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Important Things That Happy Couples Do Together Before Marriage

Important Things That Happy Couples Do Together Before Marriage

There are certain important things that help the direction of our marriages. Such actions done before marriage help channel our energies in the right direction. Happy couples know this. They made sure to take care of this before they even got married.

1. They have a financial plan

While many may get scared or anxious about discussing finances with their partners, it is important to find some rhythm and know where you both stand when it comes to money. Having a direction as to where and how your finances go builds a solid foundation for your marriage.

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2. They go for a road trip together

While any form of traveling is advised, happy couples tend to be more specific on the kind of travel they undertake together. Being able to “let go” and see where the wind takes you during a road trip together prepares you for the adventure that will come with marriage.

3. They build a great circle of friends

It all comes down to who you should be hanging around with when you become married. Having a great circle of friends adds to the vitality and support your marriage will need during the challenges you’ll face over the years. You should not underestimate the value or power a great circle of friends will add to the success of your marriage.

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4. They discuss their expectations of marriage

Marriage is not a getaway card for boredom, loneliness, or unhappiness. Marriage is about complimenting each other and being there for the other person. Happy couples can relate with this and find ways to set their goals and expectations of what they want and expect from the other person. Yes, every expectation should be realistic.

5. They spend time with each other’s families

When you get married, you aren’t just marrying a partner, you will be marrying another household. Most times, the families of your partner would be in their lives. By getting to know the family of your partner you will be able to discern and understand your partner better since a family has a way of influencing its members.

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6. They know what they can take and cannot take

Yes, marriage is about compromise. However, we are all different when it comes to the things we can tolerate and things we cannot tolerate. Happy couples know this and they do well to know what their boundaries are when it comes to the things they can tolerate in a marriage and the things they just won’t accept.

7. They deal with managing a crisis together

Being in love and the excitement of wanting to be in each other’s company can distort one’s judgment. Just as the interesting feeling of being with the one you care about, you can also have some chaotic feeling on certain matters with them. Dealing and handling a crisis or dispute prepares you for a happy marriage.

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8. They share important secrets

Secrets have a way of breaking strong bonds. Happy couples are honest with each other about everything. Preparing for marriage gives them the opportunity to share their past and also make the other person aware of their worst selves.

9. They spend time together

Before marriage, happy couples spend so much time together trying to understand each other better. Being close to your partner gives you the opportunity to share your feelings, communicate, and perceive what they are all about.

10. They set clear goals

Marriage is not all about splendor, but also about desires. What do you want from your marriage? Happy couples learn to set clear goals and do well to pursue them in the course of their marriage. Before marriage is always the best time to know where you are headed. Goals like buying a home, bearing kids, or paying off student loans can be ideal in helping you plan and direct your energy in the right direction.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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