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Heartwarming Illustrations Showing Love Exists In The Smallest Things Of Life

Heartwarming Illustrations Showing Love Exists In The Smallest Things Of Life

Affected by movies and social media, many of us fantasize that romance is about extravagant enjoyments and splendid expressions. In view of this trend, the talented artist Philippa Rice creates some simple but beautiful comics to remind us that love exists in every corner of our life. Instead of trying very hard to find love, what we should do is to feel the smallest things that we do with our loved ones. Here are the things that you may be familiar with in your relationship:

Sometimes, love means doing small things together like brewing coffee in the morning.

1. kitchen

    Staying next to each other without doing anything special is satisfactory to you.

    2. room

      Sleeping together and hugging each other give you the greatest sense of comfort.

      3. sleep

        You feel carefree and are not afraid of showing your true side to your loved one.

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        4. toothbrush

          Even doing household tasks like food shopping is no longer boring to you.

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            Hugging each other has become your favourite habit.

            6. hugging

              Love gives you the inspiration to come up with creative ideas to kill time.

              7. dinner

                When you feel blue, someone will always give you support.

                8. rain

                  You’ll easily feel excited about the smallest things in life.

                  9. letter

                    The best entertainment for you is reading on bed after a tiring day.

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                    10. reading

                      Building furniture is no longer a chore for you because you know it’s a process of building your home.

                      11. furniture

                        You may ask some silly questions and making unreasonable requests but you know your loved one won’t mind you doing so.

                        12. question

                          You feel blessed that you can cook and enjoy meals together every night.

                          13. cooking

                            Your loved one’s problems have become yours as well.

                            14. trouble

                              Love is also about sharing what you experience throughout the day before you go to bed.

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                                And this is what will definitely happen when you sit on the sofa:

                                16. cuddling

                                  You are never tired of looking into each other’s eyes because you can always find the most beautiful universe there.

                                  17. cafe

                                    In winter, no matter how strong the wind is, your hearts stay warm because you hold each other’s hand tight.

                                    18. wind

                                      Love makes you humble. You know when you need to say sorry.

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                                        You love curling up like a cat on your loved one’s lap.

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                                        20. lap

                                          Love gives you the courage to explore new things.

                                          21. park

                                            You love each other. But you still have some little arguments.

                                            22. compromise

                                              But that’s not a big deal because you forgive each other very soon after the arguments.

                                              23. window

                                                The most important thing is you do not forget to seize the moment.

                                                24. sunset

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                                                  Published on May 4, 2021

                                                  How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                  How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                  They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                                                  In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                                                  How to Spot Fake People?

                                                  When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                                                  Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                                                  1. Full of Themselves

                                                  Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                                                  Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                                                  2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                                                  Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                                                  It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                                                  3. Zero Self-Reflection

                                                  To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                                                  Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                                                  4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                                                  Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                                                  A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                                                  5. Love Attention

                                                  As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                                                  6. People Pleaser

                                                  Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                                                  Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                                                  7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                                                  Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                                                  8. Crappy friend

                                                  Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                                                  It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                                                  The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                                                  How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                                                  It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                                                  There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                                                  1. Boundaries

                                                  Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                                                  2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                                                  Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                                                  3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                                                  If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                                                  4. Ask for Advice

                                                  If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                                                  Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                                                  5. Dig Deeper

                                                  Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                                                  Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                                                  6. Practice Self-Care!

                                                  Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                                                  Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                                                  Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                                                  Final Thoughts

                                                  Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                                                  We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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