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He Jumps Off The Golden Gate Bridge Because He Finds The World So Cold

He Jumps Off The Golden Gate Bridge Because He Finds The World So Cold

Ending it all is tempting. I understand, but it’s wrong. Before you get too caught up with your negative thoughts, I suggest you take a breath, clear your head, and read this. You’ll be encouraged by this story of a man who thought this world is so cold so he jumped from the Golden Gate Bridge, but the moment he realized what he just did, he had instant regret. Here, he narrates his journey to recovery which can make you think that if he can, so can you.

The favorite place to commit suicide from.

Golden Gate Bridge

    The Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco is one of the most-frequently used spots in the world to commit suicide from. Since it’s opening in 1937, two thousand people have died jumping from this bridge.

    hopeless

      The man in the video thought there was no hope for him so he started thinking of killing himself. It came to a point when his suffering became too much to bear. He could not take it anymore, he wants to escape this terrible existence, so he thought there was only one option left for him.

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      The suicide note.

      Suicide note

        When you are desperate, evil thoughts flood your brain. No matter how hard you try to think of positive thoughts, you end up feeling hopeless, helpless. There’s nothing you can do to alleviate your situation. Nobody can help you and nobody cares. At least, these are the thoughts of this man. The sad part is he thinks this is the truth.

        The suicide scene.

        Rails

          Because he could not take his suffering anymore, he decided to end it all. He closed his eyes, and jumped from the rails of the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco.

          The story behind.

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          The man

            Let’s dig a little deeper to find out his story. This way, we can seek understanding why he attempted to end his own life. This man was born premature and bounced from house to house ’cause nobody wanted him to stay; he was sick all the time, that’s why. Fortunately, someone got him and he had a wonderful childhood. Everything went well through out his childhood and early adolescence. But… at seventeen, all went crushing down.

            What happened?

            Deadly thoughts

              He started having thoughts that everyone is out to get him; to harm him, and to kill him. And he believed these thoughts. His extreme paranoia led him to exhibit symptoms of mania, and then he started having dark hallucinations. Too dark for a sensitive being to take. Ultimately, he thought of killing himself.

              The jump.

              He jumped towards the water of death.

                So… to end it all, he jumped down towards the water of death.

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                The rescue was fast!

                Lifeguard

                  It’s good the lifeguards came quick. They got him before he drowned, took him from the cold water, led him to safety…

                  He got saved.

                  He got saved

                    …And to recovery. He was saved and started anew. He picked up the pieces and decided to move on. To accomplish this, he enlisted the help of a support group, a caring community to help him through his struggles.

                    His story, his struggles.

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                    uses his story to help others

                      Today, he uses his story to help people like him who are going through the same struggles. He get’s large doses of self affirmation doing this, and it gives him a deep sense of self worth. At last, he finds meaning in living. And he achieves this by helping people suffering due to the same problems and struggles he went through. He knows what they are  going through, he understands their thoughts. He experienced them himself, so they listen to what he had to say.

                      Helping others.

                      helping others

                        Helping others like him gives him reason to live. It gives him the proper perspective he lacked in his early years. Now, he is healed, and it’s because he finds joy, self fulfillment, and meaning in his life helping people by telling his own story.

                        Featured photo credit: I Jumped Off The Golden Gate Bridge/Buzzfeed Video via youtube.com

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                        5 Rules for Overcoming Adversity and Emotional Pain

                        5 Rules for Overcoming Adversity and Emotional Pain

                        “Some people choose to see the ugliness in this world, the disarray. I choose to see the beauty. To believe there is an order to our days. A purpose.” – from the popular show, “Westworld”

                        It’s different for us all. My personal quest for purpose began with five stages of grief and one startling realization that everything’s endlessly fragile. Adversity, as it happens by rule, found me terribly unprepared, so I decided to take my time. Today, I can honestly say that I’ve grown.

                        Ugliness and beauty, good and evil, pain and laughter – everything in the universe consists of two forces that are opposing but complementary. In the face of difficulty, that is the only mantra you need.

                        Here’s how I learned it and why you should too, with five simple rules.

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                        1. Embrace the Complexity

                        Quite insidiously, adversities come in all shapes and sizes. Paralyzing physical disabilities, mind-wracking mental problems, ruthless emotional havocs, all leading to the same painful acknowledgement: all the beauty in the world cannot possibly make up for the ugliness that surrounds us. Shattered to pieces, helpless and bare naked, we sit in our therapy chairs, apologizing for being so negative.

                        Eventually, what it all comes down to is the nature of negative emotion. Our positives overshadow our negatives, thus wrongly teaching us that the road to well-being is paved with nothing but positive feelings and thoughts. How utterly wrong!

