the things I do and not just say to you. Because I always want to make it just a little bit easier for you to make it through the everything that you share with me.

What I mean to say is, even if I had no voice or we had no language or there was no sound, you would still know that I love you. And with every single movement of my heart seeking yours, you will know that loving you is not just a thing I say. It is a thing I do.

Love,

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Me

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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