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He Jumps Off The Golden Gate Bridge Because He Finds The World So Cold

He Jumps Off The Golden Gate Bridge Because He Finds The World So Cold

Ending it all is tempting. I understand, but it’s wrong. Before you get too caught up with your negative thoughts, I suggest you take a breath, clear your head, and read this. You’ll be encouraged by this story of a man who thought this world is so cold so he jumped from the Golden Gate Bridge, but the moment he realized what he just did, he had instant regret. Here, he narrates his journey to recovery which can make you think that if he can, so can you.

The favorite place to commit suicide from.

Golden Gate Bridge

    The Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco is one of the most-frequently used spots in the world to commit suicide from. Since it’s opening in 1937, two thousand people have died jumping from this bridge.

    hopeless

      The man in the video thought there was no hope for him so he started thinking of killing himself. It came to a point when his suffering became too much to bear. He could not take it anymore, he wants to escape this terrible existence, so he thought there was only one option left for him.

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      The suicide note.

      Suicide note

        When you are desperate, evil thoughts flood your brain. No matter how hard you try to think of positive thoughts, you end up feeling hopeless, helpless. There’s nothing you can do to alleviate your situation. Nobody can help you and nobody cares. At least, these are the thoughts of this man. The sad part is he thinks this is the truth.

        The suicide scene.

        Rails

          Because he could not take his suffering anymore, he decided to end it all. He closed his eyes, and jumped from the rails of the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco.

          The story behind.

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          The man

            Let’s dig a little deeper to find out his story. This way, we can seek understanding why he attempted to end his own life. This man was born premature and bounced from house to house ’cause nobody wanted him to stay; he was sick all the time, that’s why. Fortunately, someone got him and he had a wonderful childhood. Everything went well through out his childhood and early adolescence. But… at seventeen, all went crushing down.

            What happened?

            Deadly thoughts

              He started having thoughts that everyone is out to get him; to harm him, and to kill him. And he believed these thoughts. His extreme paranoia led him to exhibit symptoms of mania, and then he started having dark hallucinations. Too dark for a sensitive being to take. Ultimately, he thought of killing himself.

              The jump.

              He jumped towards the water of death.

                So… to end it all, he jumped down towards the water of death.

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                The rescue was fast!

                Lifeguard

                  It’s good the lifeguards came quick. They got him before he drowned, took him from the cold water, led him to safety…

                  He got saved.

                  He got saved

                    …And to recovery. He was saved and started anew. He picked up the pieces and decided to move on. To accomplish this, he enlisted the help of a support group, a caring community to help him through his struggles.

                    His story, his struggles.

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                    uses his story to help others

                      Today, he uses his story to help people like him who are going through the same struggles. He get’s large doses of self affirmation doing this, and it gives him a deep sense of self worth. At last, he finds meaning in living. And he achieves this by helping people suffering due to the same problems and struggles he went through. He knows what they are  going through, he understands their thoughts. He experienced them himself, so they listen to what he had to say.

                      Helping others.

                      helping others

                        Helping others like him gives him reason to live. It gives him the proper perspective he lacked in his early years. Now, he is healed, and it’s because he finds joy, self fulfillment, and meaning in his life helping people by telling his own story.

                        Featured photo credit: I Jumped Off The Golden Gate Bridge/Buzzfeed Video via youtube.com

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                        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                        The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

                        Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

                        Posture

                        First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

                        • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
                        • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
                        • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
                        • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

                        All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

                        Facial Expressions

                        Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

                        • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
                        • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
                        • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

                        If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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                        1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

                        A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

                        The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

                        This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

                        2. Relax Your Face

                        New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

                        The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

                        To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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                        3. Improve Your Eye Contact

                        Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

                        The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

                        To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

                        3. Smile More

                        There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

                        Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

                        4. Hand Gestures

                        Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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                        It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

                        5. Enhance Your Handshake

                        In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

                        “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

                        It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

                        6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

                        As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

                        Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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                        Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

                        Final Takeaways

                        Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

                        If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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