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12 Ways How Distance Can Strengthen Your Friendship.

12 Ways How Distance Can Strengthen Your Friendship.

How do you define friendship? A true friend is never apart. He is there with you all the time, and physical distance doesn’t mean anything if there is more to gain in the friendship. In an age where technology can ease communication, there really are no boundaries or limitations to a true friendship.

I have friends who are far away from me, but I do not let these barriers mean anything. Actually I have discovered new meanings and depths in the relationship since we are miles apart. Here is why distance only makes you physically apart but mentally closer with your friend.

“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” ― Unknown

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1. You are committed to the friendship even when you don’t see them

Yes, you may have new friends, cover new territories but deep within you are committed to your friend who is more than a mile away. You think about them every now and then. When push comes to shove you still dial that one person’s number and tell them what is bothering you. They are your sidekick and you are their pillar because they always have your back just as you have theirs.

2. You are willing to make the effort even when they seem far away

You want to put the effort to let them aware that you are not so far away. You can talk, text, and update each other on what is happening in your lives.

3. You have so much to share even you have different experiences

Yes, you have different experiences but somewhere there is still that similarity that puts you in touch with sharing your experiences. When you get back in the same city as your friend, you talk effortlessly and never run out of things to say to each other — even if you are currently going through different experiences.

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4. You have great memories even when you do not see each other

Your true friends are like the stars, even when they are not physically close, they have a special place in your heart. You have great memories of the times you spent with them and this is eternal.

5. You will always make a way even when there seems to be noway

Yes, if you do care about someone you will always find a way to break boundaries and sail through borders, because this doesn’t mean anything.

6. You appreciate them better when you see them again

You find them more interesting and can relate with your true friends on a whole new level when you meet them again after a period of separation. Cherish the time you spend if your friends whenever you see them again.

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7. You always have something to talk about

You don’t need to talk everyday but whenever you can talk, there is something to talk about – the past, the present and the future.

8. You have a more purposeful friendship now

Your friendship is more purpose driven when you are physically apart. You know that you do not have much time together so you can discuss subjects that are important and purposeful.

9. You have someone who will always make you feel special when you are down

No one knows you like your true friend. They know what entertains you and what would placate you even in challenging times. It is nice to have someone to call whenever you need to hear just the right thing to get through the day.

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10. You have someone who believes in you even when others don’t

Your friend knows that your being far away is for the right reason. They do not apportion blames or make you feel guilty for being far away. Rather they will find ways to always reach out to you.

11. You know what to say when you see them again

You miss them, you value them, you appreciate them, and being physically apart gives you enough time to reflect on the essence of your friendship with that one true friend.

12. You know they will always be waiting for you

It is to be expected that new, other things will take over your thoughts and time. There will be things that will replace the activities that you once did together. But you are not worried, you are not anxious, you are courageous about what you have established together. And you know that when you see your friend again, every good thing that you have together will be waiting for you.

Featured photo credit: Friends/ Vicky Lazovich via flickr.com

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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