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Pregnancy At Week 25

Pregnancy At Week 25

Pregnancy at week 25 is an exciting week! Your baby is so much bigger and stronger than ever before and as your head toward that due date the momentum just keeps gathering.

What’s happening with Baby

At 25 weeks pregnant, your baby is about 13 1/2 inches long and weighs roughly a 1 1/2 pounds. That’s about the size of your average acorn squash! That sounds so tiny, but that little baby is definitely viable and only has a few more months to bake before they are ready for the world! Your little baby is starting to fill out. She’ll lose that loose, wrinkled baby skin look and start to plump up and her skin will smooth out. She’s also growing more and more hair. At this point, if you could see your baby’s hair you would be able to tell whether or not they will be curly headed, blonde or ginger!

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    Your baby’s skin is getting pinker this week as capillaries are forming under the skin and filling with blood. Your baby at week 25 is looking more like a newborn and less like a squishy alien! In the second half of the week, your baby’s lungs will begin to develop capillaries as well, which will put them just one step closer to taking that first big breath of fresh air.

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    Another important breathing development that can start happening in week 25 of pregnancy is when your baby’s nostrils start to open. Up until this point in the pregnancy your baby’s nostrils have been stopped up, but now they are unclogging and your baby is starting to take some practice breaths.

    What’s happening with your body?

    During pregnancy at week 25 your miraculous, ever-expanding uterus has reached the size of a soccer ball. Congrats on already becoming a soccer mom! While that might seem huge, just wait until you’re 9 months (or more!) along. You will be yearning for that cute “little” bump you’re rocking these days. With the extra size might come some extra discomfort. Unless your doctor has instructed you otherwise, it’s still okay to continue to exercise and move around as much as you feel comfortable. Just remember to drink plenty of water, stay off of your back and stop exercising if you feel any pain, dizziness or discomfort. Keeping yourself active through all of the changes will help prepare your body for labor and help you stay healthy and happy for your baby.

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    Some common symptoms that might be cropping up around this time include: heart burn, varicose veins, carpal tunnel, and snoring. If you’re experiencing any burning in your chest and throat keep some Tums or Rolaids close at hand. Popping a few Tums a day might become a habit through the rest of your pregnancy. Varicose veins are never fun, but are totally normal. The extra blood volume during pregnancy puts strain of your veins which causes them to bulge and protrude. Avoid the development of varicose veins by wearing loose fitting clothing to aid the flow of blood. The increased blood flow during pregnancy can also put pressure of the nerves in your wrist, which can cause carpal tunnel syndrome. If you are experiencing tingly or painful hands talk to your doctor about wearing a wrist brace. Snoring is also an unfortunate side affect of pregnancy and the increased blood supply. The increased blood flow to your mucus membranes can cause you to become congested which will cause snoring. If your snoring is truly affecting your sleep then talk to your doctor. Snoring can also be a sign of sleep apnea which can be a more serious problem.

    Suggestions for this week

    If your feeling pretty uncomfortable at this point because of any of the symptoms I mentioned above or any other discomfort, then start addressing it now. There is only more baby to grow and more bodily change ahead so it’s smart to get ahead of the curve.

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    If indigestion and heart burn are really bothering you then considering adjusting your diet. Try eating five smaller meals a day instead of three big ones. The less food there is in your tummy to digest the easier it will be and the less pain you are likely to experience. Avoid carbonated or fatty foods because they take longer to break down. If your heart burn is the worst at night try to stop eating several hours before bed in order to give your stomach the time it needs to digest before bed.

    If other physical pains are bothering you trying different stretches, routines, or habits to begin alleviating the pain. Maybe you need more rest at this point? Maybe you actually need to go on shorter and more frequent walks? Getting to know your body and listening to it is an important part of pregnancy at week 25, labor and motherhood in general. Start now and you will thank yourself later!

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    Published on December 20, 2019

    Is Authoritarian Parenting Good or Bad for Your Child?

    Is Authoritarian Parenting Good or Bad for Your Child?

    Kate sits down to the dinner table and is eager to be a good girl and eat her dinner like her Mom and Dad want her to do. She is a sweet girl who wants the approval of her parents very much. It is not always easy though. During dinner, she stands up and starts to leave the table because she has to use the bathroom. Her Dad yells at her to sit back down. He tells her “we don’t just get up from the dinner table, we wait and ask to be excused after everyone is finished eating.” She begins to protest, wanting to explain that she needs to use the bathroom. Her father becomes more upset with her and yells at her that she is now talking back and she is not allowed to say another word at the dinner table until everyone is finished eating and then she can be excused.