                        “If you’re not failing every now and then, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything innovative”, Woody Allen said.

                        It’s a classic “learn from your mistakes” rule, but in this case, it implies growing from negative experiences. Make peace with your negativities and embrace beauty and ugliness alike! Accepting this marvellously complex world just as it is will allow you to find purpose in adversity and meaning in misery.

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                        2. Find Balance, Regain Control

                        Still, accepting adversity is only the first step toward eventual victory. One can endure only so much trauma in life; if we’re not prepared to deal with difficulties in a productive way, even the minor setbacks can get us off track. Our strengths come from learning, and the best way to learn is through a series of trials and errors. Just like phases of grief or stages of drug addiction, adversities suggest a disabling loss of control, so find your way to regain it.

                        Some call it the coping mechanism; for others, it’s a spiritual will. However you choose to name yours, know that not all supporting systems are equally beneficial, though each is effective in its own way. Escapism was mine, but it only helped me retain the illusion of beauty. It wasn’t until I opened up toward the ugliness and accepted the naked truth that I was finally free. Whether you choose to dwell in art, religion and spiritualism, thus feeding your resilience from within or to reach out to others for help, choose wisely.

                        Whatever the means, the second rule is a golden one: find your inner balance and stick to it. Eventually, it will lead you out of the vicious circle.

                        3. Fight with Patience

                        My bargaining turned in depression with a single touch. Fearless and free, my dance instructor timidly put her hands on my shoulders and I realized, for the first time, just how tense, stiff and cloistered I was. And just like that, I started letting go. Adversities have their sneaky ways, but in my experience, becoming aware is what hurts the worst. It took me a year to recover from this little moment of self-discovery, and I know remember it as the edge of the rabbit hole.

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                        Some sufferings are impossible to console; I know that now. The only way to get through is to, well, get through. Depression and despair are only the beginning of the excruciatingly unnerving process that ravages the mind and shrivels the soul, and once they strike, there is no easy way back. So, fight them with patience. When your head starts spinning and your feet lose ground, go to your happy place. Over there, you’ll be reminded that nothing is forever, not even our little existential psychosis.

                        Take a deep breath and say “om”. When things cannot be combated, they have to be endured, so practice patience and learn to let go. Finally, keep repeating to yourself that this too shall pass.

                        4. Keep Swimming

                        Nothing is impossible, in the end. Your negative thoughts will gently pour into your positive ones, just as two streams come together to become a river. In the event of the inevitable disaster, one can only be as calm as still water. Suffering teaches patience, and the latter gives rise to flexibility. Ultimately, what is life than a series of unfortunate events and a handful of bright moments in between? If adversities are impossible to avoid, than learn to glide through as smoothly and patiently as water does with rocks.

                        Even if spirituality isn’t exactly your cup of tea, you have to admit that this is one solid metaphor. Staying adaptable in the face of change will soothe your panic attacks and keep you sane and sober-blooded. Even if you fail, you’ll know exactly how to breathe and face what’s in front of you once it eventually strikes again. Stay calm and visualize a better tomorrow; if anything else, it will give you strength to dive deep and weather the storm. And, in case there’s somebody’s hand to reach out to, grab it firmly and don’t let go.

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                        Being flexible against adversities takes a lot of learning, just as staying brave demands a lot of courage. It’s a long, arduous step-by-step routine, and you can reach the end only by swimming on. Persist, even when you fall.

                        5. Never Stop Searching for Inspiration

                        And, if it’s a guidance you need, where else to seek it than in experiences of others? Find it in art, in people around you, in chance encounters. The pure beauty of perseverance can be discovered where you expect it the least, so never stop searching for inspiration. If self-help literature soothes your pains and clears your mind, don’t let cynics discourage you. Your path toward reconciliation is nobody’s but yours to choose.

                        Ever heard of Nick Vujicic? Or Nando Parado? Inspiring people sound their yawps over the roofs of the world, sometimes voiceless, sometimes limbless, sometimes both. Born without arms, Jessica Cox became the most unusual certified pilot in the world, and you can rarely see her without a smile on her face. If you’ve already ripped all of your bucket lists and said goodbye to your dreams and plans, meet Sean Swarner, who’s officially became the first cancer survivor to climb Mount Everest. The stories just go on.

                        Make your own guidebook! Pen down your positive thoughts, cover your walls with quotes and devise your personal mantras. Whenever things get hard, they’ll be there to remind you of what you need to do. It’s the simplest of all life hacks, and one of the most effective ones.

                        Find beauty in the world, but never stay blind for its ugliness. However daunting, adversities and emotional pain challenge our inner strength, thus making us resilient and allowing us to grow. As soon as you recognize them as the wind in your sails instead of the devastating storm, the purpose will become simple and clear.

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