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A Letter To My Lover Without The Phrase “I Love You”

A Letter To My Lover Without The Phrase “I Love You”

To My Love,

I have made of you a habit, my dear. A habit formed with words. I said those three words at first, when our relationship was almost old and nearly new, because that first time was the magical time that made it all come true for me. And time and time after that first magicalmoment, I repeated those little words- like an echoing mantra through the temple of my heart.I did it out of an earnest intent, because love is often vocal, but I forgot that actions are equally important…

So…

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Instead of just three words, I will always be here. When troubles come and you feel alone, I will always be by your side. Nothing can withstand the force when two hearts like ours collide. We are a fearless army of two and we have fought these battles before. We always get stronger and we always prevail. That is the love we carry, and the only kind we know.

Instead of just three words, I will tell you to follow your dreams; all the things you want to see and do and be and catch. I will chase these down with you and make them yours, because the butterflies of dreams we capture together, we can both admire forever.

My love will be in my hands, not merely in my words; as I reach for your hand to stroll through an empty field that is rustled bythe breezy stirrings of a summer wind,and we hand in hand, underneath the pin prick illuminations of a million tiny stars that we can call our own.

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My love will be in my ears, not merely in my words; in listening toand not just hearingall the things you say and want and do in life. Making your dreams come true by listening tothem in full and conspiring to act on them with you when I fully understand.

My love will be in our picnics; in the tall, green grass of sun kissed parks; where children spin on a merry-go-round and their laughter is an approaching and receding wave of music to serenade us. My love will rest in those moments, quiet and serene; with your head on my chest and my fingers pushing back the silk of your hair so I can steal a kiss.

My love will be when I hold you tight during the dark black storms that shake and rattle our house; the thunder peeling off like cannon blasts and the wind a steady howl, but you and I wrapped close and safe in the couchcocoonof our always sturdy love. My love will be thatshelter where you can always go to find solace from the storms.

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My love will be in my everything; in all the things I do and not just say to you. Because I always want to make it just a little bit easier for you to make it through the everything that you share with me.

What I mean to say is, even if I had no voice or we had no language or there was no sound, you would still know that I love you. And with every single movement of my heart seeking yours, you will know that loving you is not just a thing I say. It is a thing I do.

Love,

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Me

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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