    Unfortunately for Kate, she can’t hold it, and she has a little accident because she is too fearful to say a word to her Dad. She doesn’t want to get yelled at anymore. She also knows that in her home, kids don’t have a say. What Mom and Dad say is like words carved into stone. They are strict beyond reason and they will not bend their rules. Therefore, Kate felt that she had no choice in the matter and when she could no longer hold it. There was nothing she could do about it.

    Kate’s parents are an example of authoritarian parenting. They are strict, they are not emotionally engaged with their children, and they have very high expectations for their children. This type of parenting style leaves children feeling disconnected from their parents.

    Kate wanted to communicate to her parents that she had to use the restroom, but she couldn’t even get her words out because her parents have such strict rules and demands of her. They did not care to hear what she had to say, because upholding their rules was more important to them. In their household, a child’s opinions and feelings do not matter.

    This kind of strict parenting is not helpful for children. It can damage a child and leave them with low self-esteem, mental health issues, and doing poor academically among other problems cited by research in Parenting Science.[1]

    What Does Authoritarian Parenting Look Like?

    In the 1960’s, a researcher and theorist by the name of Baumrind established the well known theory of parenting styles. Those four parenting styles, which are well known today, are authoritarian, authoritative, passive, and neglectful. For proactive parents that are trying hard to be good parents, they will usually lean toward either authoritarian or authoritative.

    Authoritarian parenting involves strict parenting and high expectations for children. This can sound reasonable and even like good parenting. However, the strict parenting is often characterized by lack of compassion toward the child, little to no flexibility in rules, and complete control sought over the child’s behavior.

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    Parents who use this parenting style believe it is their job to control the will and behavior of their children. An article in Psychology Today explains how authoritarian parents operate:[2]

    Authoritarian parents believe that children are, by nature, strong-willed and self-indulgent. They value obedience to higher authority as a virtue unto itself. Authoritarian parents see their primary job to be bending the will of the child to that of authority—the parent, the church, the teacher. Willfulness is seen to be the root of unhappiness, bad behavior, and sin. Thus, a loving parent is one who tries to break the will of the child.

    For example, Jake has authoritarian parents. He wants to stay out past curfew on a school night because he has an opportunity to play in a jazz ensemble. He has been playing the saxophone for years and his ambition is to play in a college jazz ensemble.

    With Jake still being in high school, his parents have a curfew. On school nights, it is 8:00 pm. This rule is instituted because his parents believe they need to ensure that Jake gets his school work done each night and that he needs to be well rested for school the next day. However, they don’t explain the why of their rules to him, they simply tell him that those are their rules. The jazz ensemble is practicing at 8:00 pm on a Thursday night and they have invited Jake to come play with them. It is a well known group and a huge opportunity for Jake.

    Unfortunately, his parents say no. Their authoritarian parenting style is unwavering. He wants to discuss the opportunity and its importance, but his parents will not even entertain the conversation. They stop him mid-sentence and go over their rules again. There is no flexibility.

    If Jake’s parents had been authoritative, they would have taken the time to hear out his case and would likely have granted him a later curfew for that one instance. They would see that, although they have a curfew, there are some instances when an opportunity is worth bending the rules. They would ask that he has his homework done before going to play with the group, and that he come home as soon as the practice was finished.

    Authoritative parents have rules, but they are also flexible based on reasonable requests for exceptions. The authoritative parents are interested in how their children are thinking and feeling. Conversely, authoritarian parents are not likely to be interested in hearing their child’s thoughts and feelings, because they want to control the will of their child, not come to some middle ground.

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    Here are some characteristics of authoritarian parenting:

    • They have strict rules that are unyielding and unwavering. This is often called “heavy handed parenting.”
    • They do not want input from the child about rules. They also feel that the child’s opinion does not matter, because they are the parent thus are the supreme authority over the child.
    • There are severe punishments when rules are broken.
    • There is an emotional disconnection between parent and child, because the parent is not interested in what the child thinks or feels. They are more interested in controlling the behavior of the child and having the child be compliant to their rules.
    • Children are expected to listen to their parents and follow the rules, there are no exceptions. A child that voices their objections will likely be punished for doing so.
    • The parents have high expectations, especially when it comes to compliance of their rules.
    • Parents expect that their child will be obedient and they do not need to explain the “why” of their rules and expectations. Compliance is expected out of sheer obedience, not because the child understands the reasons why the rules are set. Parents do not feel the need to explain why they set their rules.
    • There is a failure to have attached relationships between parent and child because of the overly dominant nature of authoritarian parents and their unwillingness to allow their children to have their own voice or free will.

