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8 Old-fashioned Dating Ideas To Strengthen Your Relationship

8 Old-fashioned Dating Ideas To Strengthen Your Relationship

Do you ever feel like you are dating in the wrong era?

Technology now gives us new ways of dating and expressing love, from swiping right on Tinder to sharing a few emoji-filled texts with your crush.

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For some people though, modern dating cannot be compared to old-fashioned dating. Old-fashioned dating seems more romantic and sweet without mobile phones and laptops.

A small amount of effort goes a long way to improve a date – check out 8 old-fashioned dating ideas that should be revived.

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1. Not using your mobile on a date

Technology rules our lives – and our relationships. Many people feel like their partners spend too much time checking their texts, Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram when they are together, and nothing ruins a date faster than feeling ignored. Putting the phones away gives you a chance to actually have an awesome, meaningful face-to-face conversation.

2. Picking your partner up before going on a date

None of this meeting at the location – let’s face it, no-one enjoys a lonely bus or car ride alone to their date. You may feel nervous, with butterflies in your stomach, and you may even worry about being stood up. With old-fashioned dating it was customary for the man to pick up his date – and even walk up to her door! This means you get to travel to the date together, and by the time you get there the nerves will be gone and you will both be having fun.

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3. Taking your partner home after a date

Many people today either go home together, or they go home separately. But the date isn’t just a line-up to sex; you could have met someone wonderful who you would love to hang out with again. With old-fashioned dating, it was customary for the man to make sure the woman got home safely. Although women don’t need a man to make sure they are safe, the gesture was very sweet and it gave the couple a chance to talk some more – and maybe even have a romantic kiss in the doorway.

4. Not following the ‘rules’ of dating

Modern dating is filled with strange rules about when you should call someone after a date, and even when you should sleep with them. With old-fashioned dating, if you liked someone you would simply let them know how much you like them. Why waste time when you’ve met someone you really like? Upfront and honest is always the best method when it comes to love and dating.

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5. Buying each other flowers

There is nothing better than a romantic gesture to show your date that you’ve been thinking about them. Flowers are a classic gift from old-fashioned dating, and they are the perfect way to show someone you like them without spending a crazy amount of money. They also smell wonderful and look beautiful!

6. Dancing together

Most modern dating destinations mean you have the option to dance, but very few couples do, which is a huge shame. Dancing was an important part old-fashioned dating and it is so much fun. Don’t worry about not having the best moves – dancing with a date is all about making each other laugh while getting intimate!

7. Taking it slow

Most people know a couple who said “I love you” after two weeks of dating – what is that?! Many people seem to confuse love and lust with each other, resulting in difficult break-ups after expecting too much from each other. Love was slower with old-fashioned dating, so when you fell in love you knew the feeling was real.

8. Introducing your date to people

Many people nowadays don’t want to talk about who they are dating until it is ‘serious’. They can go on many different dates without their family or friends knowing who the date is. With old-fashioned dating, people were proud of their date, and they happily spoke about them to their loved ones. Let’s face it; it is a little rude if you don’t, and it can leave your date feeling awkward.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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