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Pregnancy At Week 10

Pregnancy At Week 10

Weighing in at less than a quarter of an ounce and marginally over an inch in height, the precious life in your womb is now ten weeks old. Congratulations!

Your pregnancy week 10 progress

You have just entered what is commonly referred to as the fetal period. Your baby is now swallowing fluid and becoming active with a noticeable amount of kicking. Tissues and organs in your baby’s body are going to begin developing at an accelerated rate. Kidneys, intestines, brain, and liver are now producing red blood cells, replacing the disappearing yolk sac, and are functioning although they still have a lot of growing to do throughout your pregnancy.

Tiny nails and defined fingers and toes are emerging where there was once webbing in between each digit. Also, soft hair like that of a peach is growing on your baby’s body at this point.

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Here are a few other development facts:

  • Limbs can now bend.
  • The contour of the spine is visible through translucent skin.
  • Spinal nerves are spreading away from the spinal cord.
  • The forehead is in a temporary state of bulging facilitating the forming brain, which sits high on his head measuring half his body’s length.
  • Within only a few more weeks your baby’s measurements will more than double.

10 week baby

    Your changes to anticipate

    Now that you have reached pregnancy week 10, at your next doctor visit you will likely be able to hear your baby’s heartbeat for the first time. Using a Doppler stethoscope (an ultrasound device), your doctor will place the device on your belly and make audible the rapid beating of your baby’s heart. Similar to the sound of a horse galloping, this special moment, is the first out-of-body moment you will share with your baby.

    You will want to consider maternity wear near this point. Your uterus was the size of a small pear before you became pregnant and it is now the size of a grapefruit. Among slight weight gain, bloating, and tender breasts, maternity wear options are a case-by-case situation and what is most important is for you to be happy and comfortable, which will mean your baby is happy and comfortable.

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    Exercise at this point is not very restrictive but it is a good idea to ask your doctor about the right physical activities to participate in. Swimming and walking are most recommended throughout the pregnancy and these are the benefits you will receive for staying active. Exercise sharpens muscle tone, builds strength, and boosts endurance. These three positive attributes will contribute to dealing with having to carry the extra weight you gain, they will reduce the physical stress of labor, and they will ease the transition of getting back to the exercise routines you practiced prior to becoming pregnant.

    Your pregnancy week 10 tips

    Something to consider at this point is the possibility of infections throughout your pregnancy. Urinary tract infections are the most frequently recorded bacterial infections in pregnant women. Higher than usual levels of progesterone work against your body’s hormone balance by relaxing your urinary tract. This results in slow urine flow and allows bacteria more time to grow.

    Intestinal bacteria moving from your rectum to your urethra travel up to your urinary tract and continue to grow. This can lead to a bladder infection called cystisis. Symptoms of this condition include discomfort, a burning sensation when urinating, the need to urinate more often, and lower abdominal pain.

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    Inform your doctor if you are experiencing any of these symptoms. Not treating cystisis may lead to a kidney infection and other complications, which could potentially lead to preterm labor. Antibiotics will likely be prescribed and will begin relieving your symptoms within mere days. It is important to complete all of the prescribed antibiotics even if symptoms disappear before completion.

    There is also a urinary tract condition called asymptomatic bacteriuria. This infection exhibits no symptoms in 50% of pregnant women. You are tested for this condition at your first doctor’s visit via a urine sample and it is also treated with antibiotics.

    Two more conditions to be aware of are bacterial vaginosis and common yeast infections.

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    The genital tract infection bacterial vaginosis may also be symptom free. If you do have symptoms they will include a thin and light colored discharge with a foul smell and possible irritation near your vagina and vulva. This condition may also lead to preterm labor or even preterm rupture of the amniotic membranes surrounding your baby.

    Yeast infections are common in pregnant women and are actually more likely to occur in pregnant women. Microscopic fungi in the Candida family are found in nearly one third of all women and increased estrogen levels attributed to pregnancy increase the fungal growth and yeast, which overwhelms competing microorganisms and leads to the infection. A yeast infection will not harm your developing baby and nor will it pose a serious threat on your baby if the infection is present during labor. Passing through the birth canal, your baby will likely contract a common infection referred to as thrush, which is identified by white patches in your baby’s mouth. This is a common, mild, and easily treated infection.