    Authoritarian parents are driven by a belief that they need to control their children. This means controlling their children’s behavior to an extreme. They are inflexible and don’t take into account the child’s desires, emotions, or well-being as being as important to enforcing rules to get the desired outcome. Authoritative parents on the other hand, seek to guide and direct their children instead of control. There is a distinction.

    The Problems of Authoritarian Parenting

    Authoritarian parenting has many negative consequences to children. Children who are raised in homes with extreme authoritarian parenting are more likely to become dependent on drugs and alcohol, have lower academic performance, and increased mental health issues according to Parenting for Brain.[3] Children who are raised with authoritarian parents are also more likely to have lower self esteem, inability to make decisive choices, and have social skills that are lacking.

    When a child is raised to be taught day in and day out that their voice does not matter, then that child will likely be ingrained with that belief. They will not value their own opinions because they have been taught that what they think does not matter and is of no value. This leads to poor self-esteem and low self-worth.

    If a child doesn’t believe that their thoughts matter, then what they think about themselves overall is going to be affected. They will not think highly of themselves or believe that what they think, say, or do is of value. This will contribute to low self-esteem long term.

    Social skills will suffer because a child who comes from an authoritarian home will be trained to believe that nobody wants to hear their opinion and that relationships are based on compliance.

    For example, Judy is raised in an authoritarian home. She is now 18 years old and has her first boyfriend. Anytime that he asks something of her, even if she internally disagrees, she feels that she is supposed to comply and do what he says in order for him to like her and continue wanting to be with her.

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    He wants to have sex. She does not feel that she is ready, but she will not voice this to her boyfriend because she doesn’t think that her opinion will matter or that he will want to listen to what she is feeling. She goes along with sex in their relationship to be compliant. She doesn’t want to be punished by disagreeing with not having sex. He says that they are ready for that next step in the relationship and she fears that the consequence of saying no would be that he ends the relationship.

    Therefore, she doesn’t even voice her thoughts or feelings on the situation because she doesn’t think they have value or will be heard anyway.

    She has been taught by her parents that her opinions and feelings don’t matter. She has learned from the past 18 years with her parents that what matters most is that she is compliant. She gets along with her parents best when she is doing exactly what they want her to do. This is why she feels the need to do the same with her boyfriend.

    Going along with his decisions, being compliant, and not voicing her feelings will keep the relationship going and avoid conflict or punishment. The ultimate punishment in her mind would be that he ends the relationship.

    With her opinions never being valued by those who she has loved the most (her parents), she has learned that she should not voice her opinion if she wants to keep the other person in the relationship happy. In her mind, because of how she has been raised, compliance overrides all else, and her opinion is meaningless.

    However, her boyfriend is not her parents. He is understanding and would want to know how she feels. He wants a long term relationship with her and he loves her so much. His true desire is for her to be happy. He would never want her to have sex if she wasn’t feeling the same way that he was feeling. He would gladly wait and would want to hear what she thinks and feels about taking their relationship to the next level.

    Authoritarian parenting methods can inflict great harm on a child. The child becomes emotionally damaged because they grow up believing that their opinions, thoughts, and feelings do not matter. Instead they are taught that compliance and being obedient supersedes all else.

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    The Solution

    The solution is to move from authoritarian parenting methods to authoritative parenting practices.

    Authoritative parenting has been deemed as the best parenting method by researchers, according to Psychology Today. Parents who use authoritative parenting methods have rules for their children, but they are not looking for blind compliance. They recognize that having a relationship with their child is of great importance and therefore valuing the child’s voice, opinions, and thoughts is important.

    Authoritative parents seek to guide and direct their children, but they do not seek to control the will of their child.

    Parenting Coach Plan explains the foundation of authoritative parenting as the following:[4]

    Authoritative parenting can be described as a style of parenting that combines firm limits and clear boundaries with fair and consistent discipline. Authoritative parents are also nurturing, highly-involved, and willing to speak openly with their child regarding expectations and the consequences for failing to meet those expectations. Rules are enforced and fair consequences are put in place for when those rules are broken.

    Children raised in authoritative homes follow the rules because they understand the “why” of the rules. They are also bonded to their parents because they are able to talk to their parents openly. This bond helps nurture a positive home environment and a two-way relationship that can last a lifetime.

    To learn more about how to be an authoritative parent and how to discipline a child using this parenting method, check out my article:

    How to Discipline a Child (The Complete Guide for Different Ages)

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