    Featured photo credit: 9 weeks pregnant via americanpregnancy.org

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    Published on August 22, 2019

    How to Be a Good Parent and Raise Successful Kids

    How to Be a Good Parent and Raise Successful Kids

    My family is a work in progress. My husband and I am trying our best to be good parents so that we can have successful kids and more importantly, successful adults. We have five-year-old twin boys and a seven-year-old girl. Success to us does not mean great wealth or fame. Our ideals don’t point us toward parenting our kids to become rich and famous. We define success according to our family’s ideals, which include loving others, having good moral character (this is based on our faith), finding passion and purpose for life, and contributing to society in a meaningful way. These are our personal ideals.

    Your ideals and definition of success may be different. Every family is different, as are their values. It is important to recognize your own family ideals in order to have direction and purpose for your family. I wrote about this topic on my blog,[1] and you can read it if you are interested in creating purpose and a mission for your family, based on your ideals.

    With my own kids being so young, I can’t speak from personal experience on how to raise kids to be successful. We are still in the process of raising our kids and are doing what we think is best to raise our kids to become successful adults. I am hoping and praying that someday, I can speak from experience, when they are grown and leading successful lives as adults. We aren’t there yet.

    However, I can look at parents who have raised their children to be successful. There are families that I know personally, along with research articles I have read about raising successful children, from which I have learned valuable tips. I will share what I have learned below on how to be a good parent and raise children to become successful adults.

    1. Inattentiveness

    There is an incredible study that recently released its results following 30 years of research. This study was reported in the Journal of American Medical Association Psychiatry.[2] They followed over 2,500 six-year-old children for 30 years to assess the ability to succeed in life. Their findings reported that the adults who were less successful had inattention at a young age.

    Inattention was defined in this study by a variety of variables including poor sharing skills, lack of focus, blaming others, aggressiveness, and high levels of anxiousness. This means that we, as parents need to look at how we can effectively parent to reduce inattentive behaviors. Teaching our children to share, how to focus, and handling issues of aggression and anxiousness are imperative to helping our children become successful adults.

    For example, if you attend a parent teacher conference and you are told that your child exhibits high levels of anxiousness, you don’t just brush if off as one opinion or hope that your child will grow out of it. Instead, you look for a counselor or therapist to get your child some help. Perhaps the anxiousness isn’t severe and stems from the difficulties your daughter is having in making friends at school. The therapist helps your daughter work through her feelings and teaches her some valuable skills on how to make friends.

    Dealing with the anxiousness and aggression are important aspects of helping children become successful. If your child exhibits these behaviors, then get them the help that they need, for the sake of their success in the future.

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    2. Be There for Your Kids

    One tip for raising successful kids is to be there for your children. Children want their parents. They would rather have time and attention from their parents than toys and things.

    We need to ensure that our personal life and work life are balanced, so that our children get the time that they need from us. If we are working 90 hours a week at the office, it is going to be difficult to be there for our kids. They want us to be there for their activities and for their everyday too, including helping with homework and eating meals together on a regular basis.

    A study by Raby et al (2014) found that children who had sensitive maternal caregiving early in childhood were more likely to be successful mentally (having higher educational levels) and were more socially competent as adults.[3] This shows that it is crucial for children to have loving and sensitive interactions with their parents when they are young. It affects the child’s development and how they turn out as adults. Young children who are provided with sensitive care, love, and attentions are more likely to be successful as adults.

    I have been a stay-at home mom and writer for the past eight years. As a Doctor of Psychology, I know how important parental involvement is during early childhood. I recognize that having one parent stay at home is not an option, or best option, for all families. However, it was for our family. My kids are used to having me at their activities. Recently, I missed a camp performance for my daughter. I was packing our family for our annual National Parks Road Trip that we were leaving on in two days. My daughter had dance camp leading up to our vacation. At the conclusion of that camp, the participants put on a performance. I missed the performance. It was an oversight on my part, due to busyness in packing for our trip and taking care of the twins that day.

    I can’t recall ever missing an important event like this for my daughter, ever. When I arrived to pick her up, she was in tears. She was upset that I missed her performance. I apologized and we talked about it. It was eye opening to me. She often acts like she doesn’t care whether I am there to volunteer in her classroom, go on her field trips, or attend her school function. Missing this one event showed me how much she cares. She was extremely broken-up that I was not there for her. It was a good lesson for her as well. Perhaps she will show her appreciation for me being there at her events in the future. We discussed this as well, since it was a good opportunity during that moment of revelation of her true feelings.

    All kids want their parents at their special events and moments in their lives. They want their parents to be there for them, to be their ultimate cheerleader. Life is difficult. We all need people and a support system. Parents should be the natural first line of support in the lives of their children. It is not always possible because of life circumstances such as death, illness, or other sad situations. However, if you are alive and able to be there to raise your children and be there for them on a day to day basis, then you should make every effort to make that possible.

    Your children need you. They are only little once. Your ability to influence how they develop emotionally, socially, and mentally has a window of opportunity. It is while they are young. Be there for your children, so you can make a positive impact on their development, especially in the first years of their lives, as research by Raby et al. (2014) showed us that the first few years of life a parent’s presence and type of care affects their success in adulthood.

    3. Praise Effort Over Achievement

    Having grit is a better predictor of success than IQ, according to Harvard researcher Angela Duckworth, who wrote the best-seller Grit. One of the best ways to help children develop grit is to praise their efforts and not their achievements. If you praise their efforts, then when they fail, they can still identify the good in the situation and not feel like a complete failure.

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    Children need to be praised. They develop their self-worth and confidence when they can achieve success, even in small things in life such as learning to tie their shoes or learning to ride a bike. They can pick themselves back up from failure as they are learning these activities when they have someone encouraging them along the way and praising their efforts.

    If a parent is putting them down and telling them they are such a failure and loser every time they fall off their bike, then they are going to feel defeated and feel like the loser you are telling them that they are.

    Your words to your children are powerful. A child’s value in life will initially develop based on what their parents have told them about their value. I have worked with individuals who have had to overcome emotional and physical abuse in childhood. They were repeatedly told that they were of no value. They grew up believing this lie, because it was told to them by one or both of their parents. It took therapy, time, and effort for these individuals to overcome the defeating messages that their parents imprinted on them as children.

    If you tell your child that he or she is dumb repeatedly, eventually they will believe you and take it to heart. Some kids take it to heart and believe it the first time it is said to them. Words can damage just as much, if not more, than physical abuse.

    Be careful in the words you speak to your children. Children do need correction and guidance, but it doesn’t have to inflict damage to who they are as a person. They should never be told they are dumb, worthless, meaningless, or lazy. They will take these messages to heart. Correction should never involve name calling.

    Children need positive words so that they can believe in themselves enough to try. Children who have been encouraged correctly, with praise being provided for their efforts, are more likely to develop grit. Grit is a great predictor of success. You can help your child develop grit by praising their efforts and avoiding negative messages such as name calling and belittling.

    4. Teach Them to Work Hard at Home

    Successful people are typically hard-working people. People know how to keep going even when they want to give up, and when they have a good work-ethic. Teaching kids to work hard begins at home. This means assigning chores.

    Children need to develop a good work ethic and learn to be a part of the team (team family) in order to be successful as adults. Doing chores is not only about lifting the workload for parents and caregivers. It is also about teaching children responsibility and that they have a role in the family chores and workload.

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    Research discussed in the Wall Street Journal[4] showed that children are more successful as adults when they have grown up being assigned chores on a regular basis. However, their research also showed that fewer and fewer parents are assigning regular chores to their children. Children need to be assigned chores. There are many benefits to chores being assigned such as:

    • Children learn that things don’t come free. They must earn an allowance from doing work or chores to earn things that they want.
    • Children learn that they are part of a team and that parents aren’t solely responsible for maintaining a household and doing all the work. Children play a role in being a part of the running of a household and this means doing chores daily.
    • Children learn that they are held accountable for the job that they do. If they don’t complete their chores, then there are consequences. If they complete their chores, there is a reward (maybe it is having a roof over their head, food to eat, and a home that is maintained); for other families, it may be an allowance provided for completed chores.
    • Children learn to work hard by doing chores. Not doing their chores has consequences. Those consequences should be big enough (such as removing technology or favorite toys) that they are strong motivators for completing chores, as required. They learn to work hard and complete the chores, even when they would rather be playing or doing something else more fun.
    • Children learn to respect their home. When children have to take care of the home, they become more conscious of the condition of the home. For example, a child that is required to clean the bathroom and then has a sibling come in and use the shower only to leave towels and bath products all over the floor is going to become upset that their sibling ruined their hard work. They will become better at taking care of the home and their belongings, if they have an active role and involvement in maintaining a home.

    Extracurricular activities and homework are important. However, teaching children to work hard through chores is just as important, as shown in this Wall Street Journal article. Don’t allow your children to get so busy that they can’t participate in household chores. Chores will help them in their development and ability to be successful as adults.

    5. Teach Them to Have Good Character

    For many families the teaching of character development is rooted in their faith and religious practices. This is true for our family but, going to church is not enough. We must consciously work to teach our children to be loving individuals. Teaching them qualities of good character is an ongoing daily process. The first step is identifying which character traits are most important.

    An article in TIME, written by EstherWojcicki, who has raised two CEO’s and a doctor, outlines specific traits to develop in children to make them successful adults.[5] She identifies these traits that lead to success as trust, respect, independence, collaboration, and kindness. These are all character traits that as parents, we have the ability to instill in our children.

    It doesn’t mean it is an easy task, but it is about parenting in a way that the development of these specific traits is emphasized. For example, trust should be taught at home and instilled at a young age. When your child lies about stealing cookies from the cookie jar, there are consequences. They may lose their tablet for the next three days. They get this consequence, not only because they took the cookies without asking, but more so because they lied, and this is a trust issue (and you emphasize this when dealing with the infraction).

    Teaching these traits is a daily practice. It involves consciously making an effort to work on the development of these traits among your entire household. It starts with you, the parent, first and foremost, as you are the example.

    6. Be an Example

    Being an example of success is one of the best ways to model to your children how they can become successful. The primary role model for children is usually their parents, as it should be, if possible. Parents are role models for their children whether they want to be or not. Therefore, if we want our children to become successful, then we need to model the behaviors above that are linked to success.

    Trust, respect, independence, collaboration, and kindness are behaviors we should model to children in our actions. Our children copy what we do. If they see that we cheat at a board game, then they learn that cheating is okay. If they watch us treat strangers with rudeness and hostility, they will that it is okay for them to treat others this way too. We are an example to our children in all that we do. Being a positive model of good character, working hard, and exhibiting grittiness, all help our children learn from our example and they will be more likely to succeed as adults.

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    The Center for Parenting Education examines the topic of parents as role model and states the following:[6]

    “Social scientists have shown that much of learning that occurs during childhood is acquired through observation and imitation. For most children, the most important role models are their parents and caregivers, who have a regular presence in their lives. As a parent, it is impossible to not model. Your children will see your example – positive or negative – as a pattern for the way life is to be lived.”

    If we want our children to be successful, we need to model success to them. Not only in the outcome, but the process. This means exhibiting personal qualities and character traits that align with success so that they can learn these behaviors from watching you, their parent, their most important role model.

    Final Thoughts

    Successful adults don’t just happen. They are developed. Children who are molded and shaped during their childhood for success are more likely to achieve success.

    Parents have the opportunity to influence their child’s ability to succeed in adulthood. It is helping their children develop the qualities and traits associated with success that will essentially lead to children becoming successful as adults. These qualities to instill in our children to develop them into successful adults include hard-work, grit, trust, respect, independence, collaboration, and kindness.

    Being in our children’s lives to teach them these traits is imperative. If we aren’t around enough to teach them, they cannot learn from us. They will learn, not only by what we teach to them, but they will also learn by our example. It is important that we model these qualities associated with success consistently in our own lives. Our children are watching our example.

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